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A mysterious tattoo on her forearm was all that linked Sara Jones, adopted as a child by white parents, to her South Korean origins. Through her experience of loss and discovery, Jones offers guidance on what adoptive parents can do to protect their children’s unique cultural and personal narratives.
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Soham Vij
June 18, 2020 at 8:36 pm
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Virgin_Mary _In_Islam
June 18, 2020 at 8:57 pm
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Saranya Manoharan
June 18, 2020 at 9:11 pm
Thank you so much for sharing your experience with us. I cannot imagine what you want through, but I hope that transracial adoptions these days are more sensitive to the children’s emotions and identity.
Gianni Marco
June 18, 2020 at 9:38 pm
So no Koreans wanted to adopt her, and the alternative to being adopted by her White adoptive parents would have been to stay in an orphanage until 18, and then she would have been shown the door and would have been on her own? Is that the fault of her White adoptive parents? Should her White adoptive parents have either not adopted her or should they have tried to learn Korean and lived a Korean lifestyle (and what if they already had White kids)?
Jacob Lehrer
June 19, 2020 at 6:33 am
She is clearly brainwashed and completely ungrateful.
godn kr
June 20, 2020 at 9:14 am
I think her point is that she had gone through difficulties in life due to the transracial adoption, not blaming her white parents who adopted her but sharing her stories so that in the future, people can make a better environment for the transracial adopted children to live.
汪祥
June 18, 2020 at 9:40 pm
“I don’t want to be reminded that I am adopted I just want to be a normal kid”
Kim Merell
June 18, 2020 at 10:00 pm
Thank you so much for sharing this! I think about adoption issues frequently. While I always admire the courage and commitment of adoptive parents, I also feel heartbroken for the adopted kids. Even adoption within your race is not easy, not to mention transracial ones. Why do kids have to go through this in the first place? Of course it is better than not being adopted, but still traumatic.
Romulo Gustavo
June 18, 2020 at 11:01 pm
Even though most adoptions happen when children are still babies, I think that some memories prior to adoption remain with them throughout their lives, and their new families need to know how to deal with it.
Venkataramaraju Illa
June 22, 2020 at 12:36 am
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SunflowerSizo
June 18, 2020 at 11:27 pm
“i learnt to smile without smiling” my heart crushed
SunflowerSizo
June 18, 2020 at 11:28 pm
the essentialness of validating both negative and positive emotional expression.
11STARFIRE
June 19, 2020 at 1:15 am
**Transracial How?**
She has white adopted parents.
She is Korean.
She should have continued to be Korean in a white family.
XG C
June 19, 2020 at 3:04 am
That mark is belonging to one of Korean cult. I think the talker’s bio-parents are cult believers. Sad.
SweetJohny W
June 19, 2020 at 6:10 am
Amazing story, it’s such a large and small world at the same time. It should be made so kids in this situation to be shown about their background so they can identify more easily. What a smart father as well.
Jacq C
June 19, 2020 at 6:29 am
she looked so sad and scared in the adoption pics. so sad.
sectuemo Glub
June 19, 2020 at 6:50 am
Exotics that enjoyment is great thing. To experience new lifestyle is so marvelous.
yourpersonalspammer
June 19, 2020 at 12:30 pm
You did not identify as being asian? WOW THAT’S A NEW LEVEL OF STUPID
노승수
June 19, 2020 at 3:23 pm
What a shame all of you.
Please talk about spreaded unvisible material in the atomsphere.
It is very dangerous.
I don’t understand why who make you shut up your mouth about it
You all go deases and dying because of it good luck shut up mouthes
PB
June 19, 2020 at 4:55 pm
I thought we are all the same race, the human race.
AlexYs
June 19, 2020 at 11:20 pm
du blabla de pauvre bourgeoise
best scene
June 20, 2020 at 3:21 am
Great
godn kr
June 20, 2020 at 9:16 am
It is a real courage for this woman to share her story. So strong💪
X菜椪妮
June 20, 2020 at 12:54 pm
A very very awesome speech ! I would like to share!!!
Burqa Abdu
June 20, 2020 at 7:11 pm
In Islamic religions it not allowed to change father name of child adopted
Ying Zhou
June 21, 2020 at 12:00 am
i am crying. Thank you for your sharing.
김재원
June 21, 2020 at 1:54 am
Great
김재원
June 21, 2020 at 1:56 am
You look sa
jaehee chong
June 21, 2020 at 3:19 am
Thank you for sharing your powerful story. Sara, you are an inspiration! 👏😍
Look at that bird
June 21, 2020 at 5:10 am
It was amazing how she repeated about being grateful in the end to show how gratefullness is something that grows within children with the parents actions instead of being forced upon or reminded of like she was.
ruru2235
June 21, 2020 at 3:07 pm
Thanks for your sharing.
vas d
June 21, 2020 at 3:14 pm
I am very happy , that you found your birth family.