Control is an illusion — and the leaders who chase it are holding their teams back. Workplace culture expert Jessica Kriegel explores the tactic that leaders who want to achieve extraordinary results should try instead. (Recorded at TEDxSouthlake on November 9, 2025)
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@ronaldolobatofernandes1730
July 12, 2026 at 11:04 am
Brazil
@lukeblundell5610
July 12, 2026 at 11:16 am
If I were to summarise this it would be to be genuinely there for and with those around you.
@jitendrabarange3622
July 12, 2026 at 12:19 pm
👍
@rebolognesi
July 12, 2026 at 12:21 pm
3:31 So true, so brilliant to put a red flag on it ❤
@nelemyrna9130
July 12, 2026 at 12:28 pm
In summary: Control the controllable when leading people👍
@Jasonxbr
July 12, 2026 at 12:49 pm
Yea try to tell this to the domestic violence and abusers- dictators- fake Jesus Christ- cult leaders- far right ideologies- bigotry- misogynistic- toxic masculinity 🗑🕳💩😈🎪🤡💀🚚🔥👻💯
@paulo1940
July 12, 2026 at 1:39 pm
Well, isn’t this the point, if those aspects aren’t controllable, then start controlling what you can? What is the point of making processes that people either find loop holes to or blatantly refuse to follow? Processes are important only for those who believe in them, otherwise, you have got a situation *out* of control, and the way to gain that control back, is by submiting to the realization that if there is anything to do, it is to start believing in those who don’t believe, and recognizing that just as they have decided to be whomever they are now, they could just as much believe in other things with enough impactful experiences.
I am not saying its easy, I am saying it is likely the only way, and if there is no other way, why not accept it and move on with it? I find it difficult myself to not keep pointing fingers to the failures of society and humanity, and whomever, but seriously, what is that going to do but put you in a situation of despair that will only bring about more passivity?
I am implementing this in my life as of right now, and I invite you to do so too❤
@Jasonxbr
July 12, 2026 at 1:46 pm
@paulo1940cocere control 😢😢😢😢 manipulate and gaslighting tactics as well isolation- oh forgot to add paedophiles – murderers 😢😢😢😢
@paulo1940
July 12, 2026 at 1:52 pm
@Jasonxbr It definitely can be a jungle out there… I wish you the best🥲
@Jasonxbr
July 12, 2026 at 2:02 pm
@paulo1940facts- the world 🌎 is unjust and cruel 😢😢😢😢😢😢
@JohnFisher-v3j
July 12, 2026 at 1:19 pm
God is bored of us & hasnt been listening for 100,000 years. No wonder. Imagine discovering that Lucifer was correct about us, God just evaporated in embarrassment.
@dougewald243
July 12, 2026 at 1:43 pm
2 minutes in & BAM!!!
An ad…
I remember when TED didn’t do that disrespectful crap to its audience.
@dougewald243
July 12, 2026 at 1:47 pm
5½ minutes in & 3 ads!!!
WTF TED?
Apparently you don’t that frequent interrupts don’t build an audience.
It’s so tacky and unbelievably disrespectful.
@Jhonny_Quid
July 12, 2026 at 2:47 pm
Transparency and truth worth so much for loyal human beings
@saeedseify2131
July 12, 2026 at 2:56 pm
Can you help me? Here is war and I’m depress and poor
@NmesomaFavour-m4q
July 12, 2026 at 4:38 pm
Jesus is coming soon
@vortbio
July 12, 2026 at 5:39 pm
Leaders can’t control anything? Great! I will be expecting all CEOs to resign in the coming days.
@KakashiHatake-kc5ws
July 12, 2026 at 6:20 pm
I wish i was a little bit taller, i wish i was a baller.
@scarletpimpernel6813
July 12, 2026 at 8:27 pm
6:55 You’ve missed an unique opportunity by letting employees decide themselves wether to stay or to go. I bet you cannot even answer the basic question of what MANAGEMENT actually IS and ENTAILS. Good luck with your career, lady.