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A Sex Therapist’s Secret to Rediscovering Your Spark | Ian Kerner | TED

Sex therapist Ian Kerner hears about a common problem from his patients: “failure to launch,” or the inability to build and maintain sexual momentum. What’s the solution? Whether you’re looking to reignite the spark in your relationship or reconnect with your own desire, Kerner shares advice on how to cultivate your erotic imagination and get…

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Sex therapist Ian Kerner hears about a common problem from his patients: “failure to launch,” or the inability to build and maintain sexual momentum. What’s the solution? Whether you’re looking to reignite the spark in your relationship or reconnect with your own desire, Kerner shares advice on how to cultivate your erotic imagination and get back on the “arousal runway.” (Note: This talk contains mature content. In order to protect patient privacy, the speaker has combined or adjusted several patients’ experiences.)

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47 Comments

  1. NavyN

    March 15, 2022 at 3:03 pm

    1st

    • Scott Henrie

      March 15, 2022 at 3:07 pm

      YouTube shows _“Translate to English”_ below your comment! 🤣

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      March 15, 2022 at 3:22 pm

      This is the only video content where coming first isn’t a good thing.

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    March 15, 2022 at 3:04 pm

    I still have my tooth ache 🙁

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    March 15, 2022 at 3:04 pm

    Everyone in comment im 1st

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      March 15, 2022 at 3:08 pm

      Someone else was first, and they beat you by 2 minutes.

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    March 15, 2022 at 3:05 pm

    I am traveler

  5. Scott Henrie

    March 15, 2022 at 3:06 pm

    Dopamine is necessary for sexual gratification, and countless other benefits. Magnesium is needed to make neurotransmitters including dopamine, *there’s less magnesium in food from developed countries!* Soft drinks have high levels of phosphates which prevents the absorption of magnesium. Magnesium is depleted from stress, sugar, caffeine, medicine, for ADHD and alcohol.

    • Samuel Drake

      March 15, 2022 at 3:15 pm

      @ho ho There are Mg(Magnesium) pills you could take to help with that.

    • Scott Henrie

      March 15, 2022 at 4:03 pm

      @Samuel Drake yes, but avoid magnesium oxide because it’s the*least absorbed* form of magnesium. I’ve even seen a protein shake with magnesium phosphate in it, which means you’re not getting either one. Just like how the phosphates in soft drinks bind with magnesium preventing its absorption.

    • Scott Henrie

      March 15, 2022 at 4:06 pm

      @ho ho magnesium malate is the easiest to absorb of all types of magnesium. The magnesium L-threonate is best for anxiety and coincides with improved cognitive function because it’s the most readily to cross the blood brain barrier.

    • Scott Henrie

      March 15, 2022 at 4:09 pm

      @ho ho I wish we could post links, do a search for “magnesium fact sheet for health professionals” to find the webpage on the NIH website.

    • ho ho

      March 15, 2022 at 5:30 pm

      @Scott Henrie will do, thanks!

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    March 15, 2022 at 3:10 pm

    Good Talk!

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    March 15, 2022 at 3:21 pm

    This was so organized!! One of the best.

  8. Staccato

    March 15, 2022 at 3:38 pm

    I will cry alone tonight…(´・ω・`)

  9. Mikael

    March 15, 2022 at 3:39 pm

    Am I the only one who read “spank” instead of “spark” in the title?

  10. Muse Inglis

    March 15, 2022 at 3:45 pm

    Oh, brother!
    All you need is a strap-on, a blonde wig and lots of leather & latex!
    That usually does the trick! 😉

    🤪

    • Les Petits

      March 15, 2022 at 10:23 pm

      Boring

  11. Terrible truthBeautiful lies

    March 15, 2022 at 3:53 pm

    This joker knows sweet FA ..two pumps and a squirt and he’s finished 🤔😲😂🤣✨

  12. Tyler Loconte

    March 15, 2022 at 4:02 pm

    This is incredible.

  13. Phatxual

    March 15, 2022 at 4:33 pm

    How is fantasizing about someone besides the one you’re with, in that moment, healthy though? Lol I get the fantasies can be your friend, but they can also be your enemy just as easily..
    Be careful what you wish for.

    • Debra Chambers

      March 15, 2022 at 5:57 pm

      @Phatxual But what’s wrong with it?
      “Some people didn’t sign up to be in a polygamous relationship” you’re not making it polygamous by fantasizing

    • Debra Chambers

      March 15, 2022 at 6:07 pm

      @Phatxual Looking back at the original comment- it seems like you were just saying it’s not good to fantasize about others while doing stuff with your partner

    • Phatxual

      March 15, 2022 at 6:08 pm

      @Debra Chambers Again, it isn’t entirely wrong. It’s how one goes about it.
      If you’re sitting there fantasizing about an entirely different partner, whilst trying to freshen up moves in the bedroom with the partner you’re currently with; that, to me, says you’re settling and wish you could be somewhere else. And that isn’t okay, nor healthy

      The ‘polygamous’ part 1. wasn’t in reference to you, and 2. wasn’t meant literally

    • Debra Chambers

      March 15, 2022 at 6:13 pm

      @Phatxual As long as it’s not the only way you can get aroused you’re probably fine

    • Phatxual

      March 15, 2022 at 6:30 pm

      @Debra Chambers That too!
      Idk, just putting myself in that situation, I have a hard time sexually fantasizing about anything besides what I want to do to my one faithful woman, and therefore my standard is the same.
      Others may have different demands and expectations, and that’s totally fair! I just don’t believe that bit of what was in the video is entirely true. Though I agree it’s unhealthy not to fantasize about things

    • LittleRedRidingElse

      March 16, 2022 at 6:31 am

      How is it unhealthy? And idk about being obligated to tell your partner… nobody is entitled to my thoughts.

    • Alfred van Kuik

      March 16, 2022 at 10:15 am

      @Phatxual Most people agree on monogamy because it is what is considered normal. We don’t really think about why we do it. We are taught that it is wrong by the entirety of society and people who aren’t monogamous are treated as weird and slutty. That we agree upon monogamy does not change our nature and does not change what goes on in your brain. I think it is very healthy to accept from both sides that both parties will be attracted to and fantasize about other people (doesn’t matter to me if it’s a celebrity or the neighbour) and that there’s nothing wrong with that. Unfaithfulness is actually cheating. Thought crimes aren’t crimes, or everyone would be in jail.

      There’s no particular pride in it. I don’t take pride in going to the toilet or thinking about what I’m gonna eat today. It’s just normal human behaviour. I believe feeling shame about such things is a large part of what makes and keeps a lot of people sexually repressed and unhappy.

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    March 15, 2022 at 5:33 pm

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  16. Recks Bayne

    March 15, 2022 at 5:50 pm

    you say follow your fantasies, but what if the person’s fantasy is unethical or unhealthy?

    • K

      March 15, 2022 at 7:20 pm

      he also said there is a line between thought and action: not every fantasy exists to be fulfilled in the literal sense.

    • Kristan Wifler

      March 15, 2022 at 10:10 pm

      People can do what they want, but I feel that maybe they shouldn’t do the act if they have to make up some elaborate fantasy just to get going.?

  17. 🇬█ 𝔎𝑎𝑟𝑒𝑒𝑚 𝔎alisari│

    March 15, 2022 at 5:58 pm

    All of us share this world for but a brief moment in time.

    The question is
    whether we spend that time focused on what pushes us apart?

    or whether we commit ourselves to an effort — a sustained effort — to find
    common ground,

    to focus on the future we seek for our children, and to
    respect the dignity of all human beings?

    It’s easier to START wars than to END them. 

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    It’s a faith in other people, and it’s what BROUGHT me HERE today | TED!.

    Thank you.
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  18. mykenmoon

    March 15, 2022 at 7:25 pm

    hello. read after me. we get old.

  19. TheActualCanadian

    March 15, 2022 at 9:18 pm

    Misread the title. Thought it was about rediscovering your spank.

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  20. Kristan Wifler

    March 15, 2022 at 10:16 pm

    I can’t relate. I’m an asocial aromantic hypersexual. I wish you all the best of luck finding your grooves. 😇

    • The Ajdam

      March 16, 2022 at 6:57 am

      Why are you here?

    • Kristan Wifler

      March 16, 2022 at 7:04 am

      @The Ajdam I like to learn stuff.

  21. Brad Ramey

    March 15, 2022 at 11:07 pm

    Oh baby I like it when you pay me a fair living wage

  22. Piyush

    March 16, 2022 at 2:34 am

    9:49-10:31

  23. manfred schmalbach

    March 16, 2022 at 11:30 am

    The “runway”-picture was nice. Problem is, though, many many partners do not want to fly. At least not (anymore) together. Even less so after 2 years together, caged. Before we address THIS part of the problem, the blame games, the entitlements, the lack of humor and the particular lack of humor _together_ , nobody will have any possibility to help their partner a bit with that nice runway-idea.

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    March 16, 2022 at 10:54 pm

    I’m really happy for today 😉😉. I finally got my profit of $330,000 on my crypto investment after feeling so ecstatic and heavy minded that nothing good can come out of it…a big thanks to Dmitry Goldin . I learned a lot about buying when there is fear in the market . I use to get shaken out and panic sell but now I buy more when I see the low prices.

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