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The 6 Essential Ingredients of Loving Relationships | Sara Nasserzadeh | TED

How do you build a lifetime of love? After analyzing 450 couples across more than 40 countries, relational psychotherapist Sara Nasserzadeh discovered six essential ingredients for successful relationships (hint: it’s not just about sexual chemistry). Learn more about “emergent love” — a new, evidence-based model for fostering the love you desire. (Recorded at TEDNext 2025…

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How do you build a lifetime of love? After analyzing 450 couples across more than 40 countries, relational psychotherapist Sara Nasserzadeh discovered six essential ingredients for successful relationships (hint: it’s not just about sexual chemistry). Learn more about “emergent love” — a new, evidence-based model for fostering the love you desire. (Recorded at TEDNext 2025 on November 10, 2025)

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19 Comments

  1. @Xaeksy

    March 16, 2026 at 11:02 am

    Should be taught in school

  2. @dushyantvermaa

    March 16, 2026 at 11:54 am

    💕

  3. @hooliganclous

    March 16, 2026 at 12:03 pm

    i love this so much !!!!!

  4. @НюраФилин

    March 16, 2026 at 12:04 pm

    A summary of the video. Thank you!
    1. Attraction
    2. RESPECT!!!😊
    3. Trust
    4. Compassion
    5. Sharing the vision !!!😊
    6. The loving behaviors

    • @marlunesjueves

      March 16, 2026 at 8:12 pm

      i literally just looked through the comment section to find this comment 😂😂

    • @mickeybunts

      March 16, 2026 at 10:48 pm

      I can almost never make it to 3 😢

    • @평화와번영

      March 18, 2026 at 5:37 am

      Thank you very much for your summary. 🙂

    • @평화와번영

      March 18, 2026 at 5:40 am

      Спасибо за ваше резюме!

  5. @hooliganclous

    March 16, 2026 at 12:05 pm

    “If empathy is feeling for the other, compassion is feeling for the other without losing your ground”
    i never thought about it that way and it makes so much sense omg

  6. @villagedodendechales

    March 16, 2026 at 12:44 pm

    Gosh!! A lot of job to do!! What about to stay alone??? 😊💐

  7. @HakuCell

    March 16, 2026 at 1:37 pm

    not a bad talk but why does love have to be “exclusive” or monogamous? why can’t love be socially expansive?

    • @zza9215

      March 16, 2026 at 2:14 pm

      Go ahead and do it if that’s your vibe lil bro

  8. @TheShellyHansenShow

    March 16, 2026 at 3:13 pm

    This was such a thoughtful breakdown of what actually sustains long-term love. What stood out to me is the emphasis on consistency and small promises kept over time, because trust is rarely built in big moments, it’s built quietly in everyday behavior. The idea of compassion instead of over-identifying is powerful too, since relationships need steadiness, not two people drowning in the same emotion. Real love often looks less like intensity and more like reliability.

  9. @avataros111

    March 16, 2026 at 9:00 pm

    STOP WATCHING TED, DO NOTHING INSTEAD. BYE!

  10. @WisdomBeacon

    March 17, 2026 at 3:18 am

    Deeply insightful! These six ingredients are essential for every couple.

  11. @calmxi

    March 17, 2026 at 5:46 am

    Good blueprint ❤
    Be lucky in Love 🥰

  12. @beonlife3283

    March 17, 2026 at 6:04 am

    I was missing the ingredient of “chance” (or better “fate”)

  13. @shalinimukherjee5964

    March 17, 2026 at 3:56 pm

    Such a tender yet inspiring talk. Thank you!

  14. @GraceAnderson7

    March 18, 2026 at 7:14 pm

    Attraction isn’t just physical it’s about being drawn to someone’s soul, their presence, the way they make you feel seen. In my last relationship, the physical attraction was there, but the deeper connection was missing. Book Hollow Intimacy helped me understand why I felt so alone even when we were together. Without the other ingredients like respect, trust, compassion, shared vision, attraction eventually fades into emptiness.

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