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How often do you connect with different people each week? How many many close relationships do you aim to cultivate during those connections? And how long do these interactions last? Kasley Killam has the perfect guide to help you build better social connections – the 5-3-1 Rule. Kasley is a social scientist and the author…

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How often do you connect with different people each week? How many many close relationships do you aim to cultivate during those connections? And how long do these interactions last? Kasley Killam has the perfect guide to help you build better social connections – the 5-3-1 Rule. Kasley is a social scientist and the author of The Art of Science and Connection. Kasley joins Chris to discuss the future of social connection – why do we invest in physical health but not social health? And what happens when you substitute companionship for AI chatbots? Kasley shares tips on how to connect with your community and rethink social norms on technology.

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  1. @Aphoria7

    October 8, 2025 at 3:31 pm

    In a sincere endearing way, even though youre an idiot. Your message here although late is on pont.

  2. @Samyy1001

    October 8, 2025 at 5:42 pm

    I want to file a disability

  3. @deackenz

    October 9, 2025 at 1:21 am

    “Oii…Connection with GOD (daily) also valid…O Stupid Human!” – YoGod (Your Maker), 2025

  4. @Angry_boy_121

    October 9, 2025 at 3:39 am

    Sasti Einstein 😂😂😂

  5. @n_dawson

    October 9, 2025 at 5:06 am

    this is aimed at non-neurodiverse extroverts.

    • @Lucy-Westenra

      October 9, 2025 at 1:55 pm

      No it isn’t! I’m an introverted neurodivergent person and therapists encourage this type of thing.

    • @ArtsyMegz_On_Etsy

      October 10, 2025 at 10:11 am

      ​@@Lucy-WestenraI know that they do, but it has only made my stress levels go up, as a person with autism. Trying to communicate with people and think of what to say is a mental workload instead of a relaxing experience for someone who requires a lot of effort to communicate with people. I don’t think that this happens as much with people with ADHD though; it seems to mostly be an autism thing. I have also found that hardly any doctors or therapists know much about autism. They are just given a checklist of autistic traits to look for but don’t understand what those traits mean. If socializing causes autistic people more stress then telling them to socialize more isn’t the best option. Unless maybe if the autistic person only leaves the house once or twice a month. But if we go out and work multiple days a week and have one best friend that we talk to once a week, it all seems to count as socializing in my mind.

  6. @rawsonvalero766

    October 9, 2025 at 8:43 am

    Srsly??? I barely have the other healthy stuff in control now you’re adding more stuff?!?!

    • @Lucy-Westenra

      October 9, 2025 at 1:54 pm

      Yup lol

  7. @thabomosana2356

    October 9, 2025 at 9:33 am

    Huh!! 🤨

  8. @JD91909

    October 9, 2025 at 12:37 pm

    What about being comfortable being alone. I think more ppl need to learn to spending time alone. It helps ppl understand and learn about themselves.

  9. @TheBT

    October 9, 2025 at 1:59 pm

    I prefer 4-4-2. Bit old school but I think it gives structure to the team

    • @DerXavia

      October 10, 2025 at 1:40 pm

      5-3-1 is really just an emergency plan^^

    • @joshguam9824

      October 10, 2025 at 1:41 pm

      As a Chelsea fan I can speak from experience it’s an emergency plan that doesn’t often work

  10. @oliverjabroni9912

    October 10, 2025 at 1:57 am

    At first I thought she was just bullshitting, but then I saw that she is a certified Connection Connoisseur ™️

  11. @ArtsyMegz_On_Etsy

    October 10, 2025 at 10:01 am

    5 people per week?!! This is a great example of what the difference is between autistic people and neurotypical people; and why it doesn’t work when a neurotypical person says that, “Everybody gets socially burned out once in a while.” And I am just thinking, “Yeah, once in a while; as compared to being socially exhausted 4 or 5 days a week, even if we get to work alone for periods of time during our shift.” And the older I get, the less outings and the less phone calls that I can handle. It can even be more exhausting for me to go out and visit someone than if I were to work that day instead. And the only way that I can feel connected to people is if we go deeper than small talk, one-on-one instead of being in a group; which would probably require me to go visit people multiple times a week. But yeah, 5 just sounds completely crazy to me, and not realistic (I have tried many many times before). But I wouldn’t be surprised if it sounds completely normal to a neurotypical person. Apparently some people even find socializing to be energizing! 🤯😶

  12. @DerXavia

    October 10, 2025 at 1:49 pm

    People on here complaining should listen to everything she says in detail. She clearly says its more like a guideline and differs on individual level.
    Also take a moment to actually think about your own social interactions in a week, you will likely find that you are regularly exceeding the numbers. Five different people each week, means just going to work is mostly enough for that – even writing once per week with your parents already gives you 2.
    1h per day connecting is also not so much, but also depends on what this exactly means. I am easily spending about an hour each day just cooking and eating with my wife.

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