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The routines, rituals and boundaries we need in stressful times | Esther Perel

Visit to get our entire library of TED Talks, transcripts, translations, personalized talk recommendations and more. How do you effectively regulate stress? Therapist Esther Perel discusses the importance of creating routines, rituals and boundaries to deal with pandemic-related loss and uncertainty — both at home and at work — and offers some practical tools and…

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April 21, 2021

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How do you effectively regulate stress? Therapist Esther Perel discusses the importance of creating routines, rituals and boundaries to deal with pandemic-related loss and uncertainty — both at home and at work — and offers some practical tools and techniques to help you regain your sense of self. (This conversation, hosted by TED’s Helen Walters, was recorded February 2021.)

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TS

April 21, 2021 at 7:24 pm

Refer to Sucharit Bhakdi MD…

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Self-Education Methodology

April 21, 2021 at 7:31 pm

???????????????? Self-Education Methodology

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Anônimo

April 21, 2021 at 7:34 pm

What a joy to find a new TED Talk by Esther today.

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Frans Badenhorst

April 21, 2021 at 7:55 pm

I think this pandemic changed the whole world forever… Look at everybody around you… More devastation than all the wars combined, ever. Talk is cheap, money buys the whiskey….

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Daunted 232

April 21, 2021 at 7:58 pm

And if you are spiritual, do the opposite.

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English Grammar By Abdul Wahid Azmi

April 21, 2021 at 8:25 pm

Nice

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Gill Ambrose

April 21, 2021 at 9:49 pm

Gill Ambrose podcast is better than Tan Talks

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Brian McInnis

April 21, 2021 at 10:28 pm

Opinion: If your sense of self can be even mildly threatened by having to keep some distance from most people for a year or so, you never had one.

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- Winstan
  
  April 21, 2021 at 10:47 pm
  
  I agree!
  
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- Andrew Leavitt
  
  April 22, 2021 at 1:01 am
  
  False narrative. Social distancing was never the main source of stress. You are negating the true feelings that many others are dealing with. It’s a rather complex topic that you choose to ignore (or you are just trolling. Or didn’t actually watch the video)
  
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Winstan

April 21, 2021 at 10:46 pm

I tink the botox on the right is so hard done by…. Bless her

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julian shepherd

April 21, 2021 at 10:58 pm

Could be worse.
Could be doing 25 years in jail or fighting a war.

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elmo2you

April 21, 2021 at 11:18 pm

Thank you Esther

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BigWoollyMammoth

April 22, 2021 at 12:24 am

Blah, blah, blah. You’ve said nothing.

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Alsadek Alkhayer

April 22, 2021 at 12:31 am

ok, first three minutes, she made me panic. on the other hand, the interviewer has got a comforting aura.

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Naveen Kumar Madheri

April 22, 2021 at 1:10 am

Is this talk only for women….? Is itt….

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Valhalla

April 22, 2021 at 1:17 am

Oh wow she is freaking hot!

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Exhilirous

April 22, 2021 at 2:17 am

*laughs in BPD*

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Andrejs Boka

April 22, 2021 at 5:57 am

yes “muting button” as the only way to change the world between work, home, friend, other environment it’s a very very correct.

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Mark Schweitzer

April 22, 2021 at 6:51 am

our politicans are making to forever. so no thats not helping

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Rohan

April 22, 2021 at 7:03 am

Thanks this helped a lot in reassuring my ideas right now!

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Francisco Javier Legorreta

April 22, 2021 at 10:17 am

Very wise way to explain the actual situation.

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Aco747lyte

April 22, 2021 at 2:09 pm

The vocals on this video are awful!

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Lab MomOF2

April 22, 2021 at 8:30 pm

SCAMDEMIC

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Birgul Alizada

April 22, 2021 at 8:42 pm

and I’m watching this video for improving my listening skills in English , I’ve already lost my psychology thanks to the quarantine ( who else watches for getting better English?

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- Gabriel Cazorla Persson
  
  April 24, 2021 at 4:13 pm
  
  I did, many years ago. But right now my listening can hardly become any better. Keep it up! Oh and disable the captions if you have them on, you can go back if you don’t understand it the first time.
  
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bj0rn

April 22, 2021 at 11:03 pm

I love Esther, but Jesus Christ I’m so sick of talks forcing Covid into the title.

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Prison Planet Earth Comply or Die

April 23, 2021 at 12:18 pm

Thumbs down number 50 Stay in your home like scared Rabbits if your Mental condition is that bad

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jeddak

April 23, 2021 at 2:59 pm

great point about the merging of work and home enabling people to bring their whole selves to both areas of our lives; the partial breakdown of the artificial compartments which can feel so threatening has a silver lining

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Alejandro Vasquez

April 23, 2021 at 4:18 pm

Not going back to the past? Where we used to connect with people face to face is not something to come back?
This woman works for corporations, her advice is bias.
So, no thank you!

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VaMonarch

April 24, 2021 at 1:57 am

I love the piece about loss of serendipity due to over-emphasis on safety. Interesting observation.

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anschiver

April 25, 2021 at 6:12 pm

She might have a strong accent but by god she uses words that might be considered difficult by some with such ease, it’s a delight to listen to her.

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LAUS - THE CURIOUS

April 26, 2021 at 5:04 pm

Vedio has a great topic, but vedio has not methods to cope

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