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An Alternative to the “Midlife Crisis” | Chip Conley | TED

Midlife doesn’t have to be a scary time, says entrepreneur Chip Conley. In this short yet profound talk, he takes inspiration from the natural world to reframe our 40s, 50s and 60s as a transitional stage that’s full of grace and beauty — and urges us all to make aging aspirational. If you love watching…

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Midlife doesn’t have to be a scary time, says entrepreneur Chip Conley. In this short yet profound talk, he takes inspiration from the natural world to reframe our 40s, 50s and 60s as a transitional stage that’s full of grace and beauty — and urges us all to make aging aspirational.

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  1. 🆃🅺𝓐 〘Pra𝖕a𝖙anKa𝖑i𝖘ar⃝i〙

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    ~Nelson Mandela
    in an address to the Joint Houses of Parliament, Westminster Hall, London, England, 11 July 1996

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  9. Gerald Merkowitz

    November 14, 2023 at 10:14 am

    It’s another way of saying that every crisis is an opportunity

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  11. A

    November 14, 2023 at 10:24 am

  12. Jadzia Merryweather

    November 14, 2023 at 10:24 am

    So it is the growing pains we experience before becoming wise elders — to ease into that, we have to fully release the idea of clinging to youth, and embrace the benefits of age. I think?

    • No One Star

      November 15, 2023 at 1:52 am

      “Before I start, I must see my end.
      Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins.
      Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed.
      In time, all points converge, hope’s strength resteeled.
      But to earn final peace at the Universe’s endless refrain,
      We must see all in nothingness…
      …before we start again.” –DD1
      🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨

  13. Sebastian Perez

    November 14, 2023 at 10:34 am

    👍🏻

  14. beef yogurt

    November 14, 2023 at 11:10 am

    bitcoin is hope

  15. Steve Muratore

    November 14, 2023 at 12:03 pm

    Chrysalis… or crucible might also be an appropriate framing. Getting through to the benefits of aging can take enduring the pressure of a crucible.

  16. Blade of Honor

    November 14, 2023 at 12:11 pm

    Ya sounds like everything you do is in vain..vanities of vanities only good thing about pain is that it will let you know that you’re still alive

  17. Mac Mcleod

    November 14, 2023 at 12:35 pm

    One reason men have a mid life crisis is declining testosterone.

    Get checked. If under 300, you will have loss of natural sexual interest and ability (which can mean needing stronger stimulus), lower quality asleep, night seats, foggy thinking, and worst of all a constant feeling of dread like you were asked to see the boss at closing time or pulled over by the police.

    Manufactored T is expensive and only offered by top insurance but compounded T is $60 to $100 pet month. Shots are the least expensive but now require a visit to the doctors office since abuse made T a controlled substance.

    I am a testicular cancer survivor so it hit me early in my 40s. I’ve been on HRT for 2 decades. It’s wonderful.

  18. My Name's Robb With Two B's

    November 14, 2023 at 1:44 pm

    He spoke of “the three decades of longevity we were granted in the 20th century,” speaking of the 60s 70s and 80s. NO!

    This refers to the idea of “life expectancy” being far less in past years. The term “life expectancy” is a misused term that makes people think in the past people only lived to 30-40 years of age and then died. This isn’t true!

    People ALWAYS lived to their 70s 80s or 90s throughout all human history. The reason that stupid pseudoscience term “life expectancy” is so low is because of infant mortality and childhood diseases killing the youth. But if you made it past childhood you probably were going to live to be very old.

    Stop using this stupid term! It just shows how little science people actually know and how much they just parrot.

  19. Carson Hunt

    November 14, 2023 at 2:05 pm

    It’s not about it not being cool to grow old. It’s about how our entire youth is wasted in vain, because we are told “just behave the way society wants you to, sacrifice your youth and time doing menial work and wasting your talent, and one day it’ll be worth it because society will allow you to have decent pay/house/family.
    The problem with the generations under the boomers is none of this was true for majority of ppl, making ppl resentful/depressed.

    • Steve Muratore

      November 19, 2023 at 3:32 pm

      If you don’t endure the foibles of youth, how will you be able to emerge into the wisdom and joy of old age?

    • Carson Hunt

      November 19, 2023 at 3:58 pm

      @Steve Muratore
      The average FIRST TIME homeowner in 2023 is 35 years old, childless, and makes 96k.
      If you know how fertility works you’ll understand this means almost none of them are getting to have a family.
      But yes reaching old age with no kids and living in an apartment, working a min wage job with a 4yr degree… they’ll be so wise .. unfortunate they won’t have kids to pass their wisdom to.

  20. Rubens Mochi de Miranda

    November 14, 2023 at 3:17 pm

    Sra. Jovem Nerd, “best of the best of the best, sir” !

  21. Sirisha Penmetcha

    November 14, 2023 at 3:46 pm

    What a great way to rethink midlife! Wonderful talk. Wish it was longer.

  22. Civil Savant

    November 14, 2023 at 4:16 pm

    The real crisis is in your early life, when your head is still empty and you have to pay close attention to the world all around you, unaware that it is nothing but lies.

    You’re told to pledge your allegiance to your nation while simultaneously submitting to a presence of authority that is trained to betray the nation as a profession.
    You’re told wealth and freedom is the reward for hard work, so you work yourself half to death through what should be the best years of your life.
    You’re told to vote because your government represents you through policy while voting actually has zero impact on what happens and you have no representation in that government at all.
    You’re told the god that wants you to slaughter the unbelievers is good and the devil that wants you to get along with each other is bad.

    Mid-life is only when you have done all the listening and are at last ready to lift the curtain, and realize that nothing in the world is what you have been brainwashed to interpret it as. You begin to understand that you can’t support your nation while tolerating the traitors who are paid to terrorize and murder it. You’ll never get to do anything for yourself if you show your owners that you’ll give your all for them. You’ll never see a legitimate government in your country if you continue legitimizing the occupier that presides. You’ll never be worthy of paradise unless you do whatever it takes to halt the suffering in this world and make a paradise out of it.

    It’s not a mid-life crisis, it’s a mid-life awakening to the crisis that is our entire paradigm. It is a realization of all the horrible evil in the world that you have let slip past you without facing any confrontation or consequences. How could anyone’s happiness not take a nose-dive when we reach that point? When we are becoming aware of how much work it will be to fix all of this, how much of our life we’ll have to sacrifice so the next generation can have humanity’s first chance for genuine freedom in tens of thousands of years, how much has to be destroyed before anything good can even be discussed, and how tedious it will be to bring the consequences to the ones who need it. It is, naturally, all extremely stressful.

  23. Piptipus

    November 14, 2023 at 6:43 pm

    🌸

  24. 45°N regenerative homesteading

    November 15, 2023 at 5:10 am

    Well… considering the alternative, to grow old is not so bad!

  25. 몰랑이 님피아 💖

    November 15, 2023 at 6:38 am

    It makes sense. Confucianism also teaches that the goal of life is to try to become a good man countinously and endlessly. A good man can be butterfly.

  26. My Motorrad

    November 15, 2023 at 8:12 am

    50 on? Not for me. It’s a decade off.

  27. Silvia

    November 16, 2023 at 4:00 am

    Short & sweet and so beautiful 😊

  28. Al

    November 16, 2023 at 2:17 pm

    The title says he’s speaking to people in their 40’s, but the content is using symbology we use for children.

  29. Brian - The person reading this is awesome.

    November 17, 2023 at 5:26 pm

    Midlife S – is always on my mind. But had a lot of horrible stuff happen. See how we go.

    (I’m almost 36)

    Hopefully I can transform.

  30. Serhii kostenko

    November 19, 2023 at 12:59 am

    Что первое приходит вам на ум, когда вы слышите слово «средний возраст»? Кризис, да. Страшный кризис среднего возраста является предметом всевозможных шуток. Но это тоже серьезное дело. После того, как я потерял нескольких друзей из-за самоубийства среднего возраста, я решил создать альтернативную историю тому ужасному образу, которым мы склонны думать о своих 40-, 50- и 60-летних. И я собираюсь поделиться этим с вами в течение следующих трех минут. Средний возраст — один из трех этапов жизни, возникших в 20 веке. Подросткового возраста даже не существовало до 1904 года, когда общество осознало, что достижение половой зрелости не означает, что вы взрослый человек. Выход на пенсию был популяризирован почти столетие назад благодаря пенсиям и социальному обеспечению, а затем, 25 лет спустя, с появлением AARP, я надеюсь, что у вас есть карта и пенсионные сообщества. Эти два этапа жизни получили много любви. Но посередине есть жизненный этап, который не пользуется большим уважением. Средний возраст — это естественный результат трех десятилетий дополнительного долголетия, дарованных нам в 20 веке. Но все, что у него было, это плохой бренд, кризис среднего возраста, который был придуман в 1965 году. Однако исследования того, как счастье развивается с возрастом, показывают, что примерно с 22 или 23 лет и вплоть до 45–50 лет существует долгий, медленное снижение удовлетворенности жизнью. Он достигает минимума от 45 до 50, хотя ваш пробег может варьироваться. С другой стороны, хорошая новость заключается в том, что начиная с 50 лет мы становимся все счастливее и счастливее. Это называется U-кривая счастья. Так что, возможно, существует новая концепция для размышлений о среднем возрасте, та, которую мы усвоили, когда были детьми, — волшебная метаморфоза гусеницы в бабочку. Точно так же, как гусеница непрерывно ест, прежде чем она собирается сплести куколку, так и мы, молодые люди, безумно потребляем и производим. И тогда гусеница решает сделать перерыв в середине жизни в своей куколке, которая темна, липка и одинока, но именно здесь происходит трансформация. С другой стороны куколка трескается, и появляется прекрасное крылатое существо, которое радует всех нас, — бабочка. Итак, подведем итоги: гусеница потребляет, куколка трансформируется, а бабочка опыляет. Что, если мы переосмыслим средний возраст так, чтобы это был не кризис, а куколка, куколка среднего возраста. Что, если бы мы думали о среднем возрасте как о рассвете новой эпохи, эпохи, когда большая часть того, что мы накопили, растворяется, так же, как мы готовы трансформироваться, расправить крылья и опылить нашу мудрость миру в возрасте 50 лет и старше. Если ты… Да-да! Если так посмотреть на жизнь, возможно, стареть – это круто. Готовы ли мы к продуктам, способствующим старению, а не антивозрастным продуктам? Можем ли мы сделать старение желанным? Я очень на это надеюсь. Спасибо.

  31. Yael Schy

    November 19, 2023 at 11:33 pm

    Thank you Chip! I’m a Baby Boomer who is passionate about positive aging & using the arts to create intergenerational connections. I’m the founder of Zoomers to Boomers Improv, a virtual intergenerational, international improv theater program. I’m also a songwriter. After hearing your TED talk a couple of days ago, I was inspired to write a new song, “I Wanna Grow Old!” Thank you for the inspiration—YES we need to make aging aspirational! ❤️

  32. Paulo

    November 20, 2023 at 6:55 am

    Pro aging products? try coke, cigar, sweets and get 8am to 10pm office job.

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