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How to Unlock Your Flirting Superpowers | Francesca Hogi | TED

What’s the right way to flirt? According to love coach Francesca Hogi, it doesn’t have to be shallow or creepy — it can be a genuine chance for human connection. In this smart, playful talk, she gives a much-needed rethink on flirting that will help you feel confident, spark chemistry and maybe even find love.…

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What’s the right way to flirt? According to love coach Francesca Hogi, it doesn’t have to be shallow or creepy — it can be a genuine chance for human connection. In this smart, playful talk, she gives a much-needed rethink on flirting that will help you feel confident, spark chemistry and maybe even find love. (Recorded at TEDNext 2025 on November 10, 2025)

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  1. @BecomingKhaya

    November 29, 2025 at 3:01 pm

  2. @Lemiwinks55

    November 29, 2025 at 3:01 pm

    Thought this was an Onion post at first. Happy I stayed around and listened!

  3. @pedrocomarella6100

    November 29, 2025 at 3:03 pm

    Aulas e palestras 🔥

  4. @ShaunSevon

    November 29, 2025 at 3:05 pm

    This Is Almost A Lost Art…🤷🏾‍♂️🗣️👂🏾

  5. @angadstudios

    November 29, 2025 at 3:15 pm

    Good insight

  6. @maddiematyasse

    November 29, 2025 at 3:19 pm

    Me here starting back at square one because I’ve realized after a long term relationship and a plate full of trauma that I’ve no idea how to even get something cooking again, but an extreme desire to put forth effort😅🤙🏼

  7. @ExistentialWolf

    November 29, 2025 at 3:28 pm

    Flirting is leaving crumbs – it’s a no brainer when the chemistry is there. Like you said, don’t try and force your desperation, that feeling of wrong is all yours not chemistry. 😀 Shouldn’t be work.

  8. @gracetaylor5341

    November 29, 2025 at 3:33 pm

    👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

  9. @andrewlevas9258

    November 29, 2025 at 3:36 pm

    When all else fails, flirt.

  10. @jf-jx4ym

    November 29, 2025 at 3:51 pm

    If intense staring doesnt work.. Just walk away.

    • @jasonbell2619

      November 29, 2025 at 4:05 pm

      For real! 😂😂😂

  11. @carrographymedia9309

    November 29, 2025 at 3:58 pm

    Remeber when TEDtalks were important

    • @ManTeera

      November 29, 2025 at 4:17 pm

      😂

  12. @AuraSpring101

    November 29, 2025 at 4:04 pm

    flirting does not work, in 2025. And even if you were good person, people will see you as worthless, or unlovable because you are authentic, and you deserve to be loved but people are too selfish with high standards and so those who are good or authentic and actually are trying are always thrown aside, like an item. flirting ain’t going to change anything, unless you have a medal, of worth to selfish people. Love doesn’t exist, its all status and degrading. and it is absolutely transactional.

    • @AuraSpring101

      November 29, 2025 at 4:07 pm

      So if you want, real love, don’t expect it from anyone, just love yourself and know, you are powerful. Because you are you.;

    • @siouxsie99

      November 29, 2025 at 5:14 pm

      ​@AuraSpring101 I cannot agree more!

    • @jiggyprawn

      November 29, 2025 at 6:49 pm

      Um, no. Just no. I really hope you find some positivity today.

  13. @ToastyxToasty

    November 29, 2025 at 4:06 pm

    She couldn’t flirt her way past first tribal council

    • @slutinawhorinskaya

      November 29, 2025 at 4:57 pm

      Funny, but she was still a lawyer then.

  14. @strada4176

    November 29, 2025 at 4:18 pm

    I‘m a Very good Flirter friends say but I keep my flirt tactics for the real one. And no, I don’t wanna use capitalism Dating Apps.

  15. @AlphaLibre9

    November 29, 2025 at 4:39 pm

    No one makes me feel seen, special or acknowledged.

    • @tonyat8663

      November 29, 2025 at 8:21 pm

      Sounds like it’s time to find out for yourself that you are special, relevant and important. Then you can recognize it from others. ❤

  16. @elizeuoliveira-ft8xc

    November 29, 2025 at 4:41 pm

    did love spech you // amei suas palavras BRASIL

  17. @ObisBNeat

    November 29, 2025 at 4:54 pm

    For the gamers, tis like irl ping pong. Where the other side has to be expecting you are about to serve a ping pong ball at them and they know they have a paddle in their hand vs a big scramble- uhhhhh

  18. @AnnieB-v8j

    November 29, 2025 at 5:58 pm

    “People will forget what you said. People will forget what you did. But people will never forget how you made them feel.” – Maya Angelou

  19. @InjuriousPersonalities

    November 29, 2025 at 6:30 pm

    Hardly unlocking superpowers.. these were the most generic suggestions possible! This woman seems a bit too pleased with herself. Keep on keepin on lady 🤙

  20. @zaido2823

    November 29, 2025 at 8:23 pm

    Lol but you need to get that date to have time to flirt. But to get that date, you need to flirt first (after a match on a date app or with people you meet irl)

  21. @kanyeblessed6558

    November 29, 2025 at 8:29 pm

    franchesqua

  22. @vardaankaushal8560

    November 29, 2025 at 9:02 pm

    Thanks for lecture, such videos really boost my confidence to try more stuff in dating life.

  23. @dizzychizzy1

    November 29, 2025 at 10:25 pm

    Would you like to go get a coffee with me…? Your confidence comes not from a place of ego, even without knowing you interesting is a word I would use to describe you. 😊😊😊

    • @dizzychizzy1

      November 29, 2025 at 10:28 pm

      He kind cute. 🥰

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    November 30, 2025 at 1:03 am

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  26. @mohinurmannova

    November 30, 2025 at 1:21 am

    😂😂😂

  27. @pervezh

    November 30, 2025 at 2:28 am

    Flirting witjhout good purposeful true intent is deceit. It is a form of manipulation. Deceiving, and manipulating people is a super power weilded by narcisstics, psychopaths, and generallly evil people. Just because some person makes a speech about it, flowering it to justify evil action, doesn’t mean its right, nor should it resonate with everyone.

    • @Zoroaster21

      November 30, 2025 at 4:32 am

      Completely agree with you!

    • @BeachesGuy

      November 30, 2025 at 11:55 am

      Feels like making someone feel seen, special, and acknowledged, by paying a thoughtful compliment, or showing genuine curiosity, is the last the a narcisist,would do.

  28. @keoneeG

    November 30, 2025 at 2:42 am

    She looks like a supermodel 😊

    • @a12i9

      November 30, 2025 at 12:35 pm

      semi-good compliment, I’d say 😄

  29. @theshortguy4530

    November 30, 2025 at 3:39 am

    franchesqua

  30. @Ricardo-c6l5j

    November 30, 2025 at 3:59 am

    GREAT

  31. @udoyxyz

    November 30, 2025 at 5:23 am

    Seen, special and acknowledged noted

  32. @EricHebert1964

    November 30, 2025 at 6:29 am

    Funny, I was just in an argument with my girl because she is accusing me of always flirting with other girls. I will not be watching this video 🙂

    • @medinascmartialarts

      November 30, 2025 at 7:45 am

      Shut up

  33. @AnneMuhlethaler-tz5nj

    November 30, 2025 at 8:29 am

    Such a great talk Francesca, thank you. I’m feeling the flirty energy bubbling from the screen. ❤🎉

  34. @lifemotivation6789

    November 30, 2025 at 8:45 am

    Flirting isn’t manipulation — it’s the art of making someone feel seen, valued, and special. When done with intention and respect, it becomes a real superpower

  35. @JedNguyen47

    November 30, 2025 at 10:01 am

    flirting works, but takes time to master. If we have it, we will be unstoppable.

  36. @V_Xsinx_D_V_Noir

    November 30, 2025 at 10:04 am

    So colonize a exiting word change it to your need. How about new words? How about words that mean what your trying to say.

  37. @YAT717

    November 30, 2025 at 10:28 am

    #1 @ 0:44

    #2 What a GIRL; Amazing Personality; Nice Dressence; Easy communication.

    *I VOTE FOR YOU – PEACE.

  38. @jitojor87

    November 30, 2025 at 11:33 am

    Today I learnt eyes are not a body part

  39. @ph0rd

    November 30, 2025 at 11:49 am

    Wait. Was this on flirting or birth control. Can’t tell.

  40. @a12i9

    November 30, 2025 at 12:40 pm

    My parents always tell me I’m natural in flirting, apparently I was doing it already with three years old😅
    The thing is, I don’t flirt intentionally. It’s just my way of making communication fun. And I’m just always curious and interested and excited about other people, so guess that helps.

  41. @For-information-Only

    November 30, 2025 at 1:36 pm

    Wow, that lady was AWESOME! I listen to many authors surprised she hasn’t surfaced until now?? Anyway enjoyed the slight shift in narrative from the stance that men are always the problem “They just don’t get it” ?? She offers some balance between the relationship dynamics. Definitely going to add her to my list of people grow from? Thanks a million for bringing her to light!

  42. @cinemanuggets24

    November 30, 2025 at 3:35 pm

    I dont like it when motivational speakers show little respect for WORDS and LANGUAGE and try ascribe new meanings to established words.

  43. @beebee_0136

    November 30, 2025 at 3:52 pm

    Warning: Don’t do this at the workplace. Viewers are advised. Don’t say you weren’t told

    • @jaredpowell4108

      December 1, 2025 at 10:52 am

      No, absolutely do this at work. “Make someone feel seen, acknowledged and valued.”

    • @beebee_0136

      December 1, 2025 at 11:15 am

      ​@jaredpowell4108Keep rolling that dice. I challenge you. And if ever you stop or apply discretion at any point, may your conscience judge you for misleading others!

      Make sure you roll that dice, full steam ahead! You are 1000% on the right track.

    • @seebo5139

      December 1, 2025 at 12:19 pm

      Do it especially at work! But practice somewhere else first for a few months. Not only will you eventually get dates, your career will take off too. Not kidding!

    • @alfred4831

      December 1, 2025 at 5:15 pm

      Wrong. Flirt with your boss and get a raise!
      Or a dismissal letter. 50 50 chances with odds for or against you, depending on relative attractiveness.
      🤡

  44. @jooelo7679

    November 30, 2025 at 5:55 pm

    Any girls here to check how accurate this is? 🤭

  45. @darijuannamcdonald3110

    November 30, 2025 at 7:56 pm

    I love her definition of flirting. I’m a naturally “flirtatious” person and accidentally “flirt” all the time. People definitely take me the wrong way all the time.

    • @Kemone86

      December 1, 2025 at 1:20 pm

      Lol I’ve Been Told This As Well In My Relationships And I’m Naive To The Person Genuinely Flirting Back So I Go On Feeling Like I Did Nothing Wrong ….😂

    • @darijuannamcdonald3110

      December 1, 2025 at 4:37 pm

      ​@Kemone86😂😂 right I don’t really know when people are flirting either. And then when I actually try to flirt all ive got is corny pick up lines 😂😂

    • @Kemone86

      December 1, 2025 at 6:47 pm

      ​@darijuannamcdonald3110 🤣 Exactly

  46. @AdiChenu

    November 30, 2025 at 10:18 pm

    Results will vary. Anything from getting arrested or laid is well within the spectrum.

  47. @j0hnz046

    November 30, 2025 at 10:30 pm

    You don’t look qualified to speak on flirting 😢

  48. @Necr0Mancer666

    November 30, 2025 at 11:15 pm

    By now we should just assume anything coming from TED is pure garbage. Flirting and her? Yeah she definitely needs superpowers to make any man fall for her. Yuck, I would sprint in the opposite direction.

  49. @rucellegarciano4105

    November 30, 2025 at 11:38 pm

    😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  50. @Republica2.0-yz2qk

    December 1, 2025 at 12:57 am

    Practice makes perfect Francesca Hogi. 😊

  51. @jamesalanstephensmith7930

    December 1, 2025 at 2:13 am

    Refreshing!

  52. @CrazyRocks29

    December 1, 2025 at 4:22 am

    Ladies “it’s not creepy if they’re good looking’ shows this is half the story. And is painted with stereotypical nonsense and modern woke bias.

  53. @heytheredee

    December 1, 2025 at 5:03 am

    I’ve always thought that I’m clueless when it comes to flirting…well, with her definition of flirting (making the other person feel seen, special, acknowledged), I realize I’ve been a great flirt all my life! Lol I naturally make ppl feel all these things when I’m talking to them, esp strangers and new ppl I’m meeting, AND with a sweet smile and eye contact! I actually don’t like the spotlight on me very much, so I always turn the lens towards them, just out of genuine curiosity mostly, but also to be friendly and kind, have a listening ear, giving them my time of day…hope to flirt with you one day! 😅

  54. @sundayleagueshenanigans807

    December 1, 2025 at 6:57 am

    even this presentation feels like shes flirting…especially her laughs

  55. @aliyaspahic

    December 1, 2025 at 7:23 am

    This Ted talk could’ve been an email

  56. @xiomilo5830

    December 1, 2025 at 9:45 am

    Oh god, I find out that I’m actually not bad at flirting, man😂

  57. @Robert-dc1wd

    December 1, 2025 at 10:50 am

    What a great TED talk! Love her energy and would definitely listen to more of her talks ! ♥️

  58. @Trinifood

    December 1, 2025 at 12:33 pm

    She’s great.

  59. @timoooo7320

    December 1, 2025 at 1:04 pm

    Step 1: Be good looking

  60. @log_frog

    December 1, 2025 at 3:00 pm

    Dang, reading the room is hard for neurodivergent folxs.

  61. @Tispickle

    December 1, 2025 at 3:32 pm

    Why is this even a TED talk?

  62. @panicxpanic

    December 1, 2025 at 4:48 pm

    ted talk is now giving lessons about flirting now..

  63. @bonobo3748

    December 1, 2025 at 4:54 pm

    70% me me me and what I do
    20% the history and definition of Flirting
    5% do not do this
    5% terrible advice like send a drink and wink etc.

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