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Work Is Not Your Family | Gloria Chan Packer | TED

You may need to hear this (if you haven’t already): your job is not your family. While you can develop meaningful relationships with your colleagues, calling work your family can actually breed burnout and be detrimental to your mental and emotional health. Mental wellness educator Gloria Chan Packer walks through the exercises you need to…

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You may need to hear this (if you haven’t already): your job is not your family. While you can develop meaningful relationships with your colleagues, calling work your family can actually breed burnout and be detrimental to your mental and emotional health. Mental wellness educator Gloria Chan Packer walks through the exercises you need to shift your perspective and redraw the boundaries between your work and personal life, so you can feel freer and more empowered.

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  1. Shuhin Kachi

    October 9, 2022 at 2:08 pm

    For me, the level of trust between family members is really high.

    And I would sacrifice my own life for them.

    I work with my teammates using the same principle.

    • niccolom

      October 9, 2022 at 6:01 pm

      Your real family members won’t require you to sacrifice your own life for them everyday.
      Your teammates who you treat as family members does, if your team does anything important.

      That’s exactly why people get burnt out.

  2. Michelle Bennett

    October 9, 2022 at 2:10 pm

    My husband worked for his sister and brother in law for about 8 years. In the end they definitely were taking advantage of him and had been bullying him because he didn’t want to become management. even though they often called him in emergency situations in the middle of the night, his manager was responsible for it but didn’t puck up the phone he still didn’t want that responsibly. After he got sick they started bullying him….. ignoring what the company doctor said and over worked him….. they even printed a letter from his lawyer to the owners and hung it up in the office for everyone to read.
    Never work for family if you can avoid it. Even your sister could betray you and let her husband bullying you to try to get you to quite because they have to legal reason to fire you.

  3. Matthew

    October 9, 2022 at 2:17 pm

    but how to find a gf in this times? its nearly impossible

  4. jorge arteaga

    October 9, 2022 at 2:19 pm

    Anyone who disagrees with topic should reconsider and seek professional mental help.

  5. Claudia Claudia

    October 9, 2022 at 2:38 pm

    Nothing like family 🤔we are stocks/check$

  6. L S

    October 9, 2022 at 2:45 pm

    Wow if you would wear a Cape and mask… You would be superhero
    You are great at this… 😳
    Thank you

    • @𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭𝐬𝐚𝐩𝐩+𝟏𝟖𝟓𝟖𝟕𝟑𝟑𝟗𝟖𝟗𝟐

      October 10, 2022 at 12:45 am

      ✉️✉️☝️☝️

  7. Arabella Doucette

    October 9, 2022 at 3:01 pm

    I’ve come to realize as an investor that instead of letting my money sit idle in my savings account it is more productive to invest the little available and build a portfolio from the accumulated profit of investment

    • @𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭𝐬𝐚𝐩𝐩+𝟏𝟖𝟓𝟖𝟕𝟑𝟑𝟗𝟖𝟗𝟐

      October 10, 2022 at 12:45 am

      ✉️✉️☝️

  8. Buggy Boy

    October 9, 2022 at 3:22 pm

    Work is my family and my boss is my creepy uncle.

  9. Youil Aushana

    October 9, 2022 at 3:38 pm

    Yep, I was abused to the max as a child too! I guess it is my warped sense of reality and what is caring and loving and giving.

  10. 💰 Make $750 Per Day

    October 9, 2022 at 3:43 pm

    “Good things come to people who wait, but better things come to those who go out and get them.” —Anonymous

  11. Gracefully Insane

    October 9, 2022 at 3:51 pm

    “Work is your family” is a sinister manipulation tactic to take advantage of men and women’s biological drives.

  12. Sole Planter

    October 9, 2022 at 4:07 pm

    Thank you 🙏

  13. Blue Blue

    October 9, 2022 at 4:28 pm

    Imagine in China they pull 20hr shifts

  14. flyingmobias

    October 9, 2022 at 5:03 pm

    Steven pinker’s book The blank slate disagrees…

  15. Harry Evans

    October 9, 2022 at 5:04 pm

    I know it’s being really picky but “I and my team” sounds so awkward, it’s my team and I, or myself and my team.

    • @𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭𝐬𝐚𝐩𝐩+𝟏𝟖𝟓𝟖𝟕𝟑𝟑𝟗𝟖𝟗𝟐

      October 10, 2022 at 12:46 am

      Appreciate your feedback 👍..👆👆do well to drop a note.

      Let’s talk 👆directly❣️

  16. PapaSokratis

    October 9, 2022 at 5:31 pm

    *Michael Scott left the chat*

  17. A Jung Fan

    October 9, 2022 at 5:56 pm

    All these wellness experts- no clinical training- no psychological practice qualification…

  18. niccolom

    October 9, 2022 at 6:02 pm

    You’re expected to sacrifice your wellbeing for the good of your family, but that doesn’t happen very often in an average family.

    But at work, situations happen day in and day out. If you treat your colleagues as family, you’ll be required to sacrifice your wellbeing day in and day out. That’s probably the quickest way to get burnt out.

    As for boundaries, the management wants to break and blur it so that you would work harder and work more for them.

    Treating work as family has everything good for the companies, and don’t have any benefits to the workers.

    Don’t let your work be your whole identity.

  19. Tom Nook

    October 9, 2022 at 6:34 pm

    I WFH. Problem solved

  20. Shellshocked Radio

    October 9, 2022 at 6:43 pm

    This was a good talk, wanted to send ot to my boss, but rather not do that … but yes, just lately I want a separation between workplace and private life. This is a good reminder with a few good pointers.

  21. M.K.

    October 9, 2022 at 7:37 pm

    I feel exactly like she’s describing.

  22. Emilio G.

    October 9, 2022 at 8:38 pm

    And just like many families there is dysfunction. It’s Bullshit. A job is transactional. Companies don’t care about employees. A loving family doesn’t get rid of a family member just to make more money. Family? Really? Maybe more like a mafia family.

  23. kmegaming

    October 9, 2022 at 9:10 pm

    i seen so much co workers talk bad about each other behind each other’s back…

  24. Shino Whitlock

    October 10, 2022 at 12:09 am

    What do I do if it’s the family company?

    • Youil Aushana

      October 10, 2022 at 3:33 am

      My folks used me for free labor. They just forgot I was an individual human.

  25. Glory ToGod

    October 10, 2022 at 12:45 am

    ✝️
    *For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world through Him might be saved. “He who believes in Him is not condemned; but he who does not believe is condemned already, because he has not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God. And this is the condemnation, that the light has come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil. For everyone practicing evil hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his deeds should be exposed. But he who does the truth comes to the light, that his deeds may be clearly seen, that they have been done in God.”*
    John 3:16‭-‬21 ✝️

  26. Marco M

    October 10, 2022 at 2:41 am

    To my hot coworker: wincest?

  27. Ashley Ching

    October 10, 2022 at 3:20 am

    Warning sign of a cult

  28. Mark Henry

    October 10, 2022 at 4:22 am

    Interesting Show!!!! But Let me Drop this; The wisest thing that should be on every wise individual’s list is to invest in different stream of income

    • Patrick Presley

      October 10, 2022 at 4:39 am

      @Mark Henry do you mind hooking me up with your coach🙏🙏🙏

    • Mark Henry

      October 10, 2022 at 4:42 am

      *TERESA JENSEN WHITE,* That’s whom i work with

    • Mark Henry

      October 10, 2022 at 4:45 am

      You can just put her name on google and you will be directed to her website and drop her your message.

    • harmony connie

      October 10, 2022 at 4:48 am

      Wow .. I came across this name TERESA JENSEN WHITE, when I was really looking to start up some investments. But I wasn’t given much information about her… Thank you for this, Even if that’s not the reason we are here…. it was helpful. thanks

    • Patrick Presley

      October 10, 2022 at 4:50 am

      Thanks so much I was able to find her page and I already leave her a message.

  29. Georges Landry

    October 10, 2022 at 5:47 am

    I’ll stop when I’m free…

  30. None of your Damn Business

    October 10, 2022 at 7:57 am

    *Eventually we spend more time at work than with our family 🤦🏽‍♀️*

  31. RollieB89

    October 10, 2022 at 1:34 pm

    I always hated when this comment was said in any company that I worked in

  32. Aquel Aquel

    October 10, 2022 at 1:58 pm

    We’re like family, only when it’s bad and a huge workload, but I’m the CEO/Cheif/BOSS/MANAGER when it comes to bonuses, travel expenses, benefits, vacation etc

  33. 楊小藍

    October 10, 2022 at 3:17 pm

    Actually i deeply hate one of my colleagues,i carry out many issues whereas he evades any responsibilities. How do i need to cooperate with a selfish,greedy,god damn helpless guy like him then i can’t change anything but standing still in the same position. So disgusting.

  34. djw8888

    October 10, 2022 at 7:09 pm

    My brother invited so many of his coworkers to his wedding…and then was laid off the following month…right before Christmas. Happy Holidays! said his “family.”

    • Alika Andrade

      October 10, 2022 at 7:28 pm

      Oof

  35. cybersekkin

    October 11, 2022 at 4:37 am

    With a growing number of companies hiring on mental health services, I would suggest finding a service not connected to your company. In the end of the day the ones your company hires report to the company. Also I see some “sessions” coming through that are undisguised company rallies and not in any way out for the employees wellbeing. If you need it, get helth services for yourself, but make sure they are there for you and not just to get you back on the treadmill quicker for the companies bottom line.

    • Moody Blues

      October 11, 2022 at 1:59 pm

      I don’t know where you’re from, but in my country there are laws against this. Employers are not even allowed why you are sick, only the health service which is an intermediate company with no affiliation to your company apart from them being chosen to handle their employees’ sickness and such. Whatever I tell that health service remains between us unless explicitly approved by me and me only. This goes for a simple cold all the way to chronic diseases and mental health issues. Of course, I’ve come to experience that it does help when you’re not totally throwing up a wall and just say “I’m sick” when having other issues, but it’s up to you how much you want to share. I too went through a burnout and somewhat of a depression and at that point all my employer knew was that I was having a burnout, nothing more. I picked up a great contact for a psychologist thanks to the health service, but without my employers knowledge. All that was shared with them was an expected date at which I was most likely to be able to work again and how my reintegration would work, nothing more.

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  40. Angela West

    October 12, 2022 at 3:02 am

    working in childcare definitely is an environment where they try to say “we’re like family” but then really overwork you and undervalue you. It’s definitely a phrase that psychologically manipulates you and burns you out. I definitely have been burnt out from that and have started setting boundaries myself, while also trying to find a different job.

  41. Charlotte

    October 12, 2022 at 9:12 am

    12:50ish “we’re like a professional sports team” this works👊🏻💯

  42. zhackoshhh

    October 12, 2022 at 11:07 am

    This British or American accent?

  43. Erica

    October 12, 2022 at 3:16 pm

    I used to be guilty of this, but realized that I was using coworkers and overwork to fill sad empty spaces in my personal life.

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