Licensed family therapist Stephanie Yates-Anyabwile answers the internet’s burning questions about relationships. How do you know if someone is gaslighting you? Can a relationship withstand cheating? Do open relationships really work? What causes a marriage of fifteen years to fail? How do you know if your significant other is “The One”? Stephanie answers all these questions and much more.
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Jafoolyplu
February 14, 2023 at 7:44 pm
I like her but she pronounces humble wrong and it send me into an uncontrollable rage
Deeps
February 14, 2023 at 7:49 pm
Great questions and answers! Added bonus is the point that attacking a love language can cause a lot of hurt.
Cam James
February 14, 2023 at 7:58 pm
A beautiful Black woman. Great advice. Curious about your geographic background due to the pronunciation of “humble”, which I don’t think I’ve ever heard before.
coolocelot
February 14, 2023 at 10:19 pm
I’ve heard this pronunciation randomly in church sometimes but it is definitely rare.
PokéDaily
February 14, 2023 at 8:03 pm
Lol no one needs a therapist to tell me if i’m “allowed” to ghost someone or not. That’s a pretty dumb question.
TranceXZero
February 14, 2023 at 8:13 pm
I know plenty of bad things about people that they don’t know and it would crush them for most of the time it involves kids. I never like knowing about these problems but someway I end up knowing, is it still wrong not telling them about it? Why should I and not someone more immediately close to them? Then what does that say about them if it’s truly betrayal and disgust. I always wonder about that…
CD R
February 14, 2023 at 8:33 pm
The expert was fine but I was just so uninterested in these questions that I was fast forwarding, which is rare for me in this Wired Support series. Maybe it’s just me.
Steph Anya, LMFT
February 14, 2023 at 8:49 pm
Thanks for having me! I’m loving your comments. Thanks for the kindness, everyone!
Kasper Salonen
February 14, 2023 at 9:00 pm
You were wonderfully concise and helpful, thank you so much ^_^ I recently realized I ascribe to ethical non-monogamy, and the way you answered the question about cheating felt very inclusive and open to all relationship styles. You pointed out that shared guidelines and communication are key. I was also happy to hear your narcissism answer, that was very integrative for me. All the best! <3
uberDukkha
February 14, 2023 at 9:21 pm
u have twitter we can follow ?
NDO
February 14, 2023 at 9:23 pm
@uberDukkha she has a YouTube channel. Steph Anya, LMFT
Kosh Naranek
February 14, 2023 at 10:12 pm
Business must be good with all the metal breakdowns at Wired after the release of Hogwarts Legacy.
Orange0Monkey
February 14, 2023 at 10:44 pm
You were great, thanks for doing this.
Jay Dub
February 15, 2023 at 5:15 am
I’m somewhat insecure in relationships, but I am usually trying to stay detached and not wanting to be in need of validation… What’s wrong with me? Hah!
Ruben Baerga
February 15, 2023 at 6:59 am
Thank you so, so much for your insight on ghosting. I feel like the world’s gone crazy when people think that making yourself the least bit vulnerable is some kind of huge expense to make for the sake of having a basic sense of courtesy and consideration for other’s feelings. Some even have the gall to conflate “self-care” with “my feelings are somehow more important and valid than everyone else’s feelings”, it’s just so frustrating and sad. I could definitely use a therapist like you lol
Beck Baby
February 18, 2023 at 3:21 pm
i am so grateful for all of these videos! thank you for your insight and compassion
Kunde
February 19, 2023 at 11:32 am
I really enjoyed this video so much, i rewound every awnser at least three times.
bojassem12
February 19, 2023 at 7:08 pm
Great advise all-round! This might my favorite Tech Support episode!
Ricky Sakty
February 14, 2023 at 8:52 pm
1 / 10
Maciek300
February 14, 2023 at 8:58 pm
We want more Stephanie!
Vanessa Medeiros
February 14, 2023 at 9:11 pm
This was great. Deserves part 2.
Wyatt Guina
February 14, 2023 at 9:13 pm
YAAASSS STEPHANIE MADE IT ON HERE. I love her channel. Stephanie is so informative, insightful, and helpful! Yet again, another 10/10 banger video. Keep them coming!
Heather Guertin
February 14, 2023 at 9:13 pm
Thank you for talking about “Ghosting”! 100% the reason I stopped using dating apps. I’d much rather hear that the vibes were off, you are no longer interested, etc rather than have my time/energy wasted.
Demétrius Alexandre
February 14, 2023 at 9:14 pm
I could listen to her talking for hours! Great video, I hope she comes back
Ricky Morales
February 14, 2023 at 9:23 pm
“Says a lot about your friendship”.
That was the moment I liked her and decided to watch the rest of the video. More of her please! ❤️
P 69
February 14, 2023 at 9:35 pm
Therapists must have a very strict dress protocol.
Cup of CHI
February 14, 2023 at 10:02 pm
😂 elaborate plz.
TheUnheardProphet
February 14, 2023 at 9:37 pm
13:37
Rosalynn
February 14, 2023 at 9:44 pm
Love her advice to use someone who you’re tempted to ghost to instead use them as practice for having difficult conversations!
BridgeIsSky
February 14, 2023 at 9:55 pm
where is the ghosting question at?
Dot Rain
February 14, 2023 at 10:30 pm
1:20
Rachel Y
February 14, 2023 at 10:25 pm
Ayyyyyeeee It’s Steph Anya! I love her videos! She’s always so real and informative. Please bring her back!
Steph Snow
February 14, 2023 at 10:37 pm
This was awesome 👏
Harry Vuong
February 14, 2023 at 10:44 pm
therapist: “There’s nothing wrong with you” (procedes to diagnose you and offerer medications)
Colonel Sandurz
February 14, 2023 at 10:53 pm
How garbage has this outlet become to completely review bomb the Hogwarts game? If you’re going to review something review it on its actual merit, not based on your preconceived biases of the creator. How pathetic has this outlet become wow that is sad. Is Wired ran by a bunch of triggered 10 year olds? Sad
Orale Perros
February 14, 2023 at 11:18 pm
I love this type of Wired content
Alexandra Obrad
February 14, 2023 at 11:31 pm
Super helpful! Hoping for a part 2.
HouseMDaddict
February 15, 2023 at 12:07 am
As person also working in the mental health field, I appreciate what she says in the video. Legit how I respond to a lot of my clients and I’m glad she’s showing how insightful and awesome mental health professionals are!
Shadamy Silaze
February 15, 2023 at 9:07 am
I’ve never talked about having children with my bf in our early days. I guess it’s due to us being 16 and 17 at that time. Right now we’re together for 7 years and for now agree we don’t want them now. But what of that conception changes over time 🙃
Deea Banu
February 15, 2023 at 9:53 am
can i take this lady home?i need her to give me advice daily
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February 15, 2023 at 12:44 pm
📩📩📩
Eric Prybylski
February 15, 2023 at 10:49 am
This video will gain the most views in this channel’s history.
Gowtham
February 15, 2023 at 12:50 pm
Need more of this
Rebeca_xMorrise_Jobxx
February 15, 2023 at 1:14 pm
She forgot the most important part – bake your friend cookies like Phoebe did when she had to tell Rachel about Paolo. That helped a lot.
Rebeca_xMorrise_Jobxx
February 15, 2023 at 1:14 pm
More of her please!! I need her as my marriage therapist for me and my hubs lol
Miss Chantell
February 15, 2023 at 1:26 pm
So with the first question, I think we have to remember why was the boyfriend comfortable enough to even “beg”. My question would be what kind of relationship has the friend been having with her best friend boyfriend that he felt comfortable like that with her. See there’s something missing to this story.
Dominique Francon
February 15, 2023 at 1:42 pm
Irrelevant I know, but I love the way she pronounces “humble” with a silent H. My mom said it that way, and I love being reminded of her in small ways here and there.
SecretWars98
February 15, 2023 at 2:01 pm
Imo, a man paying for a first date’s meal and/or activity doesn’t have as much to do with interest as it shows Chivalry..& since so many of us are convinced that chivalry is dead, I think it’s more important than ever to bring it back!
Rubbela_XxSnipper_
February 15, 2023 at 2:21 pm
More of her please!! I need her as my marriage therapist for me and my hubs lol
Rubbela_XxSnipper_
February 15, 2023 at 2:21 pm
This was one of the best ones yet. I feel like this is such practical knowledge for everyone.
F1dEst
February 15, 2023 at 3:04 pm
see how all the people asking are females? they really dont know anything abt anything 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Lars Cincaid
February 15, 2023 at 3:56 pm
Consider yourself boycotted, Wired.
Until you fire that game reviewer.
Mily Alvarez
February 15, 2023 at 4:05 pm
I loved the video but what an awful clickbait with that thumbnail!!! wtf
Steve Vandebeur
February 15, 2023 at 5:05 pm
She knows nothing!
Marco Piccolo
February 15, 2023 at 5:19 pm
cool!
Donovan James Carey
February 15, 2023 at 5:55 pm
One of the most practical videos thus far
Wanda B
February 15, 2023 at 6:10 pm
Good commentary.
Arlette Yantambwe
February 15, 2023 at 6:15 pm
steph anya❤️❤️
Oh No
February 15, 2023 at 7:02 pm
BS
Most of her answers were don’t get in a relationship to begin with
Eli Rodriguez
February 15, 2023 at 7:14 pm
What does “going Dutch” mean?
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February 15, 2023 at 7:59 pm
⬆️⬆️⬆️
Shai Lagarde 샤이
February 16, 2023 at 3:15 am
Each of you pays for your own meal or ticket.
T̎e̎l̎e̎g̎r̎a̎m̎ +𝟭𝟳𝟯𝟰𝟴𝟲𝟴𝟰𝟯𝟲𝟴 WIRED
February 16, 2023 at 3:59 pm
@Shai Lagarde 샤이 ⬆️⬆️⬆️
M D
February 16, 2023 at 9:30 pm
It’s just tapdancing around someone in your wooden clogs, while trowing slices of gouda around them to trap them in a circle, and then when they are mesmerized, sticking a tulip up their butt to give them that classic tulip fever. The regular stuff really.
Kosh Naranek
February 15, 2023 at 10:54 pm
My relationship with my wife’s boyfriend has really improved after watching this video.
Safaa
February 16, 2023 at 12:09 am
Can we please have time stamps on these videos pls
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February 16, 2023 at 12:51 am
⬆️⬆️⬆️.
T̎e̎l̎e̎g̎r̎a̎m̎ +𝟭𝟳𝟯𝟰𝟴𝟲𝟴𝟰𝟯𝟲𝟴 WIRED
February 16, 2023 at 12:51 am
💌💌💬
Ruth Less
February 16, 2023 at 1:19 am
Disagree that people in open relationships are more likely to be avoidantly attached or that avoidant attachment means you’re more suited to polyamory – most of the polyamorous people I know, including myself, are anxious to securely attached!
Ana Valera
February 16, 2023 at 3:40 am
As a phycology student, I loved her.
Anastasia Brennan
February 16, 2023 at 3:53 am
♥️
xiaokhat
February 16, 2023 at 4:17 am
My husband always tells me I have my own version of reality. I never realized he was gaslighting me until I was out of the relationship.
ojematines
February 16, 2023 at 5:03 am
“When my depression works graveyard shift all over the people I’ve ghosted stand there in the room. ”
i don’t know how or why just this lyric feels related somehow
SUlthan YT
February 16, 2023 at 7:37 am
This subject is super
T̎e̎l̎e̎g̎r̎a̎m̎ +𝟭𝟳𝟯𝟰𝟴𝟲𝟴𝟰𝟯𝟲𝟴 WIRED
February 16, 2023 at 8:20 am
💌💌💬.
SUlthan YT
February 16, 2023 at 7:42 am
Subject is suppar
Diah Rahma
February 16, 2023 at 9:19 am
Pleasee bring her againn! We need tons of this
BorjaZa
February 16, 2023 at 9:38 am
Question 3… “The Banshees
of Inisherin”
Johan Malm
February 16, 2023 at 11:51 am
You give good advice in a nice, friendly and relaxed way.
Minh Trang Vũ
February 16, 2023 at 1:15 pm
pls make a part 2 for people who cannot afford therapy (me)
WatchKek
February 16, 2023 at 1:25 pm
This was a great vid, would like to see another!
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February 16, 2023 at 3:59 pm
💌💌💬💬
T̎e̎l̎e̎g̎r̎a̎m̎ +𝟭𝟳𝟯𝟰𝟴𝟲𝟴𝟰𝟯𝟲𝟴 WIRED
February 16, 2023 at 3:59 pm
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cm bs
February 16, 2023 at 3:08 pm
I occasionally buy lunch for people sometimes, friends. And I like when they occasionally buy me lunch. I think it’s nice but I do expect it to be relatively equal. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with occasionally buying someone lunch just to do something nice for them. Enjoy a meal together. If I were dating, I’d do the same thing. But one person always paying would not be fair, and it would set up an expectation that one will always pay for the other.
cm bs
February 16, 2023 at 3:08 pm
I occasionally buy lunch for people, friends. And I like when they occasionally buy me lunch. I think it’s nice but I do expect it to be relatively equal. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with occasionally buying someone lunch just to do something nice for them. Enjoy a meal together. If I were dating, I’d do the same thing. But one person always paying would not be fair, and it would set up an expectation that one will always pay for the other.
Emilio Petronez
February 16, 2023 at 6:56 pm
oh i love when “experts” splain to me how it’s “not ok” to do something 🙄🙄 please splain harder to me
Santiel Da Savage
February 16, 2023 at 7:12 pm
She’s perfect so clear speaking and knows her stuff thank you 🙌
rosegoldmadness
February 16, 2023 at 8:14 pm
My fiancé and I saw this video and he wants you as a therapist!! lol
Shasha Vengesayi
February 17, 2023 at 1:38 am
Her comments about being careful not 2 establish yourself as the enmy cause you don’t know what ppl do 4 u behind closed doors is GOLD! If u think someone is low vibration, then elevate them.
Gnanasabaapati R G
February 17, 2023 at 3:38 am
I would love to hear a male therapist and his opinions too.
Alexandra Smith
February 17, 2023 at 4:59 am
This lady is wonderful
caroline
February 17, 2023 at 5:47 am
Smart, thanks for your advices! My question would be, I’ve been married for 41 years, and we have issues. Is it possible to go to therapy and would it help, even after such a long time? Thanks 🙂
César Augusto Ojeda
February 17, 2023 at 3:00 pm
More of her videos please! p2, 3, 4!
Dioskeiry De La Cruz
February 17, 2023 at 3:55 pm
I really like the part where she mentioned that knowing your partner’s love language can give out an inside of what can hurt them. Never thought of it in that way, so interesting!!
Crystal Kayann
February 17, 2023 at 5:35 pm
Yay!! Love you Steph!!! Please keep coming back <3
Kushagra Sarswat
February 17, 2023 at 6:14 pm
i dont know why but her way of non verbal conversation reminded me of Muppet show btw i watched it in 1.5x
A NB
February 17, 2023 at 10:22 pm
It’s too bad that she wrote “excepted” instead of accepted, it means the opposite of what she meant 😅
nwg
February 18, 2023 at 12:53 am
She’s pretty smart
CarpeDiem601
February 18, 2023 at 3:09 am
You are amazing!!! So so on top of your game. Bravo!
Kathan
February 18, 2023 at 4:48 am
Even i started giving out relationship advice to my friend he is in the friendzone now
Nick C
February 18, 2023 at 5:05 am
I’ve never heard an American drop the h at the beginning of humble, I’m kind of shook!
Silver lyrics
February 18, 2023 at 7:23 am
Whats the solution for someone giving excuses and having no time for you? @WIRED
Matty Bruno Lucas Zenere Salas
February 18, 2023 at 8:42 am
2:21 himself*
2:34 his*
2:49 his*
2:53 he*
2:54 his*
Dwi Dana
February 18, 2023 at 9:57 am
“TL too peaceful… who y’all think should pay on the first date?”
I swear this question is an annual fight on Twitter😂
Sunday Diduah
February 18, 2023 at 12:25 pm
Mrs Sonia is legit and her method works like magic I keep on earning every single week with her new strategy
Yusuf Mohammed Gani
February 18, 2023 at 1:05 pm
I’m now a creditor not debtor anymore
Pedro leonard
February 18, 2023 at 1:06 pm
She’s technical analysis is dope and her interpretation/projections of the market is so accurate I sometimes ask myself if he is human haha. Point is,sonia is the perfect trader to follow for advise and daily signals
Walshak Thomas
February 18, 2023 at 1:08 pm
She’s the key to crypto
She really made name for herself
Nicole Craig
February 18, 2023 at 1:09 pm
Growing money is wisdom✙𝟭𝟱𝟴𝟬𝟮𝟬𝟮𝟮𝟯𝟰𝟰🇺🇸
Robert
February 18, 2023 at 1:11 pm
Her method Surprises me. When I saw testimonies all over the place I thought it was made up stories till I was convinced and gave it a try and honestly I don’t regret the move I made because I invested in a big way
read profile before deleting or heckling
February 18, 2023 at 1:07 pm
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VanillaGhost
February 18, 2023 at 2:19 pm
what a well spoken woman! She really communicates her points well, first time I’ve ever enjoyed a video this much, would LOVE to see more of her!
pamela Arvelo
February 18, 2023 at 2:43 pm
The nails with the hand mannerisms were what drew me in but what she was saying kept me watching! You may never read this but thank you for your insight and expertise, it definitely helped!
master 82575
February 18, 2023 at 3:45 pm
Ok👍
BeBoyRocker2
February 18, 2023 at 6:43 pm
You won’t get cancelled, you are just being rational and respectful
James Cheddar
February 18, 2023 at 7:45 pm
I “ghost” trolls. Ghosting them because you feel they may react violently is a bad idea, you should be taking many proactive measures in your life if you think someone is a threat.
hellaSwankky
February 19, 2023 at 1:58 am
Stephanie! whaAaaaAAts Anya Miiiiiiiiiind? 😁
highly recommend subscribing to her channel! she’s awesome. 😊
euls02
February 19, 2023 at 5:55 am
I really liked how she did not explain anxious and avoidant attachment styles as inferior or worse than secured like what most say. They just seemed like differences in people and hoping that your partner would be able to provide that needed security/space for you. I love that
Invox
February 19, 2023 at 9:42 am
I eard over and over again that “if you feel something for someone you should tell her” but everytime I do that they just run away and never talk to me again… Is that even good advice? 😓
e m
February 19, 2023 at 12:18 pm
Loved this video. So useful.
Sarror Miki
February 19, 2023 at 12:32 pm
2:11 yeah no the solution is to dump the GF. Wtf. Wish the therapist had the guts to say that cuz that is the correct answer.
Y M
February 19, 2023 at 3:54 pm
She’s great! Please invite her back on for more questions
Meet Kareliya
February 19, 2023 at 5:43 pm
She was so fluid and easy to understand with her explanations..! It shows how greatly she understands psychology..!
Maite Amezquita
February 19, 2023 at 7:43 pm
Very useful video thank you
Bethanie Woods
February 19, 2023 at 8:03 pm
Everyone: Why do I have such a hard time having hard discussions or dealing with my problems?
Society: Cut out ANYONE who doesn’t IMMEDIATELY make you feel happy or affirm everything about you. Don’t talk to them ever again. They aren’t worth it.
…yeah that would do it. It takes practice!
Cami Ojeda
February 19, 2023 at 9:59 pm
I find it interesting that most of the answers in this video are having a honest conversation with your partner. Really comes to show how communication is key 🔑