Fathers have a profound impact on their children’s lives, yet an estimated ten million kids in the US see their dads less than once a month. Through his advocacy and mental health center, therapist Charles C. Daniels, Jr. empowers fathers to be more present by providing mentorship and community, so they learn to forgive their own shortcomings and, most importantly, learn how to reconnect with their kids.
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Musilicious
June 19, 2022 at 11:55 am
then people say there is no importance of mens, mens dont have feelings they dont face any problem like females………..guys exceptions are everywhere and both male and female suffer, they voiced for females but males require too
Särah
June 19, 2022 at 11:56 am
Wow..
I’m only at 02.30 and already need a break. I’m struggling with all of that issues as well. And there’s this huge hole in my heart, that constant pain that never goes away. I don’t know how to handle it…. The only way to make that pain a little better is medication, too much of it. I’m gonna finish watching this soon, can’t do it right now. Thank you for talking about that topic. Unfortunately many people still (in 2022!!!) don’t understand the impact of absant fathers. This makes me so angry. So many people struggle all of their life because their father wasn’t there. Ouch. 😔
King Man
June 19, 2022 at 9:09 pm
<3 stay strong Sarah
Will of Omphalos Grooms lll
June 19, 2022 at 12:02 pm
Bravo my friend…. Outstanding…💯🙌🏾
Särah
June 19, 2022 at 12:10 pm
I met my father at the age of 22… We clicked immediately, like best buddies, soulmates. We met 3 times and stayed in touch after I moved to another country. A year later he shot himself. That was the second time he left. Now I wish I had gotten to know him better. But that’s life. Sorry for bringing that up right now. It just strikes a chord.
King Man
June 19, 2022 at 9:08 pm
<3
Miss Bojangelz
June 19, 2022 at 12:20 pm
My “father” beat me and my siblings our entire childhood.. I could careless about him and I want for his funeral so I can stand up infront of everyone and finally confront them for everything.
Mojalefa Moletsane
June 19, 2022 at 3:04 pm
I wish you healing, sincerely 🙏🏽
Gray Space
June 19, 2022 at 6:49 pm
As someone who understands and had the same experience until I put him away in prison, I will tell you that forgiveness is never for the other person. It’s always for you first and last. It’s a journey and there’s no formula to “achieving it”. You didn’t deserve what you went through, but I do hope that you find peace and healing ❤️❤️
Thomas Calnan
June 19, 2022 at 12:28 pm
Luke 15:4-7
Solitary Reaper
June 19, 2022 at 5:58 pm
Who cares
Ernesto Dialogo
June 19, 2022 at 12:33 pm
Thanks for Sharing❤today happy father’s day God bless you All out there☝🕵
Lisa Love Ministry
June 19, 2022 at 12:38 pm
Matthew 6:14-15
“For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.”
Lisa Love Ministry
June 19, 2022 at 5:26 pm
@cat lady
Proverbs 9:10
“The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom, And the knowledge of the Holy One is understanding.’
cat lady
June 19, 2022 at 5:58 pm
@Lisa Love Ministry There can never be “understanding”. How can a child understand why she is being raped? How can I, as an adult, understand why no one saved me? I believe in God, I have faith. But evil exists on earth, it existed in my home.
Greg LeJacques
June 20, 2022 at 1:14 am
*REVELATION 16 16* … christianity prophesies its own descent into evil.
Greg LeJacques
June 20, 2022 at 1:16 am
@Lisa Love Ministry “The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom”
we will not fear _you_ though, slave for Satan. *LEVITICUS 25 44*
Lisa Love Ministry
June 20, 2022 at 2:03 am
@Greg LeJacques
2 Corinthians 4:3-6
“But even if our gospel is veiled, it is veiled to those who are perishing, whose minds the god of this age has blinded, who do not believe, lest the light of the gospel of the glory of Christ, who is the image of God, should shine on them. For we do not preach ourselves, but Christ Jesus the Lord, and ourselves your bondservants for Jesus’ sake. For it is the God who commanded light to shine out of darkness, who has shone in our hearts to give the light of the knowledge of the glory of God in the face of Jesus Christ.”
Space O
June 19, 2022 at 12:39 pm
My father disowned my gay brother and abandoned me when we were young. Before I was 18, I saw him maybe 5 times and it was always awkward. I was 18 the last time I saw him then he ghosted me. That was 20 years ago. I’m grateful my son has a better father than I did.
Mohammad Farran
June 19, 2022 at 10:42 pm
So sorry you had to go through that buddy, I pray that you’re in a better position now. I hope you were able to turn those negative emotions into something much more positive.
Camilla C.S. 你好🙂
June 20, 2022 at 9:20 pm
🙏🏻❤️
Greg LeJacques
June 21, 2022 at 6:09 pm
“My father disowned my gay brother and abandoned me when we were young.”
if only your father was wise enough to burn the bible. *LEVITICUS 20 13 **_If a man has sexual relations with a man as one does with a woman, both of them have done what is detestable. They are to be put to death; their blood will be on their own heads._* what a beautiful lesson about “Christian LOVE”. ave satanas.
Greg LeJacques
June 21, 2022 at 6:10 pm
@Mohammad Farran “I hope you were able to turn those negative emotions into something much more positive.”
it would be positive if all violent religions died so that people could live. *GENESIS 22 2*
Mohammad Farran
June 21, 2022 at 6:16 pm
@Greg LeJacques They’re no such thing as a violent religion, just people who don’t understand religion.
Greg LeJacques
June 21, 2022 at 9:09 pm
@Mohammad Farran “They’re no such thing as a violent religion, just people who don’t understand religion.”
why lie for white supremacists, brother? *LEVITICUS 25 44*
علی اصغر دوستدار
June 19, 2022 at 12:55 pm
Good
R-Series
June 19, 2022 at 1:09 pm
Ha 😄😄
Mickey’s My Spirit Animal
June 19, 2022 at 1:15 pm
To all father’s Happy Father’s Day!🎩👔👨👦👨👧👧👨👦👦👨👧👦🤴🏽
Jennifer Denton
June 19, 2022 at 1:45 pm
Perfect time to share. Happy Father’s Day to all the Dads out there! It is my prayer that if you’re one of these fathers he is talking about and you are estranged from your children, then you will reach out to this organization or somewhere else that you trust for help to make your relationship right with your kids. As well if any single moms are reading this, then both parents please remember to NEVER badmouth your children’s other parent in front of them or where it will get back to them. Children deserve two good parents and if one isn’t, trust me, they will see for themselves in time and will form their own opinion without your help. The world is already a cruel place but we all have the ability to make it a little better if we try. We can start by simply being a little kinder to ourselves, our children, our ex spouse, and our neighbors. We can try by not allowing bitterness to grow inside and finding positive ways to work through negative emotions. Some of these ways can be: spiritually, praying and / or meditating; creatively, such as any form of arts or crafts, writing such as poems, lyrics, or simple journaling; physically such as a walk, run, swim, bike ride, etc, anything where you can release your anger and bitterness and work towards forgiving the person who wronged you. In this day and age, it’s easier to recognize that everyone is dealing with something. We each have our own cross to bear. But if we stop and try to remember this then it is easier to not allow negative emotions to take over and we become much happier in our lives.
Greg LeJacques
June 21, 2022 at 6:06 pm
“The world is already a cruel place”
who made it that way? God? or your Christian mafia? *LEVITICUS 25 44* … or perhaps you made it that way by siding with evil.
Random Certainty
June 19, 2022 at 2:30 pm
Cultural traditional fatherhood has been made toxic. Men are seen as expendable under feminist designed laws.
Double standards are viewed now as socially justified. The data didn’t invent itself.
la Sn3ak3r
June 19, 2022 at 2:45 pm
Defund Police Nationwide!!
Vote Blue 2022 to GET. IT. DONE!!!
💙🌊💙🌊💙🌊🌊
MAD
June 19, 2022 at 2:53 pm
Thank you! Happy Father’s Day to all. 💕
Mirel goi
June 19, 2022 at 3:21 pm
“LOVE IS FLOWING FROM YOU, and today you can attempt to experience this and to release those things that obstruct it. Without judgment, without illusion, without fantasy and without the limitations of a purely human viewpoint, you will see that love is flowing from you. You will see that all your frustration in life is your inability to experience and to express this love which wishes to flow from you. Regardless of the circumstances in which your frustration arises, it is always because you cannot express love. Your evaluation of difficulties and dilemmas can certainly conceal this fact but cannot deny its existence.”
Steps to Knowledge – The Book of Inner Knowing, Step 206, Love is flowing from me now.
John Chapman
June 20, 2022 at 10:03 pm
Thank you, Mirel.
Greg LeJacques
June 21, 2022 at 6:12 pm
“Without judgment, without illusion, without fantasy and without the limitations of a purely human viewpoint”
how will you attain this salvation, human?
Mirel goi
June 23, 2022 at 4:52 pm
@Greg LeJacques That’s mysterious but there is a Way, certainly. What comes to my mind now is a book called ”The Spirituality of the Greater Community.” It will introduce you how this actually can be attained. Not a result of merely believing or wishing. You can find this book online as well.
Nelson B. Bestman Jr
June 19, 2022 at 3:48 pm
Hope to see my father someday? I grown up without my father, where ever you’re Dad, Happy Father’s Day.
Nycole Beard
June 19, 2022 at 4:06 pm
This is right on time Dr. Daniels. Thank you for speaking to our group at Simmons University; we are still unpacking the lessons from that evening.
cat lady
June 19, 2022 at 4:07 pm
My father was a pedophile. I could never have children because of him and what he did to me. I’ve had 5 miscarriages. I was told in 2013 by my ex-mother that she knew. She told me I was 7 when it started and how I used to yell for her to come get Dad away from me. Never knew what it was like to have a normal childhood. My son’s father was abusive, physically and emotionally. To the people who have had REAL fathers, you are extremely lucky.
Greg LeJacques
June 20, 2022 at 1:30 am
“To the people who have had REAL fathers, you are extremely lucky.”
all lives are uniquely painful. what you’ve gained is insight & greater compassion. jolan tru.
R.E.S.E.T YOU Life Coaching Services
June 19, 2022 at 4:18 pm
Impactful message Dr. Daniels!
Robert Forsythe
June 19, 2022 at 6:57 pm
Love, a understanding communication and a place to come to in emotional turmoil is and has been the most important part of parenthood.
Mr.Triple3D
June 19, 2022 at 8:05 pm
When is TED talking?
Thato Mofolo
June 19, 2022 at 8:34 pm
Pain 💔💔💔😪
Thankful Lally
June 20, 2022 at 12:23 am
Thanks for sharing. God bless.
Hector Alejandro Falco
June 20, 2022 at 1:49 am
👍👏👏👏👏👏👏Muchas gracias Charles. Muy interesante lo que dices y haces. Dios te siga bendiciendo e iluminando en tu gran labor. Compartiré tus experiencias y enseñanzas 🙏
wojciech strzelecki
June 20, 2022 at 2:01 am
Father is the name for God in the lips and hearts of children…
Greg LeJacques
June 21, 2022 at 6:21 pm
“Father is the name for God in the lips and hearts of children…”
woe to the children who never grow up & exceed their cult teachings.
Joshua W
June 20, 2022 at 2:18 am
Yes all people, not just fathers – need to know that their actions have consequences – but that they also must be forgiven and shown love when they ask for it. Be the change you want to see in the world in the way you love others. In the same way that God loves us despite being sinners.
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June 20, 2022 at 8:18 pm
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Darren Wendroff
June 21, 2022 at 4:52 am
This is so incredible for the speaker to see past his ego and see his father who he really was, just a suffering human soul in this world.
Greg LeJacques
June 21, 2022 at 6:11 pm
namaste.
I'm Retarded
June 21, 2022 at 8:41 am
Let the government be the father’s.
Cheyenne Scott
June 21, 2022 at 11:46 am
I’m grateful I can give me kids a better father than I had. I understand they need help but how do you help someone who doesn’t want it? I didn’t have a happy ending.
Katherine Morales
June 22, 2022 at 1:59 am
“If we are deserving, so are the ones who have lost their way.”
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June 22, 2022 at 4:16 am
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