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As the founder of a startup, Tracy Young often worried that employees and investors valued male CEOs more — and that being a woman compromised her position as a leader. In this brave, personal talk, she gives an honest look at the constraints women face when trying to adapt to a male-dominated business culture — and shares how she developed the courage and vulnerability to lead as her complete, raw self. (This talk contains a graphic story. Discretion is advised.)
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Kj Mason
March 2, 2021 at 6:48 pm
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
𝕮𝖚𝖈𝕶 𝕮𝖗𝖚𝖘𝖍𝖊𝖗
March 2, 2021 at 6:51 pm
lol I have found that anyone describing themselves as an empath is generally just a narcissist. Weird
Michael Carlson
March 2, 2021 at 7:25 pm
It’s a shame you have to see the world so filtered though labels and judgment. If it’s comforting to you, your “findings” are not empirical.
luomanfei
March 2, 2021 at 8:28 pm
Three comments within the last hour talking down on her, you really seem to be hating.
chocomalk
March 2, 2021 at 6:54 pm
Stop redefining words because you can’t find/don’t know the appropriate one. Being open and accepting is not being vulnerable.
Joshua Maldonado
March 2, 2021 at 10:04 pm
In a way, it kind of is.
DankTendencies
March 2, 2021 at 10:27 pm
@Joshua Maldonado no it isn’t. It’s called having a normal well adjusted person. Not vulnerable.
Joshua Maldonado
March 2, 2021 at 10:32 pm
@DankTendencies it is. To be open is to be vulnerable and shouldn’t be viewed as a bad or abnormal thing. It is what makes us human. And to bottle everything up will do some damage in the long run.
clearmenser
March 2, 2021 at 7:01 pm
Lady CEO comes to term with her lady-ness after some tribulations. What a sad story. Seemed more about being honestly one’s self than anything else. IMHO personal stories like this are more inspirational and less actionable. Personally I was expecting a survey of successful leaders that displayed vulnerability. Nope. Wish it had been though.
𝕮𝖚𝖈𝕶 𝕮𝖗𝖚𝖘𝖍𝖊𝖗
March 2, 2021 at 7:01 pm
Wow, this lady is really just making a public narrative out of her own personal issues. She just wanted to talk about her “torn vagina” to strangers on the Internet, weird. “As a ceo” over and over, “I am just so successful and a mother, now here is a video so you can all just appreciate me a little bit more than my own personal success”. “My family and multi million dollar business wasn’t enough”. “Please strangers and public, admire my strength”. She keeps dropping specific numbers too, we get it lady, lots of millions, many millions. So many millions of dollars and a mother. So impressive, so brave, so stunning. You had a miscarriage because you were stressed at work chasing all of those millions of dollars you keep reminding us about; that’s the moral of the story. You would’ve had another child but you wanted… how much, 178 million? Also, your business team isn’t supposed to be your personal therapist, it sounds like you need to have a therapist or husband you can talk to if your “business team” is all you have.
𝕮𝖚𝖈𝕶 𝕮𝖗𝖚𝖘𝖍𝖊𝖗
March 2, 2021 at 7:09 pm
I tried to do a drinking game where I did a shot every time she reminded us that she was a CEO, abruptly told us how many exact millions of dollars was on the line, or some graphic detail about her reproductive system. I got drunk halfway through. Also I think she needs a therapist if all she has is a “business team” to confide in. I believe from the *millions of dollars* she told us she made, I think she could afford one. Her kids will need one that’s for sure. Narcissistic mom alert.
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March 2, 2021 at 7:38 pm
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Jesus Tyrone Christ
March 2, 2021 at 10:30 pm
Great job buddy! You managed to write all of that down! You deserve a star sticker for that
Train Kinder - Simple Leadership Hacks
March 2, 2021 at 7:46 pm
Leading is about inspiring people to become better version of themselves. And vulnerability is the best inspiration of all!
kai elyse
March 2, 2021 at 8:12 pm
I agree
Omar Ben Hassine
March 2, 2021 at 7:59 pm
She looks like the asian version of Angolina jolie
Archibald Belanus
March 2, 2021 at 8:00 pm
Women should feel ashamed of making babies, like how dare they perpetuate the species like that? Do they even have a license?
DankTendencies
March 2, 2021 at 10:23 pm
Oi! Ya got loiscence for that comment guv?
Archibald Belanus
March 2, 2021 at 10:30 pm
@DankTendencies well you got me
Jesus Tyrone Christ
March 2, 2021 at 10:34 pm
Aight that’s it bruv, oim calling the constable!
Sam Sardar
March 2, 2021 at 8:18 pm
Very powerfull. ..for All womans. ..i liked so much your message
bravojr
March 2, 2021 at 8:31 pm
We certainly have enough Vulnerable leaders.
This propaganda is nasty and typical of TED’s reputation.
Aubrey Shelton
March 2, 2021 at 9:08 pm
I wish i had a clue wtf some of this BUSINESS lingo means! It’s like im on a completely different planet.
Matheus H.
March 2, 2021 at 9:15 pm
In the end, what counts is truthfulness, with others and yourself. It’s so simple but so hard to do it.
김소룡
March 2, 2021 at 9:23 pm
Takagi san why are you here?
Metamorphic Society
March 2, 2021 at 9:39 pm
Incredible, leading is about inspiring people. You did it, strong woman
Alan Kwan
March 2, 2021 at 10:36 pm
Thank you for sharing this!
japol
March 2, 2021 at 11:52 pm
έμπαινα
Pedro Ricardo
March 2, 2021 at 11:56 pm
Is this supposed to be a complaint vid?
Lacração chata hein
Operative This is the way
March 3, 2021 at 12:31 pm
Is this supposed to be a stupid comment?
Идущий кРеке
March 3, 2021 at 12:47 am
Думал на превью будет милая девушка с мягким голосом – смотрю совсем другое 😀🤔
Elle
March 3, 2021 at 12:48 am
Thieving from Rene Brown!!
Operative This is the way
March 3, 2021 at 12:28 pm
What’s wrong with you? Sad childhood?
Joseph Lane
March 3, 2021 at 1:05 am
You are soo strong and such a determined leader 👍 thanks you for sharing your experiences 🙏
melanie martinez
March 3, 2021 at 1:27 am
Absolutely beautiful
藤原蒙古
March 3, 2021 at 1:38 am
加藤純一最強
Un Français au Japon
March 3, 2021 at 2:57 am
You are completely true. You can not have it all in life. You have to choose.
Apoorva Mathur
March 3, 2021 at 6:00 am
<3
jparkerwillis
March 3, 2021 at 6:09 am
It’s probably why men have generally taken on the leadership role in life. Women have a different role – that of taking care of the child-rearing. You can’t rely on a woman to be a good leader when she is out and about suffering from pregnancy. Men should be taking care of women, not allowing them to do it all alone. No wonder you feel so vulnerable, because in your pride you think you can do it all by yourself.
hakyoun Kang
March 3, 2021 at 6:31 am
Almost many people don’t wanna
show their weekness
that’s so naturely
Otherwise I encourage your and
I like your so truly conversation for us
thank you again
Tiana Matson
March 3, 2021 at 7:09 am
Delivering a miscarriage at work, and then returning to the meeting like nothing happened!?! That just sounds heartbreaking!!
Ciopinno soup
March 3, 2021 at 8:26 am
I’m just staring at her forehead and eyebrows
New Tears
March 3, 2021 at 12:23 pm
This doesn’t really apply to most people.
jonasramus
March 3, 2021 at 12:32 pm
Wildly motivational. Brought me to tears. I’m a start up executive who suffers from my own types of insecurities, and I found your message to be amazing.
I also have two little girls that I hope find their own entrepreneurial spirit, and I will be watching this video with them, now and later when they are older.
Terrific job and congratulations on your success.
Carprincess
March 3, 2021 at 7:01 pm
Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your story with us. It’s so important to be reminded that family and yourself should come first and that business can wait. Businesses are not machines, they are made out of people and we need to remember that we are only human.
Tolu1994
March 3, 2021 at 7:20 pm
Such a shame that women feel we have to be men to be successful 🙃 . Sorry that she had those experiences glad I can learn from her mistakes
Big Jim
March 3, 2021 at 9:57 pm
Wow, are you hiring
Teri Scallon
March 4, 2021 at 1:14 am
This is so moving and real.