A few words can change the course of a life; they have the power to shrink, expand or transform someone’s identity — even your own. Social psychologist Mesmin Destin explores how everyday interactions and experiences play a powerful part in who we become, sharing the key moments and messages that can inspire us to grow into our best selves.
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Cesar saul Dominguez
February 17, 2023 at 12:01 pm
Pretty interesting!
Namulema zulaika
February 17, 2023 at 12:03 pm
Sorry works when mistakes are made, But not when trust is broken. So in life,make mistakes but never break a trust.Because forgiving is easy,but forgetting and trusting again is sometimes impossible.
DanVid
February 17, 2023 at 12:11 pm
Very well said.
泽桑
February 19, 2023 at 1:02 pm
Agree. Well said.
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February 17, 2023 at 12:03 pm
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SHAHZOD MUSTAFOYEV
February 17, 2023 at 12:03 pm
Great i’m really enjoyed with this video. Thanks for sharing TED team.😊😊😊😊
Official Avast
February 17, 2023 at 12:05 pm
Daily activities shape your personality as well
Simply_Prophetic
February 17, 2023 at 12:32 pm
Really liked the message being said here about being that little voice in the back of someone’s head to tell them that their dream can come true just, “keep going”, “you can do it”. Something very important to teach the youth in this day and age to have hopes and dreams for their future. Really enjoyed this Ted talk 😄
RIA BLOOM
February 17, 2023 at 12:59 pm
Indeed! I love that also.
Filipe Wissmann Nunes
February 17, 2023 at 3:03 pm
In some senses, I think Eastern Cultures have a lot of those kind of messages and support. The problem is the balance, and the lack of strong human interaction and bonds. I don’t know, just sharing some thoughts.
Simply_Prophetic
February 18, 2023 at 2:35 am
@Filipe Wissmann Nunes No I honestly agree, its very fundamental to express ourselves with one another. For lack of a better term I believe that by sharing some words of encouragement we can help those who we may not be able to see whats going on behind “closed doors” and the challenges they have faced to get where their at. Its very insightful to know that simple gestures and words can shape someones life drastically and fully understand your point of view aswell.
Gravy
February 17, 2023 at 1:04 pm
The shakey cam has got to go! I started getting car sick.
CardiacKip
February 17, 2023 at 1:32 pm
You spent nearly 14 minutes identifying how through social experimentation you were able to conclude that messaging is an essential component in shaping positive identity and expanding life possibilities. I agree. However, in the last minute or so you undermined your thesis ever so slightly by discussing the paradox of your brother Reggie, who managed to develop a positive identity and forge an accomplished life without messages that were reinforcing or supportive.
Furthermore, why was the racial identity of your high school guidance counselor important to mention? Is the implication here that he was racist? I couldn’t help but recall how my high school guidance counselor, who was Black, encouraged me to “forget about college and work at the floor plant (Armstrong) like your Dad” because his assessment was that I was “not college material.” I never thought it was racially motivated, but it certainly could have been and that message helped derail my early adulthood in many ways. This summer, at the age of 57, I’ll be applying for my doctorate in nursing practice after becoming a mental health nurse practitioner. I didn’t start undergrad until my 30’s because it took some time to overcome the gravity of my past.
Jack Callahan
February 17, 2023 at 2:38 pm
Yeah, wokeism is really bothersome
Andy Cordy
February 17, 2023 at 2:14 pm
I love this and can wholeheartedly recommend such supportive gestures based on my own experiences of giving and receiving /not receiving.
My concern lies with the communities that see a level of choice about the future as a fantasy, who see any opportunity for even basic education or a good reason to undergo it in near impossibly disruptive conditions. Those people have been sidelined for decades and the few opportunities presented in these areas are so few and so fragile.
Thato Mofolo
February 17, 2023 at 2:48 pm
Not
Filipe Wissmann Nunes
February 17, 2023 at 3:01 pm
This is gold. I think we’re slowly walking toward a world with vast access of information, strong identities and achieving people on all layers of our society.
I think Artificial Intelligence can make a large impact in this field too.
Sunil K. Sharma
February 17, 2023 at 5:24 pm
all i hjeard was meee meee meee!!!
nagtasticDragon1
February 17, 2023 at 7:40 pm
That’s a really big concept.
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February 17, 2023 at 10:04 pm
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February 18, 2023 at 8:48 am
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William Serba
February 18, 2023 at 4:36 pm
The whole point of discouraging people is to stop them from doing what they want. Whether this comes from racism, jealousy, or something more evil, the outcome is the same. If you’re not the favorite, you’re going to have to work harder. Being forced to work four times harder for a quarter of the reward is a form of cruelty, and it fundamentally undermines society. The resentment within one’s own heart becomes as toxic as the discouragement, probably more.
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February 19, 2023 at 5:14 am
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February 19, 2023 at 5:14 am
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February 19, 2023 at 5:42 am
It was wondaful! really influential
Osmio Iridio
February 19, 2023 at 3:01 pm
So true
YaBuM
February 20, 2023 at 12:13 am
Beautiful and insightful talk that is worth to be rewatched in the future! His message at the end was powerful too.