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30 is not the new 20 — here’s what you should do right now #TEDTalks

Clinical psychologist Meg Jay has a bold message for twentysomethings: Contrary to popular belief, your 20s are not a throwaway decade. In this provocative talk, Jay says that just because marriage, work and kids are happening later in life, doesn’t mean you can’t start planning now. She gives 3 pieces of advice for how twentysomethings…

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Clinical psychologist Meg Jay has a bold message for twentysomethings: Contrary to popular belief, your 20s are not a throwaway decade. In this provocative talk, Jay says that just because marriage, work and kids are happening later in life, doesn’t mean you can’t start planning now. She gives 3 pieces of advice for how twentysomethings can re-claim adulthood in the defining decade of their lives.

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  1. @adamrhodes2566

    June 5, 2026 at 4:13 pm

    Hello Clarice.

    • @محمدواجدهاديصالح

      June 6, 2026 at 2:03 am

      @adamrhodes2566 wene wr have evinq chenqe doinq your life

  2. @PhilosophicAI

    June 5, 2026 at 4:26 pm

    20 something’s don’t have access to life. What are you talking about?

    • @carsonhunt4642

      June 5, 2026 at 4:30 pm

      Exactly. This talk comes from some out of touch boomer who had success and doesn’t understand reality for the majority.

      Also majority of “20-30” something’s I all know (millennials) did not “waste” their 20’s, we listened to boomers and got “educated”, only for boomers to keep all the high end jobs, not create any investment in our futures, and then outsource / import cheaper labor rather than hire us. The average age of first home buyers and kid is now like 34 years old! That is the sign of a dying society.

    • @OnnoBarendsen-v1p

      June 7, 2026 at 12:02 pm

      ​@carsonhunt4642There you go. This is the actual reality you’re describing. Most young adults have no perspective (even with good jobs), other than to bury themselves in debt in hopes of a glimmer of the life their parents had.

  3. @__RD14533

    June 5, 2026 at 5:09 pm

    I’m 37 and apparently it’s too late for me and I’m totally fucked…

  4. @brandonZbond

    June 5, 2026 at 6:25 pm

    We know that the brain definitely does not cap off at 20s thats asinine

  5. @brandonZbond

    June 5, 2026 at 6:27 pm

    No, the brain does not stop developing or changing at age 20. In fact, the idea that the brain “fully matures” at 20 or even 25 is largely an oversimplification. Neuroplasticity—the brain’s ability to rewire, form new neural pathways, and adapt—continues throughout your entire life, meaning your brain never truly stops developing. [1, 2, 3, 4, 5]

    • @sekou777

      June 5, 2026 at 10:03 pm

      @brandonZbond me, you’re talking about me.

    • @Baddaby

      June 8, 2026 at 1:07 am

      Lmao love how you copied the references from your AI response

  6. @youtubeisrunbyamonkey

    June 5, 2026 at 7:21 pm

    This is a such a load of bs.

  7. @michelleb7911

    June 5, 2026 at 8:41 pm

    Remember statistics mean nothing to the individual.

    Also is this a message from the 70s or 80s? This person’s science is largely outdated.

  8. @lixy7199

    June 5, 2026 at 9:32 pm

    Absolutely not. Life can be 80 years long. We are ever changing, especially women.
    This is terrible advice. And certainly not my, nor many people I know, experience.
    You are in charge of life, and it can be be very long. Go with the flows, changes, developments, hurts and loves. They happen constantly throughout ALL stages. NOTHING is set in stone, including you, and that is what makes life so wonderful.

  9. @JohncyBloomhunter

    June 6, 2026 at 5:44 am

    These are generalizations. Not everyone is the same or should feel pressured by these constructs. Besides they said the first person to live forevers already been born. We are the generation of prophecy hat does not pass away. 😊

    • @OnnoBarendsen-v1p

      June 7, 2026 at 11:57 am

      Is that so? In media it’s said people get older, but that’s not what i see.
      I see more lonely, sickly people who catch diseases like cancer way younger than any generation before them. Telling them they would live forever would be a cruel joke. Maybe it’s like you say for the very rich.

  10. @timbot4541

    June 6, 2026 at 6:50 am

    If she made a point here I missed it 🤷‍♂️

    • @dmhudson91

      June 7, 2026 at 9:31 am

      @timbot4541 💯

  11. @susanshook1930

    June 6, 2026 at 8:12 am

    We are always changing: Neuroplasticity exists throughout life. Read the Brain That Changes Itself. Hope springs eternal… because it does. Forget this segment and look ahead. And remember the real nirvana, wisdom, comes with experiences — good and bad, so long as you learn from them. Take heart and be the best you can be today and tomorrow. ❤

  12. @undyingtome

    June 6, 2026 at 8:54 am

    She’s definitely reading from an old rubric. That ten years is literally just the first ten of your career and most people do it in their 20s, but some people have a few starts and a few careers, depending upon resources and conditioning. This is social science. It’s called norms, so we beat ‘em. There’s always a new social structure to be built and now people get divorced by 35 and live until 95. Time to think about life as something to be enjoyed, not just exploited and maximized. Everyone needs to slow down.

  13. @hellochriis

    June 7, 2026 at 9:40 am

    School, College, 9-5, family, She’s basically advocating the standard path that society wants you to follow to become a good taxpayer.

    • @OnnoBarendsen-v1p

      June 7, 2026 at 11:15 am

      Past tense. Now it’s school, college, 9-5 while living in your parents house untill mid thirties. Then you’re expected to do what previous generations did in their twenties.

      No wonder so many of the new generation just check out.
      The governments solution (at least here in the Netherlands): lets just import new people for whom we dont have housing and give them preference so the anger will be directed to them.

      It works untill it doesn’t.

  14. @OnnoBarendsen-v1p

    June 7, 2026 at 10:11 am

    Yeah, at 20 something i was very busy surviving, trying to get a roof over my head compatable with my income, while fending off elders who got that basis handed to them on a silver platter.
    My son has an even harder time to just arrange the bare minimum of survival in this so called rich country. I think you are out of touch.

  15. @OnnoBarendsen-v1p

    June 7, 2026 at 10:11 am

    Yeah, at 20 something i was very busy surviving, trying to get a roof over my head compatable with my income, while fending off elders who got that basis handed to them on a silver platter. No help, just outdated advice. Kinda like you’re doing.
    My son has an even harder time to just arrange the bare minimum of survival in this so called rich country. Even with my help. I think you are out of touch.

  16. @hoon-h5g

    June 8, 2026 at 2:31 am

    I know so many people who share that mentality living a life dictated by anxiety and stress. So no thank you.

  17. @stevenporter863

    June 8, 2026 at 8:33 am

    If what she said was true, life would basically be over at 35 and just going through the motions.

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