When we avoid feeling awkward, we often miss an opportunity for growth, says workplace performance expert Henna Pryor. She shares tips on embracing discomfort for the sake of self-betterment and shows how pushing past the “cringe chasm” — the gap between how we perceive ourselves and how others see us — can open up chances to get ahead at work and in life. (Recorded at TEDxQueensVillage on September 2, 2022)
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@Hodophile-c2z
September 5, 2024 at 7:02 am
greaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat
@mr.c2485
September 5, 2024 at 7:16 am
Is this Tony the Tiger? 😅
Did a double take on your name….awkward!
@ZakFromOhio
September 5, 2024 at 7:22 am
Want to get ahead at work? Quit every 2 years and get a better job with more pay. Faster track to wealth than staying with the same company and losing money to inflation.
@user-ij1uh1ux2z
September 5, 2024 at 7:58 am
If you working in Macdonald’s, yes it’s possible to quit every 2 years…
@Masterdebater-q5c
September 5, 2024 at 11:03 am
That’s true, I would also add to your message and say how extremely important it is to negotiate your salary prior to starting a job because after that you’re only ever going to increase your pay between 3-10% each year based on the company
@rowanjohnstone9524
September 6, 2024 at 8:07 am
or 0.5 to 3% more likely
@mr.c2485
September 5, 2024 at 7:23 am
An “A” type who can’t express themselves?? 😊. That’s a new one…
@erkinyldrm6579
September 5, 2024 at 7:29 am
Is this a ted X or TED ?!?
@puffinjuice
September 5, 2024 at 2:51 pm
X
@face-in-the-crowd
September 5, 2024 at 8:05 am
TedX has gotten so cringe!!!
@melinatrummer
September 5, 2024 at 4:41 pm
What is cringe about TedX?
@kshaur13
September 5, 2024 at 8:16 am
Worst Ted Talk I’ve ever seen
@TronSAHeroXYZ
September 5, 2024 at 7:32 pm
Why’sat?
@frydac
September 5, 2024 at 8:21 am
Wut, you went in for a hug at work? And ‘he’ went for the fist-bump. So like, male-female work hug? Dang, when was this, I’ve never hugged anyone at work ever, which is the last 20 years or so 😀 let alone someone from another gender, I can’t even imagine lol
@carsonhunt4642
September 8, 2024 at 4:36 pm
That’s the real irony is seeing someone white collar try to give job advice lol. This would be a cute talk for college students (well the half that can get a job, half no longer do). White collar workplace politics is a different world than most others
@jameseyk1
September 5, 2024 at 8:36 am
“alright Dave”
@knice8886
September 5, 2024 at 9:04 am
Bangladesh
@brunacristina2581
September 5, 2024 at 9:26 am
“Instead of improving, instead of leveling up, instead of playing to win, we play not to lose” (3:40)
@TinNguyenThanh-ko6pi
September 5, 2024 at 10:29 am
it’s so boring
@magneat
September 5, 2024 at 10:58 am
She tried to put this in an interesting way. And she did a good job on being emotional, good pronunciation, etc. But it’s just the topic that doesn’t look interesting. I’m half way thru the video and I’m not intrigued by what’s going to be next. In fact I will not watch the 2nd part. Because so far the first part felt useless to me. Sorry, Helen)
@HacknMate
September 5, 2024 at 11:18 am
1 minute in and I already can tell she is very insecure. Seems like shes giving advice from an emotional POV. Relying on emotions and motivation at a work/job hunting scenario is not practical at all!!
@theprimalpitch190
September 5, 2024 at 2:26 pm
She’s smart and competent. Nice. But the actual talk is also like an elite recruit’s presumption of superiority. Weak and un-motivated premise, lack of modulation in intensity, pace, etc. No sign-posting. Instead just a non-stop frontal assault of ostensibly formidable revelations but actually from an angry victim point of view. And wait! She’s a “workplace performance expert?” Ha ha. A “just say no” solution to workplace stress? This is the epitome of “just do my smart thing and all will be solved.” Nope!
@puffinjuice
September 5, 2024 at 2:58 pm
Funny that this popped up on the morning of a presentation I dont feel prepared for. I am prepared, but my approval mind set is not helping with getting me prepared. Now that I’ve watched this, I feel less daunted by telling myself to embrace discomfort. Thanks for the good presentation!
@CollinRutherford
September 5, 2024 at 4:35 pm
Shifting from seeking approval to focusing on improvement is key for personal development.
@TronSAHeroXYZ
September 5, 2024 at 7:34 pm
I mistook a woman I used to know for a Helen. Was one of my biggest mistakes ever. Her real name wasn’t Helen.
@crownsandbutterflies
September 5, 2024 at 11:57 pm
The presentation was good, I like how she showed her vulnerability in the beginning and was forth coming (when she neglected to correct her superior). When someone says something to you that will make you cringe later like mispronouncing her name, it is wise to address it sooner than later. She streamlined her points and drove home in great detail how decorum and risk taking are important in any profession. Overcoming awkward moments or difficult discussions some times takes risk, because you never know how the person on the other end will perceive and or receive the message you are trying to convey. Be honest about your intentions at work and set personal goals. It will help you get ahead at work. Good job Henna!
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September 6, 2024 at 1:06 am
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September 6, 2024 at 4:40 am
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@crowningglory6654
September 6, 2024 at 7:44 am
This was sooo good. It’s that kind of topic that you won’t get it or recognise the pearls in it unless you are emotionally intelligent or on the journey to becoming so. It’s exactly what I needed. Choosing to be brave in moments that carry risk of unpleasant opinions to get to the other side of your own growth and future capability. That familiar saying growth is uncomfortable. Well put, well presented 👏👏👏
@kyokoyumi
September 8, 2024 at 3:56 am
Correcting someone on your name is not rude, risk taking or awkward. IT’S YOUR FUCKING NAME. You’re allowed to make sure people are saying it and spelling it correctly. If they have a problem with it, they clearly have a problem with YOU and you should leave that job post haste.
Has absolutely nothing to do with approval and everything to do with respect for you as a person and an employee.
Nothing about that is awkward and if they refuse to say your name right, start saying their name wrong. Spit their passive aggressive bullshit back in their face 😀
That said, the overall point of the video is good.
@bert3163
September 8, 2024 at 9:11 am
It depends on the culture of your workplace, the groundwork you’ve laid, how well you read the room, and how marketable you are. I’ve known lots of people – including white males – whose attempts at authenticity have damaged their careers.