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What Gets Lost When We Treat Conversations Like Transactions | Khaya Dlanga | TED

Through humorous anecdotes and moving memories, he explores why it’s the conversations we have without strategy or agenda that actually allow us to see one another. (Recorded at TED2025 on April 9, 2025) Join us in person at a TED conference: Become a TED Member to support our mission: Subscribe to a TED newsletter: Follow…

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@JemimahIyamah

February 3, 2026 at 11:03 am

First to comment
Yeahhhh

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- @ExistentialWolf
  
  February 3, 2026 at 11:14 am
  
  You sound like you wish you knew how to skate … maybe someone will show 😀
  
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@theawesomest2850

February 3, 2026 at 11:16 am

Yeah calling someone a NPC is very dehumanizing

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@DonovanDube

February 3, 2026 at 11:16 am

Yaasssss, Khaya 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

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@DrNshali

February 3, 2026 at 11:26 am

Well articulated👏🏿👏🏿

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@thelordcomanderwhocriedwolf

February 3, 2026 at 11:48 am

Thank you so much for your important message Khaya. Now more than ever.❤️‍🩹🕯️

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@StraightEdgeBaconKiddo

February 3, 2026 at 11:48 am

Thank you so much for your important message Khaya. Now more than ever.❤️‍🩹🕯️

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@Shorooq857Samaa

February 3, 2026 at 12:00 pm

لماذا سوف ادخل جاري الى حياتي واجعله يتكلم فيما يشاء وقد يؤذي ذلك مشاعري بينما أنا في غنى عن ذلك 😮 افضل السلام الداخلي عن السماح لاي احد الدخول لعالمي

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@CaroNielsen

February 3, 2026 at 12:54 pm

💖 love good stories 😊

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@AlyciaBetz

February 3, 2026 at 12:59 pm

🤍🤍🤍🦚🤍🤍🤍

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@wikimasakinihirota678

February 3, 2026 at 3:12 pm

サニボアナ

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@1MysteryZ1967

February 3, 2026 at 4:30 pm

❤🎉

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@ggvideonow1

February 3, 2026 at 10:12 pm

I go to sports bars start conversations for the sake of conversation … once a week. Which team is yours? any response most of the time end up to be a nice conversation

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@urbanstrencan

February 4, 2026 at 1:20 am

Great video, and great talk

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@adeeba_arf

February 4, 2026 at 9:54 am

Thank you so much khaya❤ It’s true Ai can never replace our human connections✨ it’s time that we understand we should start connecting with people we care about, with our loved ones😊

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@whitetowncar

February 4, 2026 at 1:19 pm

Thank you, sorry for your loss

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@lemonpow420

February 4, 2026 at 7:56 pm

💜✌🏼

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@BusinessBankingAndBeyond

February 5, 2026 at 2:41 am

In a world driven by results, let’s not forget the value of simply listening, of pausing to hear the stories behind the words. Every conversation is an opportunity to learn something new, to enrich our lives with the wisdom and experiences of others. By treating conversations as the human exchanges they are, we foster a sense of community and understanding that transcends the transactional, enriching both our personal and collective journeys.

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@GrumpyGurmudgeon

February 5, 2026 at 10:21 am

I wish he had drawn the man on the moon face because I don’t see anything. When I look at the Moon all I see is dark and light spots

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@FranciscoArvizu

February 5, 2026 at 10:28 am

Khaya, we see you.

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@NomzamoNthabiseng

February 5, 2026 at 1:57 pm

Thank you Khaya! I had no idea that “sawubona” had such a profound meaning

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@benwarped7272

February 5, 2026 at 8:24 pm

I mean people treat all of human experiences as transactions. It’s more about “what can I get from this person” than anything else.

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