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The Secret to Making New Friends as an Adult | Marisa G. Franco @TED #ted #tedtalks
Marisa G. Franco is an expert on friendship, sharing the secrets to making (and keeping) great friends. Watch her full TED Talk:
Marisa G. Franco is an expert on friendship, sharing the secrets to making (and keeping) great friends. Watch her full TED Talk:
@shaunpatryck
March 29, 2024 at 12:03 pm
Also be able to absorb and tolerate peoples political views
@gezusmofo
March 29, 2024 at 12:12 pm
When those views include dehumanization or opposition to equal rights or even the very existence of certain demographics though…
@MatrixEvolution17
March 29, 2024 at 12:23 pm
I can tolerate different opinions on food and movies, not basic human rights
@MandyBB
March 29, 2024 at 12:31 pm
Different views on economic policy or the US’s place in global politics? I can work with those. But as soon as someone starts wanting to make laws on how I or my friends interact with our doctors about medical care or try to ban our gender expression? That’s a hard no, thank you.
@Lolcoca
March 29, 2024 at 12:33 pm
@@MatrixEvolution17 Same ! 😅
Food, movies, music, painting, DIY 🎵 : neutrals subjects !
The rest is NO THANK YOU ! Not Interested ! And NOT MY CUP OF TEA !
@mando8222
March 29, 2024 at 12:44 pm
Yes people only want to connect and associate with people who are like themselves
@downforwardjab5503
March 29, 2024 at 12:17 pm
Friends? Ew gross. No.
@Ticks_and_Chaos
March 29, 2024 at 12:20 pm
Okay… let’s be friends
@joostvn9255
March 29, 2024 at 12:24 pm
So if you wanna make friends, you have to be open to making friends? That a great new insight you’ve given me…..
@augustin19tube
March 29, 2024 at 12:38 pm
a necessary but not sufficient requirement
@royalrexford
March 29, 2024 at 12:39 pm
So take the necessary steps to become friends with people. Never thought of that.
@mando8222
March 29, 2024 at 12:44 pm
Yes this is true and its NOT a secret. The thing is many DON’T want to do this!
@PumpdaBrakes-ub8kp
March 29, 2024 at 12:46 pm
LOL. only “adult” women need this “lesson”. hahahahah
@PeaceJourney...
March 29, 2024 at 1:41 pm
And you are probably one of the reasons it is significant to have this advice exist🙄
@PumpdaBrakes-ub8kp
March 31, 2024 at 9:23 pm
@@PeaceJourney… 🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😂
@PumpdaBrakes-ub8kp
March 31, 2024 at 9:24 pm
@@PeaceJourney… I am a man. I make friends very easily. I still have childhood friends to this day. we are all still friends. you? can you say that? nope.
@user-eg5dh6li4b
March 29, 2024 at 12:59 pm
I like pineapples on my pizza. If you do as well, we can be friends.
@InteractiveIdea
March 29, 2024 at 1:02 pm
Got to make the first step a lot.
@PeaceJourney...
March 29, 2024 at 1:42 pm
On the other hand, it makes you vulnerable to strangers…
@KenTheAdventurer
March 29, 2024 at 7:52 pm
This is the fear she’s talking about
@PeaceJourney...
March 29, 2024 at 9:13 pm
@@KenTheAdventurer warranted tho, there are predators out there that take friendliness as a sign of vulnerability and play along until they get one into a compromised position…better to advise to be friendly but also aware and armed
@Lolcoca
March 30, 2024 at 4:16 am
Not necessarily !
It depends on the conversation and the person !
I’m very selective so I take what I like and what I’m interested for ! And also I don’t have some attachements !
@chethakmp3
March 29, 2024 at 1:43 pm
Thanks
@Ribberflavenous
March 29, 2024 at 3:54 pm
There is the assumption in your statement that social involvement is what everyone wants. I do not. It is not fear or distrust, it is that I don’t like the disorder and distraction that people bring to the solitude and peace I enjoy.
@corkhead0
March 29, 2024 at 5:13 pm
Ok
@Outstanding_Gal
March 30, 2024 at 3:04 am
wow, very edgy
@Ribberflavenous
March 30, 2024 at 6:29 am
@@Outstanding_Gal Edgy in what way? I enjoy what has been called a Monastic life, though I am atheist so perhaps closer to hermit. I am not aggressive about it, I am well received by my neighbors and at the grocery store, I get along well with others in public because I wish to avoid confrontation, but I much prefer being home with my wife and dog. How is that edgy?
@Outstanding_Gal
March 30, 2024 at 6:35 am
@@Ribberflavenous Monastic life? What monastic life? 😂
Monks live in communities called monasteries. They are isolated from society, yes, but they aren’t isolated from people in general. They live with like minded people who live a similar lifestyle and support each other.
This is the case in Orthodox, Catholic, Buddhist and Hindu monasteries.
@Ribberflavenous
March 30, 2024 at 6:46 am
@@Outstanding_Gal I was thinking more of the isolation aspect, but I will grant you that was not the correct word. Let’s just go with hermit. You get points for literal correction while missing the point of the comment entirely.
@AyuCell-Intan
March 29, 2024 at 4:14 pm
❤TED
Most people don’t work in isolation. So instead of prioritizing individual productivity, more organizations should prioritize productivity at the system level.
@ShahrezadNorMohammadiy9116
March 29, 2024 at 4:22 pm
Be humble today. Be teachable. The world is often bigger than your view of the world. There’s always room for a fresh idea or a next step. But first you must accept the fact that things may never go back to how they used to be, and that this ending is really a new beginning…
@ghfdghjh_53521
March 29, 2024 at 8:04 pm
If i don’t?
@Outstanding_Gal
March 30, 2024 at 3:03 am
Then you won’t make friends
@ghfdghjh_53521
March 30, 2024 at 3:08 am
@@Outstanding_Gal You know, people believe in friends and friendship in childhood. My childhood ended in the last century.)
@Outstanding_Gal
March 30, 2024 at 3:16 am
@@ghfdghjh_53521 I am sorry to hear that brother 🫂
@ghfdghjh_53521
March 30, 2024 at 3:29 am
@@Outstanding_Gal You can ask about the value of friendship among people who have been imprisoned, for example. All their friendships and love affairs melt like snow in the sun. If by friendship you mean drinking alcohol together or help me in return I will help you, then yes, friendship is great.
@Lolcoca
March 30, 2024 at 4:30 am
@@ghfdghjh_53521 I think it really depends on every person and the relationship they have each other !
I always love being alone because I love peace and serenity and quietness. Sometimes I don’t like that someone disturb my quiet and peace moment . . .
But hang out doesn’t matter me also. It just depends on who and what is the vibe.
And also I don’t have attachment or aversions for someone so I don’t pay too much attention to those things.
@damaisjjel
March 30, 2024 at 1:46 am
This is what exactly a cult leader would say
@Outstanding_Gal
March 30, 2024 at 3:03 am
Even a broken clock is right twice per day
@stevenhan9272
March 30, 2024 at 3:45 am
I disagree. Making friends is simple, do something in your life and keep doing it!!! Don’t just go hiking with a new group one time or go to some kind of event one time and never show up again. If you like the event. Keep doing it, you will make friends. Just like in school, you have to go to classes every day, you will slowly have a group of friends.
@candyislander3563
March 31, 2024 at 8:53 pm
One is internal the other is exteral. Maybe we can do both.
@alienvisitor131
March 30, 2024 at 5:54 am
I am alone since the last 20 years. Just sleep work and back home. No vacations no social life. And I just can’t manage to break this cycle, just waiting to die.
@darriancloud
March 30, 2024 at 9:41 pm
Unfortunately we live in a world where what you are saying is invalid due to so many waiting for you to do everything you said in this video…
Vultures dnt take breaks when there is a free meal.
So many good people hurt and misunderstood.
Your intentions of this video may be pure however there are many that have practiced your advice and just got outright shot into oblivion
@bestsellingbeatdown9162
March 31, 2024 at 1:30 am
Why do people think tautologies are profound?
“you have to want to meet people to want to meet people”.
Thanks, I’m enlightened.