Clinical psychologist Dr. Becky Kennedy joins WIRED to answer the internet’s burning questions about parenting. Why are little kids so obsessed with iPads? How do you correct a 3-year-old without screaming? How do you deal with a tantrum at the grocery store? Answers to these questions and many more await on Parenting Support.
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00:00 – Parenting Support with Dr. Becky Kennedy
00:13 – On aisle 5, one existential crisis
02:38 – Tiny CEO in training
04:22 – The sleep separation mantra
06:12 – What about elevensies? Luncheon? Afternoon tea? Dinner? Supper?
07:23 – Accepting bribes in the form of fruit gummies
09:27 – Gentle parenting or parent gentling?
11:39 – Touch grass? Never heard of that app
13:17 – Decibel level ⬆️ Reasoning ⬇️
15:47 – Peace over being right
17:45 – Curiosity beats resistance
19:26 – S̶h̶a̶m̶e̶, s̶h̶a̶m̶e̶, s̶h̶a̶m̶e̶ Pick your moments
20:28 – The tiny dictator granted my request
21:53 – Stay in your lane, picky eater
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@kezbies
September 8, 2026 at 6:33 pm
let us please reiterate… it only takes procreation to be a mother/father. to be a PARENT is something different entirely…
@maggiesmith2319
September 8, 2026 at 6:35 pm
Thank you so much for making this!
I wish my parents had access to insight like this when I was growing up.
@RavenMistwolf
September 8, 2026 at 6:36 pm
10:47 what that commenter was calling “gentle parenting” is actually “permissive parenting” or “lazy parenting.” Really “gentle parenting” is “authoritative parenting,” (NOT authoritarian. Those are VERY different) which produces the best results.
@alisonpurgatory85
September 8, 2026 at 6:38 pm
I don’t have kids and I don’t ever want to, but this video and others like it are very valuable to me because I can look back on how I was raised and get an insight into how I got all the wrong lessons- and try and parent myself the way I should’ve been
@PTLallthetime
September 8, 2026 at 6:40 pm
Is she related to Ally Yost? 😮
@Dr_Mel
September 8, 2026 at 6:42 pm
Conflating understanding with agreement and separating those two things was one of the most powerful adult lessons I had to learn. Eventually you encounter people who will know what you mean and they still haven’t changed their position.
@sona5704
September 8, 2026 at 6:47 pm
confirmed good parenting is really hard.
@blackstride
September 8, 2026 at 6:48 pm
This is all really great info! Tysm
@gravity_lover
September 8, 2026 at 7:19 pm
saving this for when i have a kid
@mirandawilson6084
September 8, 2026 at 7:20 pm
As an early childhood educator, I learned so much! Thank you!
@ShannonJ-jz3kl
September 8, 2026 at 7:21 pm
You do not give them what they want!
@karoke6
September 8, 2026 at 7:38 pm
I don’t have any children nor do I, but still find this fascinating and watched the whole thing. I need an adult version of her for myself lol
@wrathfirex
September 8, 2026 at 7:44 pm
Does this video have anything to do with hormones
@patriciaromero5347
September 8, 2026 at 7:47 pm
My little cousin (6yrs old) had tamtrums in public and private that ended in her on the floor screaming until my aunt did or gave her what she wanted. Once I took her to the mall (i was already a young adult) and she wanted icecream before the bookstore (the reason we went in the first place) she screamed and threw herself on the floor, i just looked at her and said “i am not your mother” and walked away. 2 seconds later she was holding my hand and asking if we could go to get icecream after we saw books. She never ever did that to me again. And kept on doing it to her mother. And yes we went and got ice cream.
@j34nlucS
September 8, 2026 at 7:48 pm
Can the algorithm gods please show this to my parents so they realize how harmful their approach to these kinds of issues actually was? Thanks in advance
@z.ngaming2681
September 8, 2026 at 8:00 pm
0:16 On aisle 5, one existential crisis.
0:20 answer 1
2:34 *[keyboard keys tapping]*
2:37 *[mouse button clicks]*
2:41 Tiny CEO in training
2:44 answer 2
3:15 *daily confidence tips*
4:18 *[keyboard keys tapping]*
4:23 The sleep separation mantra
4:26 answer 3
5:45 *sing songy way*
6:09 *[keyboard keys tapping]*
6:12 *[mouse button clicks]*
6:15 What about elevensies? Luncheon? Afternoon tea? Dinner? Supper?
6:22 answer 4
7:19 *[keyboard keys tapping]*
7:22 *[mouse button clicks]*
7:25 Accepting bribes in the form of fruit gummies.
7:28 answer 5
9:25 *[keyboard keys tapping]*
9:28 *[mouse button clicks]*
9:30 Gentle parenting or parent gentling?
9:33 answer 6
@alexaales7937
September 8, 2026 at 8:00 pm
jeez, watching this i wonder how we ever grew up without the fussing, pleading, arguing and pampering kids experience these days. we never threw tantrums, i wonder why, lol.
@DaddySlater
September 8, 2026 at 8:01 pm
You leave the grocery store and just try again later
@myleesxhneider22
September 8, 2026 at 8:02 pm
i loved this so so much!!
@iris·--ijw
September 8, 2026 at 8:09 pm
Wow how do a lot of these apply to problematic adults as well💀
@DuranmanX
September 8, 2026 at 8:14 pm
I feel like kids are like foreigners to a country. We take for granted their are a lot of social things that no one says but most just accept. Kids (and foreigners with a completely different culture) dont understand these differences, so they might do something that we see as “acting out” but its really a natural response to a situation that we just do because we are conditioned to do so. Like I understand “doesnt want to do something” cause a lot of times I dont want to do something, but I do it because I “have to” and it can be hard to explain that.
@majorlysuspicious3155
September 8, 2026 at 8:37 pm
Or have ADHD like me and still can’t even do the things I want to do.
@BaharaMartinson
September 8, 2026 at 8:49 pm
“child psychologist”
depending on her views regarding lindsatan clancy, we’ll decide if this women is credible or not
because women can’t be trusted around children anymore
@jeremychoo934
September 8, 2026 at 8:50 pm
Why is there no third option in this scenario? When I was growing up, tantrums were rewarded with corporal punishment. And look how well-adjusted my generation (mostly) turned out. 😜
@purpleiguana208
September 8, 2026 at 8:56 pm
I remember one time having a conversation with my mother when my middle child was… hmm… 2-3 years old… where she told me I was bribing my child and then laughed at me when I said, “It’s not a bribe, it’s an incentive.” Because what I was doing was NOT “here’s some candy, now be quiet,” but rather it was, “Hey, if you can be a little more quiet, you can have some candy.” Appropriate behavior before reward rather than reward IN HOPES of getting appropriate behavior.
@lydiahumes6566
September 8, 2026 at 9:21 pm
shes so well spoken, and definitely knows her stuff! im 18, kids arent even on the horizon, but i feel like i learned a lot! thanks, wired 😁
@notNaB2024
September 9, 2026 at 1:28 pm
Gentle parenting is such a white people thing. 😂
@OwnerOccupiedSlumlord
September 9, 2026 at 1:32 pm
Is there support desk for raising Teenagers?
@atomic_tubetop
September 9, 2026 at 1:35 pm
Im a teach and i had a kid who was lying right to my face and said he was unable to hear me and i took him at his word. I said if you cant hear me in a quiet classroom and i have to repeat your name 4 times that is a safety hazard. You need to sit at the front of the class near me. Then he told me he actually could here me just fine. Even if you think a kid is lying if you treat them with trust they will be honest with you
@skatingpennies
September 9, 2026 at 8:55 pm
I heard a story of a patient at a mental health hospital who had schizophrenia. They said there was a bug in their ear. Someone checked and… yeah, there was a bug in their ear. Sometimes it’s worth just taking people at their word.
@andreahxnicole
September 9, 2026 at 1:57 pm
Love this video!!
@mustashcolision
September 9, 2026 at 2:03 pm
thank God they finally got someone I can respect a lot more than Mrs Rachel to answer parenting questions! no offense to her but screen time is terrible for kids especially the demographic she caters to so the irony of her giving parenting advise was just too much. loved the video btw some really good stuff here
@bygonestales2171
September 9, 2026 at 2:27 pm
sorry i have to disagree with the food thing. thats what my parents did so i just…. didnt eat the stuff i didnt want to. I was 18 before i had my first vegetable, they would make me throw up because as a kid i didnt have them so my body doesnt recognise them as food. I’m now 27, i eat a decent variety of fruit and veg but am still picky. it ruined my health. If your kid is seriously resisting take them to a dietician. If you put chicken, pasta and brocoli in front of them they will fill up on chicken and pasta for the next 18 years.
@babyellabay
September 9, 2026 at 2:30 pm
There was nothing “gentle” about what she said when you listen with an adult ear 😂. She was firm, direct, and considerate without being mean or disrespectful to the kids. Like… teach me!!! 😂 11:12
@Spadooch
September 9, 2026 at 2:31 pm
My children have never had a tantrum at the grocery store. Almost like when you have high expectations, teact them, and discipline, they joyfully comply?
@Spadooch
September 9, 2026 at 2:35 pm
Crazy that after all the evidence that “gentle parenting” makes your kids awful, these people are still selling it.
@Spadooch
September 9, 2026 at 2:38 pm
Children should feel shame for doing shameful things. Shame is a normal, good emotion for being shameful. Teaching anyone to reject any sense of shame is so destructive holy moly
@mellowfern
September 9, 2026 at 9:11 pm
Shame vs. regret, remorse, or embarrassment are not the same things. The first says ” I did something bad, so *I am* bad” and messes up confidence, capability, and self esteem. Shame doesn’t fix the issue, and often makes behavior worse. The latter are healthy emotional responses to making mistakes that don’t damage us emotionally, and make us better people for ourselves and others. They say, “I messed up and want to do better next time, and believe I am capable of doing better.” Shame has lasting negative impacts.
@brycewalburn3926
September 9, 2026 at 3:07 pm
I’ve found that providing a “safe” food option with every meal is a great way to ensure that nothing else on the plate gets eaten…ever.
@chrissytamulis1755
September 9, 2026 at 3:11 pm
Definitely not taking notes to manage my husband
@Writingforgood48622
September 9, 2026 at 3:11 pm
I am starting that picky eating advice with my children TONIGHT!
@WanderTrust
September 9, 2026 at 3:16 pm
dr. becky is my ms. rachel!
@doopliss5934
September 9, 2026 at 3:17 pm
Amazing video. I didn’t think I would be very interested, but Dr. Becky Kennedy smashed it out of the park. I learned a lot.
@anikam.3204
September 9, 2026 at 3:41 pm
today I was giving dinner to the my two nieces and it was potatoes, beef with mushrooms and spinach. the elder one has been very defiant lately and says no to everything and today when i called her to eat she said no. So i told her “my job is to feed you here on the table and give you 3 options, your job is to choose what to eat and eat it. we both have to do our part” and she said ok i want some potatoes and her sister said i want steak. they didn’t complain, throw a tantrum, talk back and when the eldest stopped eating to play i said “finish your job just like i finish mine, and once you’re done with that i will give you back your slime toy” and then hid it away. They behaved so well and I was in shock how much these techniques worked. I’m super amazed and grateful!
P.S she didn’t eat one tiny potato and i asked why and she said “i don’t know i just don’t want it” and i started listing some reasons that she could reason with and she replied “yes it’s because it looks weird” and because it was really small i ate it and we were both calm and happy at the end of dinner.
@goodinside
September 9, 2026 at 3:46 pm
Thank you for having me! I loved answering your questions.
@abelhapedras
September 10, 2026 at 10:27 am
and I loved seeing you answer them. Thank you! Please make more videos like this!
@sproutingjoyforlove
September 10, 2026 at 12:56 pm
You seem to be a great psychologist and parent. Thank you for your advice, commitment, and practice!
@mw-w5650
September 10, 2026 at 8:55 pm
You’re phenomenal!!!
@Not3xactly
September 11, 2026 at 5:25 pm
Came in skeptical, left pleasantly surprised at your moderate and balanced approach to parenting. Very practical, not overly academic, focused on the big picture: raising resilient confidence kids.
@filipe_fsantos
September 12, 2026 at 11:32 am
Thank you, I loved your answers, so insightful. They are definitely going to help me in my parenting.
@NiftyBa14414
September 9, 2026 at 3:59 pm
I am so grateful that you mentioned Ellyn Satter. I recommend this style of feeding to anyone who feels like it will fit their child and family. My oldest is a selective eater, and while I could not apply Division of Responsibility, it is still highly effective for most! I wish I could go back in time and not stress as much.
@alicia18-o1l
September 9, 2026 at 4:35 pm
Sturdy pilot during the turbulence is such an amazing analogy!
@themarquis336
September 9, 2026 at 5:10 pm
It’s all wonderful and great, but the problem with all of this is that it fundamentally requires or assumes parents care about their children’s happiness and wellbeing, and, well… if deeply loving and caring for your children were a prerequisite for being a parent, the world would be a very different place indeed…
@Charlatan_11235
September 9, 2026 at 5:38 pm
It doesn’t make not believe her, but I have troubles with her tone.
@BecauseEyeLikeToParty
September 9, 2026 at 5:41 pm
Mnn
@shelbilemieux5916
September 9, 2026 at 6:46 pm
I’m almost 1000% sure the universe put this on my recommended page, because I’m deciding what field to go into when I start school in the spring and one of them is childcare. This video was so helpful and I genuinely want to see ANOTHER video with her!!!!!!!!!!🖍️🧸🍼👶🏼
@tylerd8609
September 9, 2026 at 7:56 pm
Great video. Wish i had this when i was younger.
@Markus-x2p
September 9, 2026 at 8:06 pm
Very interesting, thank you so much!
@thescowlingschnauzer
September 10, 2026 at 11:43 am
11:00 That’s more complex than just a request or just a boundary.
Bid for attention: Hey Timmy
Observation 1: You’re jumping on the couch
Observation 2: so close to our glass table
Judgment: not safe!
Judgment framed as an observation: it looks like it’s hard for you to get off
Condition: I’m going to walk over to you, and if by that time
*Boundary*: you’re not off the couch, I’ll pick you up and put you on the floor
Alternative: and you can go jump on the target.
@AA-wc3tw
September 10, 2026 at 11:58 am
My mother has Narcissistic Personality Disorder and I was raised in a cult.
I have so many reasons why choosing to be childfree is the best for me, the world, and my non-existent children.
The cycle of abuse stops with me.
@mpamphsmenippos9651
September 10, 2026 at 12:03 pm
Why am i even watching this? I don’t even have a husband, let alone kids
@Commenter339
September 10, 2026 at 1:30 pm
Thank you! This was a really cool video. I watched it all and paused many times along the way to think about what she was saying. I hope I remember some of these things and can use them in daily life.
@marcosbueno_dev
September 10, 2026 at 1:49 pm
07:58
“I say to my 14 year old to do something and he say to me ‘What are you gonna give me?'”
Well, you will be allowed to keep your teeth intact. (just kidding)
My son is only 1 year old, and I’m here researching how to properly educate him
@witchy90210
September 10, 2026 at 1:52 pm
What I have learned is that when many people say “gentle parenting” and that it makes kids aholes., what they really mean is “permissive parenting.” They mean letting kids do whatever they want, and thats is not what it is about. And I am not a parent.
@T.C.-st8uz
September 10, 2026 at 2:00 pm
A-HOLES 😂😂😂😂
@tyr0n313
September 10, 2026 at 2:38 pm
6:51 YES! I’d include water bottles in this. God forbid we go somewhere without a water bottle. It’s ok to not be 100% hydrated the entire day. It’s ok to go somewhere for an hour and not have water or snacks. I feel like it gets them believe there will always be a resource for them wherever they go in life. Sometimes you’ll be hungry sometimes you’ll be thirsty. Adapt and get used to adapting.
@blue7129
September 10, 2026 at 2:49 pm
I often say “I am overwhelmed by my feelings because I’m 24” and that doesn’t always go over as well
@Clear_Night4
September 10, 2026 at 3:06 pm
“I get overwhelmed by my feelings bc i’m (3)4” is going to be an explanation i use moving forward prepared yourself world lol
@BTredflag
September 10, 2026 at 3:15 pm
My 4yo is always allowed to make herself some rolled oats with Milk and cornflakes (unsweetened) for dinner if she does not like what I made. It works great for us:)
@zod01026
September 10, 2026 at 3:22 pm
That observation about agency is so important. I’ve watched kids and parents lock horns over foods they both agree on because the fight was really about consent. Nobody wants to be dominated or forced to do, much less eat, anything.
@Azizelle
September 10, 2026 at 3:50 pm
Don’t care for Dr Becky’s content after finding out she is an Israel supporter. No thank you
@uschil228
September 10, 2026 at 4:04 pm
As a fairly new mum. I kinda have to rewatch that at least 3 times.
@opie9-u8k
September 10, 2026 at 4:05 pm
One min 45 seconds in and already so helpful and profound!!!
@robpattishot
September 10, 2026 at 4:19 pm
me watching this as a 28 yo without any plans on having kids but this is so interesting
@MrFour4th
September 10, 2026 at 4:34 pm
After being a parent and knowing how hard it is, i judge less on other parents. We don’t know what they are going through. I only judge horrible parents, like the borderline evil kind lol
@themonsteren
September 10, 2026 at 4:42 pm
watching this made me realize they also apply to adults too❤
@dyanzobrist1227
September 10, 2026 at 5:33 pm
Finally someone who can explain real gentle parenting to people who don’t get it.
@ShaunDreclin
September 10, 2026 at 5:51 pm
Watching this sort of thing is so painful because almost every adult in my life failed me as a kid. My parents loved me and did their best but they also didn’t know how to raise an audhd kid.
Teachers, scout leaders, and any other form of adult authority though.. they also didn’t know how to deal with me, but with the added bonus of not loving me at all
I just pray the next generations dont have to grow up with the trauma that I had.
@kaneo317
September 10, 2026 at 6:32 pm
The most interesting thing about all these is that no one actually knows the impact of such parenting a couple of generations down the track.
There are so many external factors influencing kids growing up nowadays and for what we have seen so far, the signs are very worrying.
@astromezzo
September 10, 2026 at 7:51 pm
When my picky eater was old enough, about 6 or 7, we would invite her to make her own dinner if she didn’t like ours. It had to have a vegetable and a protein. Usually she would put refried beans on a whole wheat tortilla with some cheese, microwave that, and eat a carrot. We didn’t have to cater to her and she always knew she had agency to get a healthy dinner she preferred.
@maggiecalderon
September 10, 2026 at 8:55 pm
1:40 “I am the sturdy pilot for you during your turbulence” 😭❤️🩹 Dr Becky healing my inner child
@confusedcaveman6611
September 10, 2026 at 8:58 pm
What do i do if my wife is a bad influence? She has tantrums whenever we have any kind of disagreement (cursing, shouting, throwing things, stomping feet, slamming doors)
I know the kid will absorb that, but she cant be convinced to behave.
@JasonBeatty83
September 11, 2026 at 10:16 am
With the picky eaters, this has been a favorite of mine. We call it “try new things”. We make our kids try any new food, and they can’t refuse. We obviously choose reasonable things, and they don’t have to do any more than take one bite and chew it for a few seconds. Spit it out? cool. Tell us it’s disgusting, but tell us WHY. It helps parents know what the kids like and helps the kids explore new things with little pressure.
@saxy1player
September 11, 2026 at 10:19 am
Not just every time, but any time you give in, you are affirming their approach of bullying you into getting what they want
@connytz_5
September 11, 2026 at 10:24 am
I feel bad, im their parent 😭
@LegatusFlagrans
September 11, 2026 at 12:18 pm
7:24 an important addition to this one, also don’t be the parent who goes “because I said so” and punishes your kid for disobeying.
Kids who are rewarded for every little thing they do grow up into entitled adults who believe relationships are transactional.
Kids who are punished at every little disobedience grow up into codependent, people-pleasing doormats who live in constant fear of upsetting people and will do anything asked of them at their own expense (it’s me, I’m the codependent, people-pleasing doormat).
@BuenosDiazz
September 11, 2026 at 12:49 pm
Dr. Becky, why’d you have me crying just 2 minutes in?
@dzhutii
September 11, 2026 at 12:55 pm
as an african that has been educated then african way…you having a tantrum😁😁 you gonna get slapped sooo hard your “emotions” are going on weekend.
@isabel.bolivia
September 11, 2026 at 1:37 pm
I cannot get hungry between meals, I have hypotension 😅
@bambimariposa
September 11, 2026 at 1:45 pm
I’m having trouble with a picky eater. The what, when, and where is very smart. My problem is he won’t eat it then ask for food later. Do I just not feed him?
@mercuryxo
September 11, 2026 at 5:20 pm
Starving or restricting food intake because of picky eating will only worsen the relationship a child may have with food.
@D..S..
September 11, 2026 at 1:52 pm
Man I wish I had a mom like this and not the one I have…
I swear everything she did/taught was the exact WRONG thing every time
@samanthahopebanasky4784
September 11, 2026 at 2:12 pm
I always have my kiddos repeat “I am safe, I am protected, I am loved, and I AM BRAVE”
@turtle360
September 11, 2026 at 2:32 pm
23:23 My mom never tried to force me to eat and I like that a lot about her. Her mom forced her to eat and now she is obese and have a strange relationship with food. With being allowed to decide how much on my own, I never had any overeating problem, even know when I am an adult and I don’t understang why losing weight is so talked about. She did force me to try at least one bite of the food, though, which I understood and agreed to. Also we are French so obviously I didn’t have any alternative food when I refused to eat. I did see that in other families, but unless the kid has a condition it is not the right way to have him eat the next time…
@chicagonewsbench
September 11, 2026 at 3:49 pm
Your kid is having a tantrum at the grocery store? SPANK THEM. Simple, easy, effective, time tested.
@jujifenty5031
September 11, 2026 at 3:57 pm
is this science based?
@shunfox
September 11, 2026 at 4:26 pm
the sleep separation mantra unexpectedly made me sob & an uncomfortable feeling appeared, lasted until several seconds into the next part. jealousy or…?
@michaelsalmon9832
September 11, 2026 at 5:06 pm
is shame not an important thing to learn? is it not a way to socialize a child?
@Helhorror13
September 11, 2026 at 5:14 pm
I have to give mad props to people who choose parenthood. Watching this, I’m confident in my decision that I couldn’t be a parent. It isn’t for everyone; not to mention that I was not raised at all like what is described here.
@æüqeruł
September 11, 2026 at 6:25 pm
We already see this much with gen Z and millennials.
@æüqeruł
September 11, 2026 at 6:32 pm
I’m kind of glad I have delay development so I never had a tantrum.
@tiffanydang4
September 11, 2026 at 6:59 pm
very enlightening!! def a lot of patience and reflection required on parents behalfs
@StarcatcherDK
September 11, 2026 at 8:44 pm
Parenting isn’t an easy business
@sarahthomas2389
September 11, 2026 at 9:06 pm
Fellow child psychologist here. Love your style and use of language to break down parenting concepts!!
@gamereyemd7264
September 11, 2026 at 9:10 pm
How can I make kids read a book?
I read a book. They copy us. It’s that simple.
@StarcatcherDK
September 11, 2026 at 9:25 pm
About tantrums… Could it be that it’s parents who have to learn that saying no to kids is not treason?🤔
@SafiraSafa
September 11, 2026 at 9:26 pm
7:01 is this the reasons why some of people, when they stressed out, they start stress eating?
@r.wren000
September 11, 2026 at 11:32 pm
All parents should get education about things like this. It would have such a positive impact on our society.
@emilygrace2671
September 12, 2026 at 12:32 am
I love Dr. Becky! Great for parenting my inner child too✨
@treyk2932
September 12, 2026 at 12:40 am
Father of 2 young kids here:
You folks have no idea how golden this video is. Ms. Kennedy does a fantastic job of giving the assurance. Well done!
*everyone needs to bookmark or save this clip
@royer_redos
September 12, 2026 at 12:50 am
Someone needed to ask how to handle a situation where you have kids and you realize you hate kids and you don’t have the desire or motivation to do any of these things.
@meehannahbanana
September 12, 2026 at 1:17 am
My almost two year old has a tablet but we’ve only used it enough times for it to need a charge once. I’ve somehow lost it.. I know it’s in my house 😅 anyways, she doesn’t even know it exists. Not bragging, just thought it was cute. A phone is a different story. Buttttt I am happy to say her first word besides “mama” and “dada” was book 😊
@vikk2524
September 12, 2026 at 1:40 am
same vibe as “Psychologist Answers Questions About How to Deal with you Girlfriends”
@NyznTvfk
September 12, 2026 at 4:58 am
çocuk yapanların amk.
@Steamedpeas
September 12, 2026 at 10:41 am
i picked up a book called hunt, gather, parent. it reinforced my confidnece in my parenting and robusted my shortfalls. i feel like things are easier than they ever were now. it’s not gentle parenting, you’re just afraid of learning!
@scottkidder9046
September 12, 2026 at 10:42 am
Hardest thing when parenting myself is having boundaries while also feeling my emotions without shame. It’s so easy to think that in order to have boundaries, they have to be accepted wholeheartedly because I’m supposed to want them. I do want them, that’s why I’m setting the boundary, and I can also feel bad doing it, and I can even wonder why it feels so bad and listen to the emotion. I know… I don’t get it I don’t have kids, I’m very aware, but even as someone without kids, I find that I’m still a kid inside in many ways mostly because I haven’t learned a lot of this stuff and so I’m learning it now. I figure if I can figure it out for myself, then maybe I’ll have a better chance at teaching my kids to do it if I have them.
@ThisisasurethingTY
September 12, 2026 at 10:43 am
16:33 This is almost always presented by white (non immigrant) parents and for me and my family it *was* safety growing up.
@marendenison3550
September 12, 2026 at 11:11 am
“I am the sturdy pilot for you during your turbulence.” That is a really great quote for a parent whose child struggles with tantrums!
@MonaMcClelland
September 12, 2026 at 11:24 am
Giving full attn was a struggle for me. As a parent with ADHD…this was a struggle….listening to this definitely brings up a lot of sadness for me. I could have done so much better.
@calebconley7165
September 12, 2026 at 11:30 am
My biggest annoyance when I try to understand what a child is saying or feeling and adults try to stop that progress because they think I’m agreeing.
@MarieE.512
September 12, 2026 at 12:28 pm
😅😅 a parent explanation of gelte parenting. “I don’t take her to school if she doesn’t want to” 😮
@michaelnazar9358
September 12, 2026 at 1:25 pm
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@Sarah-uj4hv
September 12, 2026 at 2:01 pm
holy crap her eyes are so big and beautiful
@lexe_le
September 12, 2026 at 2:20 pm
as
@RyanBirke
September 12, 2026 at 2:45 pm
Read to your kids every night!
@Jim-Stick
September 12, 2026 at 4:06 pm
I absolutely love that she is using child engagement techniques while talking to adults. We are all just children.
@MangoBums
September 12, 2026 at 4:12 pm
THANK YOU especially with the food advice at the end!
@zoevickers7286
September 12, 2026 at 5:23 pm
tremendousley helpful wow
@AlexDicy
September 12, 2026 at 5:25 pm
I don’t even have a kid, I don’t want a kid, but this video was so interesting!
@Coffeewusky
September 12, 2026 at 8:52 pm
im disappointed there wasn’t one where a parents hits their child smh
@simonbahstech6023
September 12, 2026 at 9:12 pm
picky eaters: let the kid starve for one night and the kid will learn it
@FelipeKana1
September 13, 2026 at 10:39 am
11:44 Lulu, HAVE YOU SEEN THE OUTSIDES?
@kansasdude
September 13, 2026 at 10:42 am
if me or my sister threw a tantrum, our mom or dad would take us to the car to calm down while the other shopped
@TVdeaddeylan
September 13, 2026 at 10:56 am
When did shame become a bad thing? If my kid was running around hitting people. My kid should feel ashamed of that action.
@ScoCoda
September 13, 2026 at 11:06 am
22:44 So when my mom forced 10 y/o me to have the bad grilled cheese she attempted to make for me and she tried forcing it into my mouth as I yelled and cried and then she recorded a video of me crying saying she was going to send it to other people if I didn’t eat the grilled cheese… might that have anything to do with me as an adult now eating the same three things every day and rarely trying anything different?
@RachaeltheSpicyHobbit
September 13, 2026 at 11:38 am
Counseling student here, I wrote down “confidence = self-trust” bc I think that’s important wisdom.
@WhiffleWaffles
September 13, 2026 at 11:51 am
THANK YOU. SO MANY PEOPLE DON’T ACTUALLY “GENTLE” PARENT AND THEY BLAME IT ON THAT. BUT IT’S NOT.
@invox_in_your_inbox
September 13, 2026 at 11:58 am
I think you should need to pass some kind of test BEFORE having kids…
I mean, we have Driving Licenses because our actions on the road can have a negative effect on other. But meanwhile, you can have has much kids as you want, raise them has a-holes, have them bully and hurt other kids, and even turn them into little criminals… and all that’s perfectly legit!?
@jbweezer
September 13, 2026 at 12:10 pm
We have four young children and NO iPad and it’s made parenting so much tougher. But me and my wife know that it will be worth it. They have plenty of toys and books and after they get hired for a little while they inevitably start playing make believe with each other. Problem solved.
@ChiefBret
September 13, 2026 at 9:18 pm
I’m glad there are some parents still doing that, I know when I have a child I want to do the same, even if it makes it harder, like you said it will be worth it. I’ve seen the effects firsthand of giving tablets to children too young, especially when they are not supervised nearly at all.
@Laire183
September 13, 2026 at 12:43 pm
I consider myself a bit of a picky eater, it’s a texture thing and it’s been my whole life like that, there are some textures that I just can’t physically eat.
What my parents did (and the rest of my family) was let us have our opinions on food but some base rules. This is basically:
You can say that you don’t like x vegetable, but you can’t say you don’t like all of them.
Always available one of the kinds of fruits i would eat and i got a choice but at least one piece of fruit a day.
You can ask for something to be cooked in a way you know you like (my mum makes the best macaroni with vegetables ever).
If you order something in a restaurant you have to eat it, decisions have consequences.
So yeah, don’t let them starve but let them have autonomy and make decisions, and if they get sth wrong you help them fix it
@qaasimabdullah5598
September 13, 2026 at 12:57 pm
5:00 object permanence
@nishkaarora6343
September 13, 2026 at 1:19 pm
i started to watch because i was curious and came ended up with many ways i can deal with my own emotions
@RachaeltheSpicyHobbit
September 13, 2026 at 1:20 pm
I do prefer “sturdy parenting”. Kids need a parent as an anchor in what is an often scary and frequently changing world. We don’t think enough about how they’re engaging with a brand new world. To them.
I don’t like this obsession with controlling their emotions and not letting the express themselves. New parents are treating children as accessories or pets to show on social media.
Like, you can go too far with it maybe, but let kids cry. Let kids scream at the park or in other appropriate areas. Let kids be sad. Let them be grumpy. Let them be bored. Let them whine and pout. They need to learn emotions aren’t urgent requests. That feeling dissatisfied doesn’t mean a person or a computer has to jump to fix it. Learn also, that expression is ok. You will get mad sometimes and you don’t always have to pretend to be happy. A lot of pressure is on kids to be their parent’s cheerleaders. Especially girls.
@Veinti1599
September 13, 2026 at 1:27 pm
I’m not even a parent and I enjoyed this video lol
@msigartau
September 13, 2026 at 2:30 pm
Niceee
@yunoletmehaveaname
September 13, 2026 at 3:29 pm
To be fair, even as an adult I have serious breakdowns when im feeling what my parents used to call “a little hungry”. I learned later that i have a medical condition that spikes anxiety when my hunger is triggered. 😢
@toddli5272
September 13, 2026 at 3:31 pm
This video is great for my relationship (dont worry she’s in her 30s)
@smooch4119
September 13, 2026 at 3:49 pm
Letting a two yeard old kid be alone in the dark is something I have never heard here in Germany. Yes, we put kids in their own room to sleep when they are 2,3 or 4, but we stay with them until they sleep. What she described seems awefull.
@oglingling
September 13, 2026 at 6:32 pm
Omg i love this !
@leilanijohnson9599
September 13, 2026 at 7:12 pm
This is McKenna Grace as an adult
@billli3172
September 13, 2026 at 7:33 pm
I am a therapist working with high risk youth. I see many parents that deposits nothing in to the relationship with their child and are outraged that they could not get their child to do what they were told. Parents that challenges and refutes their child emotions immediately. 😢
@AshesWake-sf7uw
September 13, 2026 at 8:09 pm
12:15 just don’t buy an ipad or even a phone lol, they are too expensive just hand it over to a kid lmao 😂
That they will quickly break
Give them a keypad phone lol or a computer that they can actually learn on instead of doom scroll.
If they are complaining about comparing to other kids with ipad, tell them why.
@zoe.lazaro
September 13, 2026 at 8:22 pm
this is all great advice for myself 😭 thank you
@PlaysWithSqrls
September 13, 2026 at 8:50 pm
I read the gentle parenting post a while back. OP wasn’t “gentle parenting”, they were straight up NOT parenting
@xiaokhat
September 13, 2026 at 8:55 pm
Parents need to realize that not saying no to a child produces a-holes too.
@katharinegarrison2568
September 14, 2026 at 2:05 pm
We did great with snacks. (No snacks. Just filling meals) Then they went to school and it ruined it all.
@CaffeinatedCutie
September 14, 2026 at 2:11 pm
When I was put to bed as a toddler, my routine would always be to ask my mom these questions in this order:
– Are you going anywhere tonight?
– Will you come see me before you go to bed?
– Can you leave my door open a little bit?
Every night, without fail, I’d ask her these questions and expect the same answers. 😂😂
@attackedbyrobots
September 14, 2026 at 2:15 pm
This video is full of terrible advice
@_soupnazi
September 14, 2026 at 2:40 pm
I had a tantrum while in line at the grocery store when I was a toddler. I was too small to remember it, I over heard it during an argument between my parents years later. My dad handled it by smacking me in the face. Apparently my mother was mortified, probably more because everyone in the store was shocked by it, less that he hit a baby. Now a days that sort of thing gets police intervention, rightfully so. It causes lifelong emotional damage.
@Giggjsjwhdicm
September 14, 2026 at 3:09 pm
Not a parent, no interest in becoming a parent, and well beyond childhood. But this was still insanely helpful and wild to listen to.
@matherman1111
September 14, 2026 at 4:45 pm
idk why i’m watching this i’m not even old enough for kids
@kalnie13
September 14, 2026 at 4:48 pm
Your first answer made me cry
@Groaznic
September 14, 2026 at 4:51 pm
Bro why is there a disconnect between this amazing lady’s sweater that is more comfortable than my sleep routine, and the knowledge she’s dropping, she should be wearing ukrainian military vest because she’s out in the trenches dude. I’m fully on board dude, this lady brings hard core canonical truth.
@nickalotdegit
September 14, 2026 at 5:41 pm
0:13 🫡
@nickalotdegit
September 14, 2026 at 5:44 pm
4:22 ❤
@nickalotdegit
September 14, 2026 at 5:46 pm
6:12 🎉
@nickalotdegit
September 14, 2026 at 5:50 pm
9:27 👍
@nickalotdegit
September 14, 2026 at 5:52 pm
11:39 Multitasking!
@nickalotdegit
September 14, 2026 at 5:54 pm
13:17 🫡
@nickalotdegit
September 14, 2026 at 5:59 pm
17:45 Practice.
@AleksanderOwczarek-f4o
September 14, 2026 at 6:04 pm
I am not a parent nor am I ever planning to be. Not sure how I got here, but it’s actually quite an interesting watch
@seanorlando6375
September 14, 2026 at 6:05 pm
I don’t think you need to explain everything to your kid like you suggested many times in this video.
@ooojonooo
September 14, 2026 at 6:10 pm
Can you make it VERY clear that shame in itself is not inherently bad? The way that you are talking about shame in this video implies that shame overall is a bad thing that shuts down learning and development when that is not the truth. Shame that crosses a certain threshold, I can totally agree is detrimental to learning, however, dealing with a certain level of shame and working through it is a life skill that EVERYONE needs to learn. Shame is not a bad thing and your child experiencing it here and there teaches them how to deal with it and build resilience.
@LesleyLizbeth
September 14, 2026 at 6:14 pm
Thank you for your fantastic advice! So much wisdom in these answers!
@Dziller
September 14, 2026 at 7:48 pm
Proverbs 13:24 KJV
He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.
@Dziller
September 14, 2026 at 7:48 pm
Whoop them kids
@user-ep9bs1ke6r
September 14, 2026 at 8:28 pm
This is incredible. She’s fantastic. Such a wealth of information
@somethingtragic
September 14, 2026 at 8:35 pm
I found this video refreshing and affirming. Thank you ❤
@zacknelson8918
September 15, 2026 at 12:03 pm
My two year is finally back on the will fall asleep in his bed without me in his room till he passes out, he was fine then a few months ago, it changed, every day I had to sit in the chair in his room so he could see me and fall asleep, if I left he would scream and cry and stand up, and some times so worked up he will throw up, but just recently he switched back, where I put him down, tell him good night, then I say lay down its bed time, and I walk out he might cry a little bit but doesn’t get up and doesn’t throw a fit, he just slowly goes to sleep,
@FantasyFinally
September 15, 2026 at 12:41 pm
New studies are countering the sids argument of sleep and actually recommending children sleep with their parents until about age 7. This is consistent with 90% of human history. Kids were never meant to sleep separately. Their rhythms in and out of sleep develop based off the patent.
@Mydadcanbeatupyourdad-9
September 15, 2026 at 12:45 pm
Maybe it’s new to me or it hasn’t happened enough in public, maybe it’s because I read this book lol I don’t mind my kid crying loudly, i don’t get why it’s “ annoying “
@nikolaitregouet
September 15, 2026 at 12:56 pm
I think in general today everyone is afraid by the fake social «norms» imposed on us by the capitalist «elite» to produce obedient slaves. A kid should, first and foremost, be a kid. Anything else is not your job as a parent. You are there to set limits. Not to control him or her
@dr.fancyngandwe4129
September 15, 2026 at 1:30 pm
In Africa beating is effective to deter the fire 🔥
@heatherr.unhinged
September 15, 2026 at 1:37 pm
I’ve never heard confidence described as “self trust” before and it finally clicked for me. ❤
@1495978707
September 15, 2026 at 2:31 pm
11:45 It’s like giving kids alcohol. We have an age limit largely because adults at least in principle have the capacity to self regulate. We should treat iPads for kids like giving cocaine to them. Do everything you can to limit exposure, don’t do it around them, and do *not* use it as a crutch for parenting. You will regret trashing their dopamine system so early for a loooong time after
@cda7889
September 15, 2026 at 2:37 pm
Love this series thank you
@1495978707
September 15, 2026 at 2:46 pm
19:30 Shame as an emotion exists purely for behavior modification. It shouldn’t be the go to tool, but some things people absolutely should feel ashamed about. Like you should feel ashamed about keeping a disgusting foul smelling room.
I’m not sure I would call “go to your room right now, and I’m taking away your things” shame… Shame is more like “the way you are behaving is not socially acceptable”
@OfficialYurd
September 15, 2026 at 2:52 pm
I was on board with the first one until she said “What can I do differently this time?”
No! Your kid doesn’t get to change how you do things whether directly or indirectly, with or without their knowledge of it changing.
Your children need to learn to adapt to the world around them.
Expose them to challenging scenarios and things they don’t like. It will make them much better people in the long run despite the difficulty in the short term.
@rsea3303
September 15, 2026 at 4:04 pm
What an incredible human being. I loved watching these scenarios, examples and the consecutive responses. Thank you for sharing what you know and have learned!
@DellAngela
September 15, 2026 at 4:13 pm
As a teacher I love this so much thx for the great reminders and tips
@dogvetusa
September 15, 2026 at 4:48 pm
Snacks popped up in the 90’s around where I lived. There were not snacks before then in my world. Part of that could be that mid 90’s my father passed and we started collecting his social security so money was less tight.
@maximilianobarona7560
September 15, 2026 at 5:23 pm
THIS IS SO AWESOME! thank you for defining and outlining good parenting. this beats all of the gentle parenting bull crap you see on the internet
@SDuchovne
September 15, 2026 at 5:40 pm
You promised a child psychologist, but all I can see is an adult.
@katedolphin5565
September 15, 2026 at 6:22 pm
i’m 27 with no kids but this is still really interesting for understanding my own relationship with my parents and how i parent myself.
@juliandevorak687
September 15, 2026 at 6:26 pm
Im not a parent, and i probably never will be. But I do believe in setting kids up for success for the betterment of everyone. One of things I struggle with is how to handle the never ending string of “why?” No matter what answer you give, they will answer with “why?”. I want to promote curiosity and critical thinking, but im usually reaching my wits end by the 4th ‘why’. Realistically, how do I successfully navigate this scenario?
@Idir825
September 15, 2026 at 6:42 pm
11:42 thank god someone finally said it without sugarcoating it. too many times I see people complaining about kids having too much screen time while being addicted to the same screens and sometimes having even more time on them then the actual kids, those devices were literally designed by psychologists and engineers to keep you hooked. And you expect a kid who can barely spell the alphabet to control themselves? Who gave them those devices in the first place? Everyone says Gen Alpha is cooked without acknowledging that parents are often the ones handing them an iPad instead of being there themselves. Wanting alone time is normal, but making a screen take the parent’s role is a terrible decision for a child’s future.
@marwinfernandez0302
September 15, 2026 at 7:08 pm
I don’t have kids, but I’m curious if this advice works with neurospicy kids.
@andrewmoran4178
September 15, 2026 at 7:54 pm
On sleep: my mother always said “you don’t have to go to sleep, you just have to be in your room and quiet. You can read, draw, color, or play all night with your reading lamp on.”
@tidalwaffles
September 15, 2026 at 8:10 pm
Nah
@KaylinMajeure
September 15, 2026 at 8:54 pm
this video should be shown to all new parents i swear
@ZennExile
September 15, 2026 at 9:00 pm
What’s Becky’s PhD Thesis? Because Psychology isn’t science, she’d have to have used research based on experiments that can’t be replicated, and therefor any Thesis that resulted would be entirely make-believe. As in, instead of the experiment determining what the evidence shows, that PhD thesis would need to entirely be comprised of Becky trying to prove her opinions were valid. And although women are adept at this very specific communication technique… it may not hold up to actual scientific, peer reviewed, scrutiny. Reading that PhD Thesis would be a treat. I bet there’s blue hair all over it.
@whatsthesong4295
September 15, 2026 at 9:23 pm
I always tell my son “you can do it yourself, or i can do it for you” when i want him to do something or stop doing something, like getting in his bed for nap time or picking up his toy
@mr_fuji_mintsmr_fuji_mints9873
September 16, 2026 at 1:14 pm
Personalities are mostly random
@ryanbentley4384
September 16, 2026 at 1:20 pm
Dr. Becky is the GOAT!!!!! We’ve been members of Good Inside for the past 5 years. I fully credit Dr. Becky and Big little feelings for how my children turned out to be incredible humans!!
@letter2Channel
September 16, 2026 at 1:25 pm
Nah
@AdrianFlipflop
September 16, 2026 at 1:59 pm
Parenting: all accuracy no training
Weather person: all training no accuracy
@DanielGreen0
September 16, 2026 at 2:21 pm
Please stop with this editing style. It’s distracting, it’s annoying.
Just leave the shot on her for the duration of the answer, none of this in-out cuts. Please.
The interesting people and subjects – such as Dr Becky here – hold my attention sufficiently.
@MrTracker797
September 16, 2026 at 2:43 pm
2:11 that is complete BS. The best method is leave the store.
@newbiegoalie
September 16, 2026 at 3:21 pm
So, basic parenting is ok, imo . No need for Psychologist to advice what to do.
@Sun-diver
September 16, 2026 at 3:22 pm
Too many people, especially minorities, need to stop breeding like the rats they are.
@dwarfcow
September 16, 2026 at 3:30 pm
Hey Timmy, if you don’t stop jumping on the couch, you are gonna get hurt, and if you break my couch you’re gonna lose all your toys.
@Aviator27J
September 16, 2026 at 3:37 pm
Patience, a willingness to learn (and adapt), and of course love are the most important parts of being a parent. Security and that kind of thing fall under love by the way. I think the issue I wish I was better at was patience, but I’m probably abnormally more patient with infants than most people because they’re fascinating and adorable. Even when it’s stressful, they’re going off instinct, so it’s understandable. I hope I’ll be a good advocate to my kids when they become parents and I hope I’ll be a good grandfather once I have my grandkids, because I’ve known for a long time that while they’re not even a glimmer in their parents’ eyes, I love them so much already!
@echognomecal6742
September 16, 2026 at 3:42 pm
Lots of really good & useful stuff…except for the last bit which assumed a lot. Is what’s being served appropriate & in appropriate amounts? Is it made appropriately & to the taste of a child rather than an adult? (Yes, the last point is very debatable, but there _are_ some instances where it applies.) Are there extenuating circumstances? (Appropriate time & place) etc.
@scrappybastard
September 16, 2026 at 4:00 pm
I have 0 kids and I found this enlightening
@DrBeenaPlumber
September 16, 2026 at 4:01 pm
Rewarding an unwanted behavior some of the time, in a way the kid can’t predict (like bribing a kid to stop a tantrum in the store20% of the time) makes that unwanted behavior even stronger. That’s basic operant conditioning. Make the reward unpredictable, and the behavior becomes stronger and more persistent.
@suckithardnfast
September 16, 2026 at 4:39 pm
If you pay attention she’s using the same techniques on us, the viewers.
@AvoToastcado
September 16, 2026 at 4:48 pm
Do I have kids? No. Love love love her perspective and advice!
@franciscocornejodesouza3126
September 16, 2026 at 4:48 pm
The US could come back to being a functional country if someone replaced the sycophants surrounding the POTUS with this wonderful professional, even Trump himself would’ve had a chance of being happier.
@kakae4439
September 16, 2026 at 5:36 pm
MIMIMIMIMIMIMIMIMIMI
@ainsleymatthews8099
September 16, 2026 at 5:40 pm
I have arfid and there were countless times as a kid I had to stay at the dinner table to finish my food, or if I didn’t eat dinner I wouldn’t be able to eat for the rest of the night, or I’d be punished if I didn’t eat what my mom made. If my parents even just once told me hey, here’s what I’ve made, you don’t have to eat it and you are not doing anything wrong by choosing not to eat it, I am sure I would not have the dietary and eating problems I have to this day
@ainsleymatthews8099
September 16, 2026 at 5:42 pm
I also ended up expecting dinner time with new food to mean a fight with my parents being angry, and if they were had the attitude she described in this video, I would’ve honestly been more curious and willing to try things. Things with a different texture, things that where ingredients were touching, and things that had unexpected parts.
@hafizgunawan4594
September 16, 2026 at 5:42 pm
Thanks for the suggestions, im a child myself
@zechmiller631
September 16, 2026 at 5:48 pm
heard once that I truly believe. Curiosity is the purest form of confidence. Raise them to be curious.
@suen5006
September 16, 2026 at 6:11 pm
Wow, I can’t believe you said give in to the tantrum and get the kid a candy bar. No. Never! Not listening after that.
@Anoianrat
September 16, 2026 at 6:32 pm
does it say something about me or my parents if this was extremely insightful for me, learning waaayyy too many things that somehow, I didn’t know?…
@Anoianrat
September 16, 2026 at 6:34 pm
fyi, I am gen z…. still in high school as a matter of fact……. o_o
@vengerofthelight
September 16, 2026 at 7:00 pm
10:12 — Wow. Just… no.
For any parents struggling out there, the bad news is that there’s no clean answer; kids don’t pop out with an instruction manual (I checked), and every kid is different. The good news is that there is some general advice that seems to be universal to human relationships: be firm, be CONSISTENT, and listen.
@julieblack5200
September 16, 2026 at 9:10 pm
Do you have a youtube channel? Would love to watch your other videos
@Comrade_Ogilvy
September 17, 2026 at 6:04 am
13:39 “How you correct a 3yr old without screaming”
Trying not to judge but WTF?
@Jordan-wv4dk
September 17, 2026 at 7:04 am
The best tip I have, is don’t go grocery shopping, get it delivered. Then you know what you are buying and you don’t have to deal with tantrums. It’s that simple.
@ExpNovice
September 17, 2026 at 7:17 am
I’ve heard of gentle parenting, but this is the first useful explanation I’ve heard.
@saldiven2009
September 17, 2026 at 7:48 am
7:20 “It’s actually important to be a little hungry before dinner.”
It’s actually important for a lot of health-related issues to be “a little hungry” all the time. It’s better for digestive health, it regulates spikes and valleys in blood sugar, it regulates your metabolism, it reduces rates of overweight and obesity, it engages the body in autophagy where it works on repair and elimination of damaged cells, it makes your more alert, etc.
Humans are the product of millions of years of evolutionary forces, and for virtually 0% of that time did we have reliable, easy to obtain on demand food supplies. Our bodies have evolved to be a little hungry for the majority of our life. This feeling of being a little hungry is what pushed us to hunt and gather for food supplies, forcing us to be active. Even when agriculture was developed, we still had to be physically active to satisfy this feeling of being a little hungry.
Today, with many people immediately running for food any time they feel the slightest bit of hunger, we see increased obesity, increased diabetes, increased sedentarism, and decreased overall quality of life due to the negative effects on health of eating too much.
@aspicytunaroll
September 17, 2026 at 7:57 am
I have a kid on the way and this was such an incredible video. I saved it and am taking notes! Thanks so much for all of this advice @goodinside
@TekGriff
September 17, 2026 at 8:40 am
none of this will help new parents. zero chance
@CptHearsgood
September 17, 2026 at 9:03 am
I sincerely enjoy how expressive of a speaker you are.
@sooperman12
September 17, 2026 at 9:10 am
I find it hilarious that adults try to reason with their kids who don’t have fully formed pre frontal cortexes capable of higher reasoning. Kids respond to consistency and structure. Create the structure and enforce it regularly. This requires most of all that the adult is capable of regulating themselves which many adults are not capable of.
@Reyxco
September 17, 2026 at 10:57 am
Your statement about “bringing negative feelings to a zero immediately” resonated with me SO MUCH. I, 36m, have a mother, 66f (a Boomer, for those of you who think that means EVERYTHING), who does this, and it drives me nuts! Heaven forbid, my son, 11m, is sad for 10 minutes because he couldn’t get something he wanted, for example. My son is very reasonable and able to take no for an answer with little to no emotional regulation required (nine times out of ten, nobody is perfect). She’s like this with everyone, including herself. The moment something becomes the slightest bit “unhappy” she goes into fix-it mode or whatever, to the detriment of anything healthy or reasonable. I know it’s a bad habit, so thanks for the validation!
@footures
September 17, 2026 at 11:32 am
You can never spoil with love and time.
@Bearetta
September 17, 2026 at 11:33 am
I appreciate the tips, even though my ones are 6 and 7 yo and the level of communication is finally a bit higher. Let me just ask about the picky eating: what to do when my quite capable and assertive 6yo, after all that chicken and broccoli tantrum goes like “fck it I’M GONNA COOK SOMETHING MYSELF” and he actually drags a chair to the fridge. He can fry eggs and whisk stuff, I’d say he’s good, but honestly dammit, THERE’S OUR DINNER ON THE TABLE. I don’t want to yell, but I’m exhausted and not really interested in letting him cook, yet alone second dinner. Recently he started to go to the shop by himself, like we had no bread and milk, he slammed the door and came back with bread and milk. (He was wearing tracker, so I let things happen, but wow.) On one hand he’s incredible help allover, but on the other he has much more mental stamina than us, old people..
@yusomaditsonlycomment
September 17, 2026 at 11:58 am
Better regulated kids is a weird thing to say.
@thekatanaist
September 17, 2026 at 11:59 am
Sturdy Parenting is a good term. I’ve been calling it Gentle-But-Firm parenting.
@Ryanandtherest12
September 17, 2026 at 12:28 pm
“why are young kids so obsessed with iPads” is such a wild question. Why the f is the parent giving them an iPad is the q
@WelshRaccoon
September 17, 2026 at 12:45 pm
Amazing. Is that what it’s like to have parents? I guess my grandparents were this for me, but I only got to stay with them 3 days at a time in school holidays. The rest of the time, I was severely neglected so I’m taught so much of this stuff to myself. Would have been so beautiful to be given these feelings of reassurance and safety. That makes me really sad 🙁
@RelaxunoOfficial
September 17, 2026 at 2:47 pm
Shame can stop a behavior in the moment. The hidden cost is teaching someone to fear being bad more than they learn how to do better.
@theauklet
September 17, 2026 at 4:02 pm
Q1: No. Intermittently rewarding tantrum behavior with treats ensures you’ll get even worse tantrums. Kid learns, “I just have to tantrum harder.”
@yessiekawaii1290
September 17, 2026 at 4:03 pm
As someone who was a preschool teacher for toddlers, I’m so curious to learn more about how the different generations have changed parenting styles! I’m sure financial differences during each time period has an effect
@imaclover1428
September 17, 2026 at 4:36 pm
Look, my picky eater licked a piece of broccoli the other day. I almost cried. 🤣(Fruit is all fair game though, we love fruit here)
@nhyle4947
September 17, 2026 at 4:57 pm
it’s very interesting to me that most americans don’t let their kids sleep with them. in vietnam we sleep with our kids until they don’t wanna sleep with us anymore and they are very independent people as they grow up
@Alexandriughhh
September 17, 2026 at 5:38 pm
I didn’t finish this yet but I already love it. So good. Thanks for sharing. I don’t have any children but I think that these things apply to adults too.
@chocoboko123
September 17, 2026 at 7:25 pm
Anyone else like watching these types of vids cause your folks didn’t raise you right, so now you gotta learn how to raise yourself right
@Ashley4rent
September 17, 2026 at 7:40 pm
I’m not, but that’s honestly really admirable. Proud of you
@TustinJimberlake
September 17, 2026 at 8:53 pm
I don’t trust bubbly and jittery psychologists
@themightykabool
September 17, 2026 at 9:01 pm
Cant say it enpugh –
Shes basically describing dog training
Southpark casaer episode