Today’s experts often overwhelm parents and guardians with alarming warnings of treacherous roads ahead for their children, sometimes turning dedication into anxiety and obsessiveness. Instead of chasing trends, psychiatrist Mathilde H. Ross recommends trusting your instincts — and picking up a surprising source of simple, positive guidance on bonding and development. Her reassuring message? “You are quite literally evolved for this.” (Recorded at TEDNext 2024 on October 24, 2024)
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May 7, 2025 at 11:10 am
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May 9, 2025 at 5:53 pm
Someone’s projecting
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May 7, 2025 at 11:10 am
Psychiatrist Mathilde H. Ross argues that parenting advice can lead to anxiety in parents and children. She suggests trusting parental instincts and using puppy manuals as a surprising source of positive guidance on bonding and child development.
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May 7, 2025 at 11:12 am
The oceanic feeling described as a oneness with the world, limitlessness, is simply a description of the feeling an infant human has before it learns there are other persons in the world. We are born feeling at one with our surroundings. Then our brain washed, third eye blinded, dumbed-down, lied to, fluoridated, programmed like a computer to stay lost and stuck in a matrix of lies and deception like a fearful pet goat in a box under hypnotic spelling parents begin installing the illusional, delusional, egos.
@quarkymatter
May 7, 2025 at 11:32 am
As a teacher that sees the affects of this on kids every day, I think this concept needs to be shared with parents
@luceromanjarrez349
May 7, 2025 at 2:10 pm
It’s hard to give kids predictability when there are so many factors affecting women and families.
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May 7, 2025 at 12:18 pm
We are sponges from the day we are born to the day we pass. Regardless of location religion race gender we are all humans making our way in this world asorbing and expelling.
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May 7, 2025 at 4:25 pm
Expert books is almost as bad as expert YouTube videos
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May 7, 2025 at 5:16 pm
It is so refreshing to hear this type of advice for parents! Thank you
@BusinessTacticsDaily
May 7, 2025 at 9:28 pm
The more “experts” we follow, the more we feel like we’re not good enough as parents.
This talk is a reminder that your parenting instinct doesn’t need expert validation.
Ever felt pressured by too much advice?
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May 7, 2025 at 11:18 pm
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@vidskipperai
May 8, 2025 at 3:51 am
*_TIMESTAMPS_* & Summary (by *VidSkipper AI* ): Parenting books and social media influencers can make conscientious parents more anxious and obsessive, which can negatively impact their children; parents should trust their instincts and rely less on external advice.
0:04 ⚠️ The Risks of Parenting Books
• Parenting books can be risky when they fall into the hands of conscientious and dutiful parents, potentially leading to anxiety and obsession.
• Experts often complicate parenting, advising on every aspect from sleep to play, despite humans having parented for millennia.
• The speaker suggests that parents should trust their instincts rather than relying heavily on expert advice, which can be influenced by social media trends and influencers.
1:02 📱 The Impact of Over-Involved Parenting
• Anxiety among kids has increased over the past decade, with experts attributing it to cell phones, social media, and therapy.
• The speaker suggests that parenting trends, driven by experts, may be a hidden cause of this anxiety.
• Students report parents monitoring their location, calling frequently, and getting worried when they don’t pick up, indicating over-involvement.
2:37 🗣️ The Contagious Nature of Parental Anxiety
• Teenagers need to trust their parents with important life decisions and crises, but excessive anxiety and arguments can hinder this.
• The speaker notes that anxiety is contagious, particularly to small children, and is not just coming from books but also social media influencers.
• Social media influencers with minimal parenting experience often sell advice, which may not be reliable due to editing and curated content.
3:41 📚 The Antidote: Puppy Manuals
• As an antidote to parenting angst, the speaker recommends puppy manuals, which contain essential advice for new families.
• Puppy manuals emphasize creating a safe space, consistent behavior, and effusive displays of affection.
• They also highlight the importance of positive reinforcement, avoiding punishment, and understanding developmental timelines.
6:32 🐕 Guidance from Puppy Manuals
• The speaker shares guidance on the relationship with a puppy, noting that barking is normal and breaks are necessary.
• Puppies may not be interested in adult concerns, so playing games is crucial.
• Dogs have existed for millennia and can survive without the latest gadgets; secure attachment is key for healthy exploration and mental health.
8:12 💯 Trust Yourself: You’ve Got This
• New parents already possess the knowledge they need, as they are evolved for parenting.
• The speaker reiterates that parents should trust themselves and their instincts.
• Reasonable people already know most of what’s in parenting books, emphasizing the innate capabilities of parents.
** Generated using ✨ *_VidSkipper AI_* Chrome Extension
@LauraStylus
May 8, 2025 at 5:27 am
Something’s wrong with the playback speed on this video…! I needed to adjust!
@HakuCell
May 8, 2025 at 8:13 am
the business of parenting books reminds me of the business of dating coaches and dating advice, as well as those that talk about self-improvement. most of it is directive advice that just makes people more anxious, neurotic, contrived, fake, constructed… meanwhile the way is authenticity.
@BonnieShadow33
May 9, 2025 at 3:33 pm
I will add that this is true for neurotypical people. However, when you throw autism, ADHD and mental health conditions into the mix (whether in the parent or the child), it’s not so simple….
@tengufactory
May 11, 2025 at 1:25 am
The parallels between this question and a typical drug users inability to accept that they were perhaps terrible people prior to drug use is well..
Alarming..