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@sarahachord9295
September 4, 2025 at 11:34 am
Yeah im not going to watch this but this is ridiculous. You have a very limited time on this planet. Extremely short time while your kids are young. Spend every available second with them that you have. My kids are free range but I’m there not helicopter mom, present mom. I play with them i show up for them. But i also have to work. When im not at work im with them. And all kids are not the same if i leave my second born on his own for any amount of time he will be committing a crime.
@PewPewJet
September 4, 2025 at 11:35 am
Wtf, who do you want them to spend time with? Your neighbor? Online predators? 😂
@lallameriem3846
September 4, 2025 at 11:35 am
Outfit goals😋
@brichard9485
September 4, 2025 at 11:38 am
What if the parents want to give the kids freedom, but live in Georgia where parents will be jailed for letting their kids do anything even as teenagers? Read about the mother of the 12-year-old whose child walks a mile to the store.
@SQ_SherryQ
September 4, 2025 at 12:03 pm
We just experienced this. The problem is the amount of KNOWN offenders in the neighborhoods
@lenoreskenazy8595
September 4, 2025 at 4:27 pm
Let Grow, the nonprofit I helm, just helped pass a “Reasonable Childhood Independence” law in Georgia. It says neglect is when you put your kid in obvious, serious danger — not anytime you take your eyes off them. This protects parents who want to give their kids more independence, as well as those in poverty who literally cannot AFFORD to helicopter. Ten other states have passed this law so far.
@fairygodmomma2313
September 4, 2025 at 11:40 am
Free range kids🤣
@fairygodmomma2313
September 4, 2025 at 11:46 am
… wildlife sanctuary for childhood lol
@yimnobody4499
September 4, 2025 at 11:50 am
I understood what you are trying to say.
But my mom never really tried to communicate with us. When I was a kid, she had already been on her phone all day, never spent time playing or talking with me and my brothers. When I grew up a little bit, I was feeling depressed at that time and tried to talk to her about myself. She frowned, gave me a look that made me feel like I was disturbing her. I ended up crying together with my brothers because we all felt like she didn’t love us. Now I am an adult, we don’t need her company anymore. But luckily we have a father who is willing to spent more time playing and chatting with us. Otherwise, I am certained that I might stepped onto a wrong path and ruined my life.
That is why you should not spent less time with your kids…… If your kid feels insecure and unlove, all the “independence thing” blablabla is just nonsense 😢
@DiyorbekMamarajabov-i5j
September 4, 2025 at 9:10 pm
You are negative!
@techthis9568
September 4, 2025 at 11:54 am
The next Ted Talk will be titled “Just Don’t Have Your Kids At All”
@KaptajnKaffe
September 4, 2025 at 1:19 pm
It’s not really her point to leave your kids, just yo let them roam and go on adventure.
Trust me, it is good for the parents too.
@SQ_SherryQ
September 4, 2025 at 12:06 pm
5:33 fact 1 800,000 kids a year in America go missing
@pasoduc1
September 4, 2025 at 1:18 pm
The number is closer to 500,000 and almost 98% are found.
@mattcal6423
September 4, 2025 at 12:06 pm
This is evil
@securityoffers
September 4, 2025 at 12:17 pm
Speaker bought the gold package for writing positive comment by bot from east Asian agency😂
@Lirililarilastoy
September 4, 2025 at 12:36 pm
anyone only gain access to TED talks only to improve their listening🥰🥰
@Denise-nl6xk
September 4, 2025 at 12:58 pm
I saw you all over the tv! Good for you!
@Denise-nl6xk
September 4, 2025 at 1:06 pm
She’s not saying don’t spend time with your children, just give them space to grow. Not in the city alone, in your neighborhood let them ride their bike around the block, go call on a friend down the street without you walking them down. Not one extreme or the other.
@annabelmarkel5595
September 4, 2025 at 1:11 pm
I love this woman and her message, even though I do not really agree. My parents weren’t helicopter parents by any means, but they were very present and we were sensitized to any dangers (everywhere). Did it cause anxiety longterm? Maybe yes. At the same time in a world where these dangers are imminent, I am happy to be on the lookout and not naive. I agree that kids should be left to figure out problems in a safe environment and watched by at least one parent (without them being necessarily aware they are being observed). Even though us younger generations really do seem more fragile, and I admire the strength and vigilence in the older generations, I do appreciate being aware. Times have changed and God forbid you wanna teach your child independence when a creep is deciding to take advantage of it. The world is effed.
@NETreks
September 4, 2025 at 1:12 pm
Yeah, I’m spending every single second that I can with my kids because . Thanks for the input though.
@keqing7171
September 5, 2025 at 4:13 am
If the amount is less than all their free time, than why not. The point is, they should have some unsupervised time to experiment
@K4R3N
September 4, 2025 at 2:17 pm
I always encourage my kids to make plans (outdoors) with their friends after school rather than coming straight home and sitting on their phones/tablets/computer. I even give them a little money to go spend at convenience store or ice cream shop.
@ingislakur
September 4, 2025 at 2:23 pm
Nahh, in Europe its not possible anymore because of immigration policies.
@JonDoee2343
September 4, 2025 at 3:41 pm
The problem is parents already do not parent their children. In most cases that I see the kids are raised by Tic Tok or Roblox. She makes a good point, but parents need to raise their kids with morals and ethics, I don’t see it where I live.
@mrfalleo
September 4, 2025 at 4:04 pm
This is bad advice, children need role models and if they do not have a role model or supportive figure it could be detrimental to their life and mental health. I coldly disagree, and I know from experience of having no one, but myself… I was manipulated, dragged around, and very isolated, It took me years to find myself, which unfortunately was my closest role model. in terrible times. I created a father-like role model to remind me, of values or what it means to be a good man.
@keqing7171
September 5, 2025 at 4:18 am
Yeah, but she’s definitely talking to good parents, who worry too much, but if you don’t spend time with your kids at all, you should do it, but if you never give them space, that’s also not great. So the name of the video is a rage bait, but to certain ppl her advice is great
@birdwatcher287
September 5, 2025 at 2:28 pm
Did you watch it?
@radiofriendly
September 4, 2025 at 4:29 pm
It’s simple. 1970s parenting. Do it, including taking away the phones.
@Realistic316
September 4, 2025 at 4:36 pm
letting your children grow on their own is one thing, but letting your 9yr old ride the NYC subway alone is ridiculous… if i have to explain why, then you shouldn’t be a parent
@astoriatan9841
September 5, 2025 at 12:11 am
I get why American think that’s a bad idea even though it’s a good way to develop a lot of things and not spoiled too much – A lot of crime over there / if you see Japan for example, they already do this
@Realistic316
September 5, 2025 at 12:14 am
@@astoriatan9841 if i could guarantee my kid doesn’t get kidnapped, then sure
@birdwatcher287
September 5, 2025 at 2:16 pm
Letting my rural 9 yo kid do so, probably bad idea but if it is their everyday life riding subways. Depends on kid
@bradleybell9581
September 5, 2025 at 4:00 pm
Ahhh yes, using the ad hominem fallacy. All that your comment shows is that you are ignorant of the world around you. People have been doing this all throughout time. It sounds like you and I both were scared into believing the stranger danger narrative as kids. I hope you can move on, it’s freeing. You and your kids will thank you.
@lamcho00
September 4, 2025 at 6:26 pm
I can somewhat agree, helicopter parenting is very bad for the children. They need to have the freedom and self-sufficiency in order to develop properly.
On the other hand, freedom is not staying away and not being there when they need you the most. If you are constantly leaving your kids with nannies, summer school, grand parents, friends, etc. they will learn to live without you. At this point the damage in the relationship with your children is already done, and you’ll never have a functional family anymore. Just paying the bills is not enough for an upbringing. Maybe that damage can be healed? I don’t know. But in my personal experience, I’ve never seen it healed.
During the teenage years all those “lost” children tend to become close friends. Friends that will substitute the family they lack at home. As the saying goes “birds of a feather flock together”. During my time being defiant youth meant listening to alternative music and doing drugs. Today this has changed to being a shut in gamer, gay/lgbt+, or conspiracy theorist. Just so that those children can feel like they belong somewhere.
Don’t make that mistake. Be there for your children when they need you and stay away when they don’t. Be strict when you see they’re heading at a dead end, but let the children navigate alone, so they can find and avoid those dead ends in the future when you are gone for good.
@RussellWaldrop
September 5, 2025 at 8:58 am
That’s not what she’s advocating for.
@Gaming-RBLX-DoNotDisturb8273
September 4, 2025 at 8:19 pm
Lenore Skenazy, are you familiar with platforms like X, TikTok, Snapchat, Discord, and Roblox?
@DiyorbekMamarajabov-i5j
September 4, 2025 at 9:08 pm
She’s 100% right!
@gracethapa8978
September 4, 2025 at 9:27 pm
I agree with Ms. Skenazy. Thank you for continuing your work.
@lonzo61
September 4, 2025 at 11:43 pm
It’s absurd that this even needs to be said out loud. And twelve years on, I don’t believe things are much better in this regard. Coddled kids are unhealthy kids!
@naganwhat8364
September 5, 2025 at 1:17 am
The other side of the spectrum she is trying to talk about (overprotective parents) is so extremely rare these days, she was better off making a ted talk about how to be less neglectful towards your children, that would get a huuuuuuge following 🙃
@kazcaz
September 5, 2025 at 9:33 am
Why do you say it’s rare?
Working at University it’s not rare to have the parent call up with their adult or almost adult child next to them, parent doing all the talking and liaising with their kid, when really their to-be University student should be asking the questions.
Overprotectiveness can be a form of neglect, because you’re not preparing your child for the world and they are going to be thrown in the deep end.
@BeSafeAndQuestionEVERYTHING
September 5, 2025 at 1:39 am
Yes but with all the frightening news wanting to cage us, we cage the children.
Predictive Planning has been the agenda
@sutanmudo88
September 5, 2025 at 3:20 am
😂😂😂
@ionageman
September 5, 2025 at 3:36 am
Parents are creating the next generation of factory workers
@psevdonim257
September 5, 2025 at 4:06 am
the rich will not understand the poor and vice versa
@alaynecritchley-babapulle9022
September 5, 2025 at 5:06 am
We are based in the UK, but I spent my primary school age in Germany. People are totally perplexed when I tell them that a group of us kids were expected to walk to school everyday. We had to cross a busy dual carriage way, safely, get there on time, etc.
Now, the primary school here in the UK doesn’t allow the kids to go to school on their own! We live in a village location, with a footpath and cycle lane all of the way there, and yet I have to shove the kids into the car and drive them there. It’s crazy to me.
@RussellWaldrop
September 5, 2025 at 8:57 am
I mean… would they turn away the kids if they took the footpath?
@birdwatcher287
September 5, 2025 at 2:13 pm
Truly, just stop taking them. Is it a law?
@KhosiBeha
September 5, 2025 at 7:43 am
We put our 13 year old son to a flight to Kenya, alone. He spent 6 weeks with my mother and sisters, in the village away from the privileges of Germany. He loved it. We were okay with it. We worried, yes, but we let him be. Every time someone hears this, they get shocked 😂.
@candicerios3847
September 5, 2025 at 11:45 am
Congratulations on your Ted Talk Lenore 🎉
@NemoOmen-q4w
September 5, 2025 at 12:39 pm
Can’t take this clownish outfit ….. I’m out .
@StevenDavis-co3uv
September 5, 2025 at 4:56 pm
I agree tho .. it’s how you learn to survive bub .!..?
@ttchang9
September 5, 2025 at 7:57 pm
Feel like the speaker is just trying to find a topic to research. The world is not as safe as before. We have to admit. So many kidnapping happens nowadays. Yes, it is reasonable to leave kids away from you like maybe is a safe neighborhood or neighbors or friends backyard to play. But is she going to be responsible for kids safety?
@jptouch11
September 6, 2025 at 10:21 am
Love reading the comments. It’s so obvious who actually listen to it and who just jumped on her. She’s completely right. I am who I am because of the freedom I have as a child and my parents were excellent.
@JeremiahStith
September 6, 2025 at 6:17 pm
I remember our parents let us jump on the trampoline unsupervised. One time they came outside to watch and I remember all the fun ending for that one day.
@LenaLens143
September 6, 2025 at 6:19 pm
She’s so pretty♡
@J.A.R.V.I.S4
September 7, 2025 at 2:55 am
Yeah right, Spend less time with kids but also don’t let them spend more time with smartphones.
@kennethbroad8524
September 7, 2025 at 1:19 pm
As someone who has followed Jon Haidt’s work closely since the “Righteous Mind,” his teaming with Lenore for LetGrow is a logical “vertical integration” with problems outlined in “Coddling of the American Mind” and the “Anxious Generation.” As Jon has astutely noted, parents have been overprotecting kids in the physical world while underprotecting them in the digital realm. Lenore’s message is an important one that should be embraced by all parents for the ultimate greater benefit to their children.
@l.johnston6836
September 7, 2025 at 2:09 pm
YES to free range kids! Thank you for this important message. ❤