Comedian and writer Athena Kugblenu has a hot take: we’re all liars, and that’s OK. Exploring the line between the little lies that do no harm and the big, self-serving whoppers you’d best avoid, she offers a crucial question to ask yourself to help determine if honesty is the best policy — or if a fib might best fit the situation. (Recorded at TEDNext 2024 on October 22, 2024)
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@RjEman
September 26, 2025 at 11:06 am
Nahhh Don’t lie 😂 you won’t be trusted no more
@AgokMabior-d3k
September 26, 2025 at 11:13 am
Sure 😅😅😅
@ZainabAtaei-e3u
September 26, 2025 at 12:00 pm
That was the funniest Ted I saw today 😂😂😂😂
@Mathayas_
September 26, 2025 at 12:07 pm
I remember as a child being told it was ok to tell little lies sometimes. As an adult I look back and think ‘wow, that’s terrible advice’.
Don’t lie kids, the truth isn’t always pleasant but that just means there is something wrong with you that needs to be sorted out.
@shsamoor
September 26, 2025 at 12:12 pm
Disappointing, and perfectly presenting the cause of lots of our discrepancies in modern life…
@zapbutton8553
September 26, 2025 at 12:15 pm
OK i get the Point, thanks for your Talk ! 😊
… still,
I rather have a friend who blurts Out His truth and at least inconveniences me, but when i don’t lie either it can’t Hurt me.
No lie, since the children psychologist taught me only ever to promise consequences i would really be able and willing to make come true would make my children respect my parenting, it became so much more real and better.
Good Points about who will benefit, but i still hold Up the flag for honesty, as a life value, social Grace can come with distraction, when you know they don’t want the honest answer, find the squirrel in the picture, rather than lying.
Because assuming anyone wouldn’t want the truth is hurting you in the long run.
I lost a few aquaintances by being honest, but the people i call Friends told me they know they can Trust me. I feel that’s a greater value than “more“ Friends.
@TheJeffCorn
September 26, 2025 at 12:40 pm
She even lied about the pronunciation of British. I love that kind of dedication to an art.
@IthatengMokgoro
September 26, 2025 at 12:51 pm
No lies told here.
@JossanBorba
September 26, 2025 at 12:55 pm
All true 😂
@gehteuchnixan9027
September 26, 2025 at 2:01 pm
I asked Trump. There no limit for lies…😂
@wesleymarshall6563
September 26, 2025 at 10:13 pm
What terrible advice
@twoyuber
September 26, 2025 at 11:27 pm
what
@yvettebautista5470
September 27, 2025 at 3:28 am
I still believe that we should be honest but in situations where we lying is inevitable, your advice is helpful. Thinking of who will benefit a lie is useful!
@JM-740
September 27, 2025 at 9:28 am
Lying is never inevitable. Lying is wrong
@ethandrood
September 27, 2025 at 4:28 am
This sentence is a lie.