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After a terminal cancer diagnosis upended 12 years of remission, all Elaine Fong’s mother wanted was a peaceful end of life. What she received instead became a fight for the right to decide when. Fong shares the heart-rending journey to honor her mother’s choice for a death with dignity — and reflects on the need to explore our relationship to dying so that we may redesign this final and most universal of human experiences.
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Audiogeeks Vintage Sales
March 29, 2021 at 3:38 pm
I hate to use this anology, but why do doctors play God? Any doctor that does not do what a patient wants is a fraud
safae saufie
March 29, 2021 at 3:56 pm
I wish we had that option with our mum. She was burning and none of her doctors could help or could we do sth for her. She suffered a LOT for months and her skin was peeling off her flesh before our eyes and we couldnt help her ! We felt HELPLESS and we prayed GOD she dies in preace …😓
Seraph1nia
March 29, 2021 at 4:26 pm
Im sorry to hear that.😔
safae saufie
March 29, 2021 at 4:37 pm
@Seraph1nia Thank you 😞
nooie99
March 29, 2021 at 3:58 pm
Very moving, and reminded me of my mothers death. Who didnt have the same choice as your mum.
Madhan Packiriswamy
March 29, 2021 at 4:05 pm
You are so brave Mam🙏
You are beautiful
March 29, 2021 at 4:21 pm
Beautiful talk
Back Health 101
March 29, 2021 at 5:12 pm
This IS TED !!!
Rebecca
March 29, 2021 at 5:19 pm
R.I.P. to your extraordinary mother and a very happy heavenly birthday to her.
RAHUL RAJPUROHIT
March 29, 2021 at 5:20 pm
Your mother is really a brave person. My condolences to you and your family. Some part of her will always live inside you.
Nikos Metaxotos
March 29, 2021 at 5:22 pm
We can live with dignity, we can’t die with it
Dr Gregory House
Zacharia PC
March 29, 2021 at 5:24 pm
Lucky mom, really, so lucky in many ways.
CadillacJak
March 29, 2021 at 5:25 pm
Communism is Evil
CadillacJak
March 29, 2021 at 5:35 pm
This is America and you should 100% be able to make whatever choice you want with your own body.
ZH
March 29, 2021 at 5:38 pm
You forgot to mention the Dr. Kevorkian already was fighting for this in the 90s, and even went to jail for that particular cause. He’s been a hero for many people for exactly this.
Jina Gibson
March 30, 2021 at 10:09 pm
It totally needs regulations and support. A place.
Tamasa Patra
March 29, 2021 at 5:45 pm
May her soul rest in peace.
Lisa Love Ministries
March 29, 2021 at 6:23 pm
Seek God’s will daily for eternity.
1 Corinthians 15👑
Luella David
March 29, 2021 at 6:32 pm
Thank you.
Laura Duffy
March 29, 2021 at 6:44 pm
@Elaine Fong, thank you for sharing your mother’s story with me, and us. You are such a strong daughter to share this story as your mom asked, on her birthday.
T N
March 29, 2021 at 7:25 pm
You gave your mother an amazing gift of love, peace, and dignity.
Data Soong
March 29, 2021 at 8:10 pm
Suicide is sou yse…I don’t understand way a low is need…
David Pereira Moro
March 29, 2021 at 8:55 pm
what a talk! great to hear it, thank you for sharing it.
Isabelly De souza guimaraes
March 29, 2021 at 9:09 pm
my condolences to you and your family… your mom is so Brave!
Walter George
March 29, 2021 at 9:14 pm
Wonder if she had been gang stalked ???
No one star
March 29, 2021 at 11:23 pm
omg, it would be *SO* great to die with dignity. Especially when you’re existing (not LIVING, mind you) in agony.
Bryan Atneosen
March 29, 2021 at 11:52 pm
I’m so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your experience.
stella
March 30, 2021 at 1:10 am
You are so brave and your mother was as well. May she rest in peace
estella
March 30, 2021 at 1:10 am
You are so brave and your mother was as well. May she rest in peace
Елена Шишова
March 30, 2021 at 1:29 am
ghbdtn
Houston Ashley
March 30, 2021 at 5:34 am
That was so beautiful. Not just as a view into the death of a loved one, but moreso a view into the perspective of one facing death. Thank you for this.
새콤달콤
March 30, 2021 at 5:37 am
I’m lucky to hear this important story.
As our life is limited, we are trying to live without regret.
Dexter Haven
March 30, 2021 at 8:00 am
Whose life is this, anyway? It’s ours.
Rosita Davis Bryan
March 30, 2021 at 10:06 am
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Tommy U
March 30, 2021 at 11:36 am
Your mom so strong and brave. RIP 💐
Jayashree J
March 30, 2021 at 1:07 pm
Sad to know the fact that even death doesn’t come for free .. 😢
I understand Life
March 30, 2021 at 1:07 pm
Sad to know the fact that even death doesn’t come for free .. 😢
ariyanto lim
March 30, 2021 at 1:16 pm
Tank you for the sharing. Your Mom is super strong, so are you.
Jayashree J
March 30, 2021 at 1:26 pm
When some one is tearless doesn’t mean they are not empathetic , they are actually brave and bold !! Just like u .
Go-go 63
March 30, 2021 at 9:16 pm
Also, sometimes it is a result of having cried so many times about it, and you have told the story so often that you can get through it as with practice.
I understand Life
March 30, 2021 at 1:26 pm
When some one is tearless doesn’t mean they are not empathetic , they are actually brave and bold !! Just like u .
Timothee Chalamet
March 30, 2021 at 11:07 pm
A death like this is sad because you’re saying goodbye to someone you loved so dearly, but you get to say goodbye properly and it allows the person to maintain who they are. We need to talk openly about death.
Eric Hrahsel
March 31, 2021 at 6:24 am
Is this considered suicide?
Ronell Van Der Bank
March 31, 2021 at 2:16 pm
Thank you for talking about your mum’s death now bo not feel alone my mum passed away a month ago
Rochelle Brown
March 31, 2021 at 2:18 pm
Having someone else murder you is not dying with dignity it is cowardly and disgraceful.
micgooflander95
April 3, 2021 at 7:52 pm
What is cowardly and disgraceful is subjecting other people to torture so that you can impose your antediluvian religious delusions on them.
Caroline Ang
April 1, 2021 at 3:24 am
Thank you for sharing.
mishy
April 1, 2021 at 11:06 pm
This must have been difficult for you to speak about. RIP 🥺
Jamie Blackwell
April 1, 2021 at 11:08 pm
Thank you.
Teryy Capraro
April 2, 2021 at 12:31 am
Beautiful
celestialcircledance
April 2, 2021 at 12:36 pm
I kept thinking why doesn’t she just find another Oncologist but maybe there was a small part of her that was a little unsure as well and they both knew when it was time .
crema de la soda
April 2, 2021 at 12:46 pm
Euthanasia for everybody