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   Namulema zulaika

   March 8, 2023 at 10:33 am

   Think of something you already do regularly, without fail. Simply attach a new habit to that, so you’re allowing the new habit to piggyback off the old. Imagine introducing vitamins to go with your perfect cup of morning tea. Or picture calling a loved one on a regular drive.

   Notice that you have zeroed in on the behavior, rather than just focusing on the goal. You’ve met your outcome, to be sure, but you achieved this by simply planting the means in the right place. One habit produced the other, as if by magic.

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     SomethingEdgy

     March 8, 2023 at 10:38 am

     Great advice

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2. 

   Jon R

   March 8, 2023 at 10:39 am

   Did he just take 5mins to say ?? Your ego hates other people doing things you ‘could’ do (better, arrogantly).

   If you don’t join in maybe next time they will ask someone else… No dinero for you… Pure market forces.

   Also we are a distributed tribe, and himans HATE isolation. Of course you want to be part of things…

   We BUILT this hamster wheel, the American dream. Be the best version of yourself. Don’t be a slacker. Go for the win.

   The only way to win is not to play. Do what you should, not everything you could.

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   Ahmed Aziz

   March 8, 2023 at 10:45 am

   Excellent

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     LOBO321

     March 8, 2023 at 9:40 pm

     exelent

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4. 

   The Barking Mouse

   March 8, 2023 at 10:58 am

   Well one thing you do is you don’t call blatantly unscientific positions science…

   “Anorexia is a dysmorphic disorder that leads to people killing themselves.” This is why we try to help people with anorexia overcome the delusions (Can’t link source (thanks youtube for suppressing actual science). Mesh terms are anorexia nervosa delusion pubmed) which are at the root of their disease. Whether they are overvalued ideals (I want to be thin) or strict delusions (I’m fat).

   What we DON’T do is feed into those delusions by encouraging them to go even further. Recommending so-called transgender surgery to a patient who believes they are a different gender, is like recommending liposuction, eating less, weight loss, and appetite-suppressing drugs to an anorexic with less than 4% body fat.

   It is exactly the opposite of what that patient needs.

   In my view, transgender people fall into three camps. The first is the healthy variety. The least common. These are people who realize that they are what they are, and they choose to live as another gender and are willing to accept the inconvenience, pain, potentially shortened life due to hormones, and public scrutiny. I have two friends like this. I was at their respective weddings. But neither of them has any delusions about what they are. In a conversation with the FTM, she told me that she understands she is very probably shortening her life by 10 to 20 years because of the combination of testosterone and estrogen blockers. She was mentally stable, and happy before her transition. And she is mentally stable and happy now. That is a nondelusional person who recognizes that they are posing as another gender and that’s how they want to live their life. And I support that in those cases.

   The second variety is the delusional. The people who believe they actually have changed from female to male or male to female. That is delusion in the face of reality. And that should not be celebrated or encouraged, and no surgery or hormone therapy should be given in that case. Those people should be treated for their mental illness. The same way that you treat someone suffering from anorexia nervosa.

   The third group are transtrenders. These are people who are rolling with the trend. Many of them may overlap with the delusional category, but that’s a case-by-case. Many of these people are very young, under the influence of public trends. Your typical young person who’s going through a crisis of identity. Which is something that every young person goes through as they grow from a child into an adult. The problem is now you’ve got this entire industry targeting these people telling them that their normal adolescent angst is actually gender dysmorphia and then push and encourage them to follow this path of transgenderism. Frankly that is evil. It isn’t like becoming Emo or goth, which are entirely reversible conditions. This leads to permanent physiological and psychological damage.

   Currently, the left is engaging in an all fronts War to influence the second and third type to grab onto transgenderism as their flag. And then fly that flag and hate anyone who attempts to actually help them. This is an extension of the prior push, which was more subtle, where they push adolescents into adopting lgb Lifestyles, and then set up the straw man that conservatives are their enemy because they’re gay. But conservative person doesn’t care how you live your life as long as you’re not hurting others. The line gets drawn when you start pushing particular lifestyles on children or the mentally ill who can’t reasonably make decisions.

   For the second and third type, the delusional and transtrenders, psychological and or psychiatric should be the approach. Not encouraging them to delve ever deeper into delusion.

   First, face what you really are. Get healthy in that space. Then, as a consenting adult who is not delusional, if you wish to pretend to be another gender, then that’s your choice as an adult.

   I draw another line at being forced to call someone a woman, who is not. I will be polite, As Long As You Are. But I will not pull punches on the facts of the case. And if you decide to try to insist that I call you a woman, when you are not. I will refuse. In the history of humankind no man has ever become a woman. That’s reality.

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5. 

   galimba

   March 8, 2023 at 11:28 am

   Dr. Who: Don’t Blink!
   Director: Staring contest?
   Rob: You’re on!

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     galimba

     March 8, 2023 at 11:29 am

     Srsly though… this is great advice, and I’m eager to read the book now. Thanks for sharing!

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   Thato Mofolo

   March 8, 2023 at 11:51 am

   📍📍📍💯

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   Stuart

   March 8, 2023 at 12:01 pm

   Wow. Thank you, Mr. Cross! This is wonderful and definitely could be made into a 60 minute masterclass.

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8. 

   Carson Hunt

   March 8, 2023 at 1:33 pm

   I don’t “burn out”, I get tired of being exploited and doing everything with zero reward or incentive for doing so.
   4 jobs over 10 years, never seen a single raise to anyone for working hard (even where I was a manager, could not give raises, also was told not to promote ppl who knew how to do lots because they were needed in their current positions).

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     krux02

     March 9, 2023 at 6:56 am

     That is pretty much what a burn out is. Lots of work without reward. Id software did not burn out. They worked crazy hard, but they were also celebrated like pop stars. Getting nothing done burns you out as well.

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9. 

   Shaik Mohammad Abdullah

   March 8, 2023 at 1:43 pm

   Awesome work team Ted. Will write an article summing up these points and post it in my socials.

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10. 

    Alex Cerny

    March 8, 2023 at 8:38 pm

    Just in time for my Senior Design project in IE!
    Had to meet with my team way more often to fix a borderline failing interim with 6 weeks before final phase.

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    Nguyễn Gia Kiên

    March 9, 2023 at 3:52 am

    lol

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12. 

    Noel BOURNE

    March 9, 2023 at 11:30 am

    Excellent information. Thanks!

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