As the world races toward digital perfection, tech humanist Stephen Remedios tried to optimize the messiest and most imperfect of all human work: parenting. He shares the story of DaddyGPT, a digital version of himself built to help raise his kids — until they began to prefer it over him. What unfolds is a personal look at the limits of AI, and a reminder that what matters most isn’t getting it right every time but showing up with the authentic imperfection only humans have. (Recorded at TED@BCG on October 23, 2025)
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@carlaboutte8164
May 7, 2026 at 11:15 am
😇
@igneosaur
May 7, 2026 at 11:17 am
Spot the hidden meme.
@olegstar6885
May 7, 2026 at 11:55 am
6 7 😂😂😂
@AdvantestInc
May 7, 2026 at 11:20 am
There’s a version of this story playing out in engineering teams too. AI handles the predictable load; the judgment calls still need a human in the room.
@Xiph1980
May 7, 2026 at 11:26 am
No.
@Xiph1980
May 7, 2026 at 11:30 am
Or, rather, sorry TED, it’s not you, it’s me. Guess we’ve outgrown each other.
/insert Wilfred Mott’s tearful goodbye meme.
@shontucker4504
May 7, 2026 at 11:29 am
“Presence”, is a great foundation for parenting
@NatureLensNepal
May 7, 2026 at 11:30 am
I’m nature lover😊❤
@Tottelbe
May 7, 2026 at 11:37 am
Do not let AI parent your kids…
@rnedlo9909
May 7, 2026 at 1:49 pm
TV’s; Computers; video games have been used for generations. “Where’s Johnny?” “Oh, I know right where Johnny is, he is in his room playing video games. He is such a good boy, I always know where he is and he never gets into trouble.” Johnny is 30 pounds overweight, prediabetic and seems to only have online “friends”, but SOOO easy to raise. I agree AI is NOT the tool that should be used, same as the others listed. There is no replacement for being present as a parent. Parental Abdication Syndrome is rampant, and we will/are all feel the negative effect.
@Tottelbe
May 7, 2026 at 2:21 pm
@rnedlo9909A game or a movie is a thing that you, as a parent, can review and approve.
You can not “review and approve” AI.
@ninjabard1898
May 7, 2026 at 12:08 pm
“I learned that I’m a terrible parent and have passed the worst knowledge to my… ChatGPT what do I call those things that my wife gave birth to? Yes, thank you. My test subjects.”
@rnedlo9909
May 7, 2026 at 1:53 pm
Every kid is a test project
@JosephSilv4
May 7, 2026 at 12:43 pm
🤮🤮🤮
@hedgehogsonic11
May 7, 2026 at 12:54 pm
We’re cooked.
@TheDreamSama
May 7, 2026 at 1:33 pm
Just clicked to dislike.
@mattfoulgerBC
May 7, 2026 at 1:46 pm
It’s hilarious and unsurprising that TED talk audiences need to be told not to outsource parenting to chatbots
@IHatSarks
May 7, 2026 at 1:53 pm
No
@rnedlo9909
May 7, 2026 at 2:03 pm
As a great grandfather I am watching Parental Abdication Syndrome take over society. There has been/is NO replacement for hands on involvement by both parents. PAS is a pandemic. Shut off electronics; spend QUALITY time with each child every day; eat at least one meal together every day; READ together; involve your children in your house/yard/community projects you are doing; give your child ten minutes of one-on-one time and ask them how they are doing personally. It is hard to do, but I promise you, when they are grown and leave you, as they should, you will not think, “Boy, I wish I had more work/TV/screen/to myself time when they were here. Your child does not NEED a smart phone; you child does need a SMART parent!
@DrPotatoPerson
May 7, 2026 at 2:53 pm
He had to parent his own children for an entire day and couldn’t do it. Incredible
@AdityaMehendale
May 7, 2026 at 3:04 pm
tl;dr – experiment went regrettably wrong. lessons learnt. Human”joy”, albeit flawed, is better than AI-“attention”.
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@LeeMatthewSmith
May 7, 2026 at 3:27 pm
Brilliant. He’s managed to capture the simple essence of humanity – flawed
@diddydank7447
May 7, 2026 at 3:41 pm
bro had to be an independant parent and couldn’t even do it for a day without consulting a chat bot to do it for him, we are actually so fucked
@hul8376
May 7, 2026 at 4:42 pm
what is this? did you get paid by big data senters?
@adamrunk471
May 7, 2026 at 5:11 pm
Outparented suggests he tried to be a parent