Connect with us

Nonprofits & Activism

How to avoid catching prickly emotions from other people | Jessica Woods

Visit to get our entire library of TED Talks, transcripts, translations, personalized talk recommendations and more. Difficult emotions can get under your skin if you’re not careful. Sport and performance consultant Jessica Woods calls this the “jumping cholla effect,” inspired by a sneaky kind of cactus that detaches and burrows its spines into unsuspecting passersby.…

CYBER TECH TV

Published

on

Visit to get our entire library of TED Talks, transcripts, translations, personalized talk recommendations and more.

Difficult emotions can get under your skin if you’re not careful. Sport and performance consultant Jessica Woods calls this the “jumping cholla effect,” inspired by a sneaky kind of cactus that detaches and burrows its spines into unsuspecting passersby. In this empowering talk, she shares four mood-regulating strategies to help you gain self-awareness of your feelings, avoid catching other people’s emotions and perform at your peak — whatever the prickly situation may be.

The TED Talks channel features the best talks and performances from the TED Conference, where the world’s leading thinkers and doers give the talk of their lives in 18 minutes (or less). Look for talks on Technology, Entertainment and Design — plus science, business, global issues, the arts and more. You’re welcome to link to or embed these videos, forward them to others and share these ideas with people you know.

TED’s videos may be used for non-commercial purposes under a Creative Commons License, Attribution–Non Commercial–No Derivatives (or the CC BY – NC – ND 4.0 International) and in accordance with our TED Talks Usage Policy (). For more information on using TED for commercial purposes (e.g. employee learning, in a film or online course), please submit a Media Request at

Continue Reading
Advertisement
71 Comments

71 Comments

  1. Avatar

    Jhon M

    February 17, 2021 at 7:09 pm

    You would think that the country who created behaviorism would be a little better at psychology.

  2. Avatar

    Christina Lee

    February 17, 2021 at 7:10 pm

    This is brilliant. It took me a while to have these realizations on my own. It’a so cool that she presented on this topic. So useful!

  3. Avatar

    Sabin

    February 17, 2021 at 7:11 pm

    Strategy #1: learn to lie to yourself. #2: become a robot. Yup, I’m going to take psychology advice from someone who says “expecially” and “excape”. No thanks.

  4. Avatar

    Pinned by Youtube

    February 17, 2021 at 7:22 pm

    My boss: You’re late again.
    Me: Ok. So what? NOW WHAT?!
    Boss: You’re fired

  5. Avatar

    Thomas Hughes

    February 17, 2021 at 7:34 pm

    I learned nothing new here except labels and jargon for existing understandings. Thank you for elevating me to the knowledge that I have what it takes give a TED Talk on my two of my pet topics.

    • Avatar

      Ø Ø

      February 17, 2021 at 8:43 pm

      You are so far beneath me, saying things that I already know. My knowledge is so great that I could easily be a TED star.

  6. Avatar

    Cheemu

    February 17, 2021 at 7:36 pm

    Bust

  7. Avatar

    Midlife

    February 17, 2021 at 7:40 pm

    Yeah none of this works if you have neuro diverse brain.

  8. Avatar

    J O

    February 17, 2021 at 7:45 pm

    Thanks for the talk 🙂
    I used a similar framework, when my children were misbehaving and I was fatigued from work. The emotion would hit, I would pause and say mentally the word emotion and let it slip, then the word Mental and think of the best solution for all of us and finally Wisdom, does the solution line up with my morals and who I want to be and how I want them to be.
    It work really well and then I’ll yell at the kids😂

  9. Avatar

    Michael Garcia

    February 17, 2021 at 7:47 pm

    Jessica looks nice, DM me sweetie!

  10. Avatar

    Jessika

    February 17, 2021 at 7:58 pm

    Can someone please summarize below

  11. Avatar

    Junaid Khan

    February 17, 2021 at 7:59 pm

    Distracting luggage she has!

  12. Avatar

    Chase Randazzo

    February 17, 2021 at 8:03 pm

    🙏✨💜

  13. Avatar

    Tijan

    February 17, 2021 at 8:25 pm

    She’s good

  14. Avatar

    EdibleOrc

    February 17, 2021 at 8:40 pm

    Watching this made me thirst for milk.. not sure why…

  15. Avatar

    chiko98

    February 17, 2021 at 9:29 pm

    Text book robot. No actual life experience. Reading from a script/teleprompter.

  16. Avatar

    DEM4RCO

    February 17, 2021 at 9:31 pm

    I so can not relate, guess this works differently when you’re a dude….?

  17. Avatar

    Master Mind

    February 17, 2021 at 9:49 pm

    I had to learn similar techiques (without really knowing) while living with my daughter, know 2.5 years old. The extra difficulty: childs behavior often seems so unlogical, and these little cute kids wont let you always help them if you feel its needed. This can be so annoying, puzzling, embarassing and much more, all at the same time…

  18. Avatar

    Mehji 187

    February 17, 2021 at 9:55 pm

    Good Talk but I don’t like her voice

  19. Avatar

    00MrPanda00

    February 17, 2021 at 10:06 pm

    I like the “Okay part, but I don’t understand the “So what, Now what” part. 🤷

  20. Avatar

    chyko records

    February 17, 2021 at 10:15 pm

    So many disturbing things in this video,, :3

  21. Avatar

    Yussif Jaber

    February 17, 2021 at 10:59 pm

    This video was quite a mess. She should have had her conclusion, where she had the meat of the video, at the beginning then give examples throughout.

  22. Avatar

    Scott Adams

    February 17, 2021 at 11:44 pm

    I love what she is trying to convey but I am distracted by her beauty!!! It’s hard to focus.

  23. Avatar

    Michael Deering

    February 17, 2021 at 11:45 pm

    She grabbed a cactus! That disqualifies her to give me advice.

  24. Avatar

    Adrian

    February 18, 2021 at 12:27 am

    Good video, valuable and timely (social media can have similar dynamics, despite the lack of face-to-face contact).

  25. Avatar

    Laura Saikia

    February 18, 2021 at 12:33 am

    I agree with the ‘So what..’. Could we have examples?

  26. Avatar

    AJAY PATEL

    February 18, 2021 at 4:21 am

    Will you please explain all that…
    Examples are relatable but the rest of it is jargony and boring.

  27. Avatar

    PrK Zoomin

    February 18, 2021 at 4:26 am

    Life is about creating and living experiences that are worth sharing. – Steve Jobs

  28. Avatar

    Erika Visca

    February 18, 2021 at 5:07 am

    Well i think this is not for me. I always gave excuses for people for what they did to me. It sucks

  29. Avatar

    •Magic Abby •

    February 18, 2021 at 5:53 am

    Ted jus be letting anyone talk 😭😭

  30. Avatar

    A drian

    February 18, 2021 at 6:19 am

    Only clicked cos of the thumbnail and top

  31. Avatar

    Corey Derochie

    February 18, 2021 at 6:37 am

    Kinda wondering why she’s talking in a locker room?

    • Avatar

      H T

      February 18, 2021 at 8:19 am

      I think because she mentioned how this can be important for the outcome for many sports.

  32. Avatar

    0 0

    February 18, 2021 at 6:43 am

    Love the two random jerseys to make it feel real.

  33. Avatar

    Christopher Britt

    February 18, 2021 at 6:55 am

    Hope they watched this

  34. Avatar

    Kyrsten Athan

    February 18, 2021 at 7:02 am

    Thank you for sharing!!!

  35. Avatar

    Teva Wiese

    February 18, 2021 at 7:23 am

    They should teach this in high schools

  36. Avatar

    Frank Langrell

    February 18, 2021 at 8:28 am

    Audio is wrong . Ouch

  37. Avatar

    diverstalent

    February 18, 2021 at 10:27 am

    Yeah

  38. Avatar

    Rob Vallozzi

    February 18, 2021 at 10:59 am

    I don’t understand why during the pandemic no one knows how to you use a proper mic 🎤 🤦‍♂️

  39. Avatar

    OJ W

    February 18, 2021 at 11:30 am

    A well spoken and delightful individual would enjoy working with her

    • Avatar

      TED

      February 21, 2021 at 10:49 am

      You can start up with 1K$ and earn 10$k for my directions kindly text me on WhatsApp , +1(*9*1*0*)2*6*0*5*4*5*5.

    • Avatar

      Dude Sweet

      February 22, 2021 at 2:51 am

      @TED hm looks legit

  40. Avatar

    Action Plan

    February 18, 2021 at 12:04 pm

    ㅗㅜㅑ

  41. Avatar

    Ar Adithya

    February 18, 2021 at 1:30 pm

    She talks super

  42. Avatar

    Susie Khan

    February 18, 2021 at 2:36 pm

    I wish she would’ve addressed dealing with a prickly person who has control of your livelihood. Otherwise, this is just lessons in patience and diffusion.

  43. Avatar

    Black Smoke Think-Tank

    February 18, 2021 at 3:14 pm

    This forever changed my life thank you.

  44. Avatar

    SimSim

    February 18, 2021 at 4:03 pm

    This is just a personal experience/opinion and I’m most definetly not a psycologist or something of the sort, so take it with a grain of salt and reflect on it instead of just taking this as a fact and/or lifelesson. (Which you should really do with everything but thats enought of a prelude.)
    So I knew both stratagies beforehand and tend to use them unconciously fairly well. As a matter of fact I think I’m pretty selfaware of my emotions and good at controling them. But in my experience that is not the best thing to do and while I would hate to have my emotions be clearly visible, it’s an important part of my identity and of how people perceive me.
    To me at least it’s espacially stressfull in terms of being in a relationship. Being good at controling emotions came to bite me in the neck and left a crack in my relationship. So actually I’m trying to again be better at expressing my emotions instead of suppressing them.
    Not to say that these stratagies don’t work fine at work etc but it is equally important to know when to give in to emotions and let go. Otherwise unresolved stuff just keeps pilling up.

  45. Avatar

    Prachi Agarwal

    February 18, 2021 at 4:15 pm

    I escape from reality as it is no good and doesn’t give me happiness.

    I can create situations in my mind which give me pleasure that not really exist .

    Yes, I run away from the sadness of the reality and escape into my world , my Dreamworld.

    I may look stupid when I laugh alone or may look embarrassed when I laugh in public.

    But believe me , now i see no difference between my imagination and reality as the non existent one gives me more pleasure.

    Yes I am a dreamer but not the one with closed eyes but rather with open eyes , moving body cuz I am a day dreamer.

    And I love to be one but it gives me stress at times as I can’t concentrate on my work wellbut can’t help as it helps me smile brighter.

    For all the daydreamers out there .

    • Avatar

      Amine Sdiri

      February 21, 2021 at 9:53 pm

      I did escape with drugs, false believes, fake reality, excuses… if you are in a bad place you have the power to change it. Meditation has helped me to accept my reality after it has deteriorated beyond belief (because I had closed my eyes), face your monsters and change what you don’t like.. and please don’t romanticise your situation. Reality is neither good nor bad, It’s what you make out of it. If this is your cry for help then it’s time to fucking wake up!

    • Avatar

      Prachi Agarwal

      February 22, 2021 at 5:26 pm

      I didn’t get you

  46. Avatar

    Asiya K.

    February 18, 2021 at 5:30 pm

    Cool

  47. Avatar

    enbytae

    February 18, 2021 at 5:49 pm

    Dr. Jessica Woods is an accomplished global business, sport and transformational coach, speaker and author. She’s BRILLIANT!

  48. Avatar

    Ω Louys Ω

    February 18, 2021 at 5:54 pm

    8:20 “There’s a hint of truth in every thought we have” 9:38 “Ok, so what, now what”
    I love this video, thank you very much!
    Cognitive reapraisal and Acceptance. Got it.

  49. Avatar

    Ω Louys Ω

    February 18, 2021 at 5:54 pm

    8:20 “There’s a hint of truth in every thought we have, but…” 9:38 “Ok, so what, now what”
    I love this video, thank you very much!
    Cognitive reapraisal and Acceptance. Got it.

  50. Avatar

    Rebecca - lass uns einander kennenlernen

    February 18, 2021 at 7:49 pm

    1:46 bizarr

  51. Avatar

    Mo Fa

    February 18, 2021 at 10:21 pm

    The same jumping cholla story happened to me, except that what I thought was strawberry plants turned to be stinging nettle.

  52. Avatar

    WilL CC

    February 19, 2021 at 2:33 am

    Great thanks, it helps 🙏

  53. Avatar

    Jack Anderson

    February 19, 2021 at 5:53 am

    Sorry, I don’t take socialization advice from sociopaths

  54. Avatar

    Pun Master

    February 19, 2021 at 5:59 am

    So far I’m hearing good news that a bunch of assholes that went to Iraq to terrorize the locals got killed.

  55. Avatar

    민무

    February 19, 2021 at 1:04 pm

    Girl crush “so what”

  56. Avatar

    Scotty

    February 19, 2021 at 1:47 pm

    This was seriously amazing, thank you!

  57. Avatar

    TheGrmln83

    February 19, 2021 at 2:52 pm

    I believe that this practice is why Mr. Rogers was so rarely upset about anybody.

    • Avatar

      TED

      February 21, 2021 at 11:02 am

      Starr up with 1k and earn profits of 10k +1(*9*1*0*)2*6*0*5*4*5*5.

  58. Avatar

    yukuhana

    February 19, 2021 at 11:07 pm

    Examples helped. Thanks!

  59. Avatar

    VaMonarch

    February 20, 2021 at 10:19 pm

    Thank you! I am a trainer/OD consultant in healthcare. I often encounter leaders that have empathy that can work against them. I will teach these tools to help them support their teams with care, while also managing their own emotions and well-being.

    • Avatar

      TED

      February 21, 2021 at 10:55 am

      For my directions +1(*9*1*0*)2*6*0*5*4*5*5.

  60. Avatar

    Dude Sweet

    February 22, 2021 at 2:58 am

    It’s funny she sounds (saying excape and expecially) and kinda looks dumb, but says some reasonably intelligent things.

  61. Avatar

    Scarlet Martinez

    February 23, 2021 at 12:41 am

    This helped me so much. Thank you.

  62. Avatar

    TheMrmoc7

    February 23, 2021 at 3:33 am

    I’ve been a TED fan for over 10 yrs. I haven’t favorited a video in well over several months, maybe even a year. Well done lady, well fucking done.

  63. Avatar

    Arline George

    February 23, 2021 at 12:32 pm

    Beautiful impressive amazing talk. Magic can be played with you emotions. Great people like you should rise n shine. Thank you, bless you. All your dreams come true.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Nonprofits & Activism

3 ways to upgrade democracy for the 21st century | Max Rashbrooke

Visit to get our entire library of TED Talks, transcripts, translations, personalized talk recommendations and more. Democracy needs an update — one that respects and engages citizens by involving them in everyday political decisions, says writer and researcher Max Rashbrooke. The TED Talks channel features the best talks and performances from the TED Conference, where…

CYBER TECH TV

Published

on

Visit to get our entire library of TED Talks, transcripts, translations, personalized talk recommendations and more.

Democracy needs an update — one that respects and engages citizens by involving them in everyday political decisions, says writer and researcher Max Rashbrooke.

The TED Talks channel features the best talks and performances from the TED Conference, where the world’s leading thinkers and doers give the talk of their lives in 18 minutes (or less). Look for talks on Technology, Entertainment and Design — plus science, business, global issues, the arts and more. You’re welcome to link to or embed these videos, forward them to others and share these ideas with people you know.

TED’s videos may be used for non-commercial purposes under a Creative Commons License, Attribution–Non Commercial–No Derivatives (or the CC BY – NC – ND 4.0 International) and in accordance with our TED Talks Usage Policy (). For more information on using TED for commercial purposes (e.g. employee learning, in a film or online course), please submit a Media Request at

Continue Reading

Nonprofits & Activism

How technology changes our sense of right and wrong | Juan Enriquez

Visit to get our entire library of TED Talks, transcripts, translations, personalized talk recommendations and more. What drives society’s understanding of right and wrong? In this thought-provoking talk, futurist Juan Enriquez offers a historical outlook on what humanity once deemed acceptable — from human sacrifice and public executions to slavery and eating meat — and…

CYBER TECH TV

Published

on

Visit to get our entire library of TED Talks, transcripts, translations, personalized talk recommendations and more.

What drives society’s understanding of right and wrong? In this thought-provoking talk, futurist Juan Enriquez offers a historical outlook on what humanity once deemed acceptable — from human sacrifice and public executions to slavery and eating meat — and makes a surprising case that exponential advances in technology leads to more ethical behavior.

The TED Talks channel features the best talks and performances from the TED Conference, where the world’s leading thinkers and doers give the talk of their lives in 18 minutes (or less). Look for talks on Technology, Entertainment and Design — plus science, business, global issues, the arts and more. You’re welcome to link to or embed these videos, forward them to others and share these ideas with people you know.

TED’s videos may be used for non-commercial purposes under a Creative Commons License, Attribution–Non Commercial–No Derivatives (or the CC BY – NC – ND 4.0 International) and in accordance with our TED Talks Usage Policy (). For more information on using TED for commercial purposes (e.g. employee learning, in a film or online course), please submit a Media Request at

Continue Reading

Nonprofits & Activism

The US is back in the Paris Agreement. What’s next? | John Kerry and Al Gore

Take action on climate change at . On his first day as president, Joe Biden signed a letter of acceptance that set in motion the 30-day process for the United States to re-join the Paris Agreement on climate. On the day the US returns to the accord, John Kerry, the US Special Envoy for Climate,…

CYBER TECH TV

Published

on

Take action on climate change at .

On his first day as president, Joe Biden signed a letter of acceptance that set in motion the 30-day process for the United States to re-join the Paris Agreement on climate. On the day the US returns to the accord, John Kerry, the US Special Envoy for Climate, sits down with Nobel Laureate Al Gore to discuss the make-or-break decade ahead of us. Listen as Kerry lays out how the US fits into the global plan to get to net-zero emissions, explains why the COP26 UN climate conference could be humanity’s “last best hope” to build international momentum and explores the role of business and youth activists in promoting environmental justice. (This interview features an introduction from Christiana Figueres, the principal architect of the Paris Agreement.)

Countdown is TED’s global initiative to accelerate solutions to the climate crisis. The goal: to build a better future by cutting greenhouse gas emissions in half by 2030, in the race to a zero-carbon world. Get involved at

TED’s videos may be used for non-commercial purposes under a Creative Commons License, Attribution–Non Commercial–No Derivatives (or the CC BY – NC – ND 4.0 International) and in accordance with our TED Talks Usage Policy (). For more information on using TED for commercial purposes (e.g. employee learning, in a film or online course), please submit a Media Request at

Continue Reading

Trending