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   @thegamerfromhell2039

   November 10, 2025 at 11:03 am

   First

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   @Notblaze30

   November 10, 2025 at 11:05 am

   Beauty of love ❤

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   @spacetimeranus

   November 10, 2025 at 11:22 am

   There is something about marriage that just makes me so bricked-up ❤😊.

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     @ThePled9e

     November 10, 2025 at 11:38 am

     Explain

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     @Khomeini_N.S.E

     November 10, 2025 at 11:53 am

     Yes, explain

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   @kirstenfarr7877

   November 10, 2025 at 11:34 am

   Wow! That’s a lesson everyone should have learned at school. ❤

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   @kaw8473

   November 10, 2025 at 11:47 am

   My husband and I saved our marriage with a motto: “I have nothing to win, everything to gain and everything to lose” it means there’s no such thing as winning so abandon the entire idea that one person is right and the other is wrong.

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     @DavidLawrence-v4o

     November 11, 2025 at 11:16 am

     Awesome

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   @SteveInOttawa

   November 10, 2025 at 11:50 am

   Love The Gottmans! Was introduced to them with there book “Fight Right” and been a reader/listener to them since. Listen to understand

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   @DutchBuddhist

   November 10, 2025 at 12:02 pm

   69%.. coincidence? I think not my friend

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     @SynysterBanks

     November 10, 2025 at 12:49 pm

     Nice.

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   @FlowerPowerTuba

   November 10, 2025 at 12:09 pm

   Wow that was so beautiful. I love how they listen and look at each other.

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   @Enkeria

   November 10, 2025 at 12:27 pm

   To enlight the ones who do not understand the 02:00 allow me to take an example. Your partner do not have a drivings license, why not get one you might ask? It will open up a new kind of freedom. The short answer might be “I just dont like driving” or “I can take the buss or walk” or “I do not need it”. If you would ask about sharing partners beliefs or how they see a drivings license, the underline emotion is perhaps “Well, when I tried some with dad, he shouted at me, and since I have felt like a failure in trying to drive, and I would only mess it up”. That would, for you, and your partner be an underlining understanding. And like Mrs. Gottmands said – You will hopefully understand it more and see if you can help instead of maybe demand. Also, this was just an example. I hope it helps if you didn’t understand that part. Have a wonderful day.

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    @TheGottmanInstitute

    November 10, 2025 at 12:28 pm

    This was so wonderful to participate in. Thank you to the entire team!

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    @Pintevact

    November 10, 2025 at 12:47 pm

    Wise advice. Longevity in relationships is less about grand gestures and more about small, reliable skills: making and accepting repair attempts, turning toward bids for connection, and practicing gentle conflict rules. Teachable, repeatable habits beat passion alone.

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    @catherinemartin2023

    November 10, 2025 at 1:15 pm

    Great video. I’m crying. :’)

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    @AnnieB-v8j

    November 10, 2025 at 1:56 pm

    Chris, my dad had issues with how my mom loaded the dishwasher. He would hail her from the kitchen with a particular finger-waggling tone that was basically her name and “come and see what you’ve done wrong!” or “you’ve done it again!” He used the same shaming and ‘playfully’ critical tone about how she kept her car, how she cleaned house, her relative ‘fitness.’ As a child witnessing this, an indelible impression was made about what a petty and controlling person he was, and how locked-in his relationship was to registering tiny annoyances rather than loving his wife, his kids and living a purposeful and happy life. I became aware of the source of this behavior from his childhood, but even so, I carried protective anger at his belittling, how it changed the energy in the family, and associated negative feelings of allegiance with my mom. There are obviously complexities to all of this, but it felt important to note that it is not only the couple who are affected by their interactions. Kids are very vulnerable to the powerlessness of witnessing parental dynamics, and the repercussions can be lifelong. This was only one ‘small’ aspect of my family’s circumstance, but it reflected a larger pattern that kept everyone in the family at a level of emotional and spiritual immaturity which has proven to be catastrophic for me, as the daughter of such a man.

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    @lifemotivation6789

    November 11, 2025 at 7:01 am

    Healthy relationships aren’t about eliminating conflict — they’re about learning to manage it with understanding and compassion. Most problems won’t disappear, but how you communicate can make all the difference.

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    @briseboy

    November 11, 2025 at 12:36 pm

    While i remain critical — as in EMPIRICAL – of absolutely everything, whatever is expressed verbally, in writing, as structure/narrative by everyone and every sensory event, all i KNOW is that those i lov can do no wrong.

    If something appears in error, i look in my and their self for why a difference exists.
    Understand, though, that, for example when a person adamantly kicks you out of the car, that no such ground is reciprocated.
    Reciprocity in commitment is love.
    Our species, unlike some admirable ones, is only facultatively bonding, unless openness to change occurs in oneself.
    That trait must be mutually shared.
    Perhaps in elder individuals bonding is existential. In NONE of the women i have ever met has any “instinct” to value a partner not included some recurring consideration that other optional mates might be better.
    I notice that most males are narcissistic and alcoholic or use other neuroaffective chemicals.
    There is some inherent divide between those who have the traits of lack of trust& avoidance, and the few couples i know of who last. It is not found in their respective families’ failings.

    We do know something similar to MHC variation sensing occurs in our species. Since that discussion is not one of mere rhetoric as is the video couple’s, i won’t translate the avcronym, which has to do with genes and hormones.

    I have come to realize that the subtle feelings an individual.has, are far more related to molecular sensing, even if that molecular expression only arises situationally
    An ancient Chinese proverb, repeated over and over,: “if you approach with sincerity, all will be well.”
    As my earlier observations imply – almost no human approaches with sincerity.
    Perhaps it is learned through early experience of its absence in a natal family. But only some ratio or percentage learn the lesson.

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    @goharayub-io9do

    November 11, 2025 at 3:35 pm

    Your wife is wise from you therefore your marriage to be successful 😄

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