Was that shared appetizer the start of something beautiful? Did that absent-minded hair flip actually speak volumes? WIRED challenged three experts: Former FBI Agent and body language expert Joe Navarro, communication expert Anne-Maartje Oud, and behavioral scientist Abbie Marono to observe 5 couples on dates—and guess how long each pair had been together.
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Abbie
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Anne-Maartje
LinkedIn: @Anne-Maartje oud
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Twitter: @annemaartjeoud
Director: Joe Pickard
Director of Photography: Rahil Asruff; Olivia Kuan
Editor: Matthew Colby
Experts: Anne-Maartje Oud; Abbie Marono; Joe Navarro
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zizk
September 18, 2023 at 2:15 pm
This video is nice proof that “body language experts” are charlatans
Snakedoktor
September 18, 2023 at 2:33 pm
This really shows why behavioral science is not an exact science, i.e. physics, etc. There’s just too much personal interpretation involved.
Still, it was very interesting to see how one action could lead to almost opposite conclusions.
Edvarts Emersons
September 18, 2023 at 2:38 pm
shouldn’t this be filmed secretly? I feel like people being aware that they are on tape skews the results.
the Golden Spider-Duck
September 18, 2023 at 8:12 pm
Even if they got signed permission afterwards, filming secretly first would be a major consent issue.
JDH
September 18, 2023 at 2:42 pm
I really like that couple 5 was deceptive because they were way too cute for 14 years!
Jo NoSaY
September 18, 2023 at 3:00 pm
So freaking staged. DO BETTER Wired
Panohiro
September 18, 2023 at 3:00 pm
how fake is this? like clearly they know they being filmed so their behaviour must change
SBVCP
September 18, 2023 at 3:03 pm
Moral of the story: Feed your partners
Aldderan
September 18, 2023 at 3:34 pm
Body language is complete bs
Smith Kennedy
September 18, 2023 at 3:51 pm
I love body language videos, thank you! I went to college but didn’t have the brain for science studies. When the internet came along it was a gift to me! (Yes, I’m old)
rundown132
September 18, 2023 at 4:05 pm
Psychology in a nutshell LUL
MercedesDenz
September 18, 2023 at 4:06 pm
The way this is edited is all 9ver the place, theres no structure or oversight, and that annoys me.
It makes sure the viewer doesnt get the correct time or angle to also analyse.
DD Angel
September 18, 2023 at 4:17 pm
Hmmm!!! Were dese real daters or just actresses n actors? 😏
Allen Huang
September 18, 2023 at 4:58 pm
Me and my wife sometimes whip out our phones right away when we sit down at a restaurant.
Wuwu Piano
September 18, 2023 at 5:07 pm
Funny that they’re trying to “read” the bag on the chair. Every Asian woman does this.
Jim
September 18, 2023 at 6:43 pm
How can it be that at least one of these experts was right each time! I can’t believe that.
1890
September 18, 2023 at 7:03 pm
Looks like they didn’t really take cultural backgrounds into consideration.. they need to.
Also, my first dates are pretty much similar to my dates 5 years on. It’s pretty relaxed and flirty, if you make someone comfortable, even on a first date. And flirty, comfy behavior has always been five years into my relationships.. 11 years on can start to get more distant (well, only once) 😏
JohnO
September 18, 2023 at 7:07 pm
adhd format
Kary On
September 18, 2023 at 7:10 pm
Okay, the 14 years couple is way too cute! They act like they love and respect each other a lot.❤
Ally & The Arts
September 18, 2023 at 7:26 pm
You can get close to a complete stranger 😂 but that is nice the experts did peep the couples out
RSM82
September 18, 2023 at 7:27 pm
I just have to wonder how much is affected by the subjects knowing they’re being filmed?
Novedrake
September 18, 2023 at 8:02 pm
Suddenly the fbi guy realized number 1 is a hostage situation
Davide Santini
September 18, 2023 at 8:03 pm
So, you only do films?
Davide Santini
September 18, 2023 at 8:03 pm
I was sure about I
Remember Remember
September 18, 2023 at 8:42 pm
BASED ONLY, on there body language.
Jake Kaufmann
September 18, 2023 at 8:57 pm
Have to say, this was very eye-opening and informative. Great video, WIRED. Please do more with three experts!
Janet F
September 18, 2023 at 9:51 pm
Wow, I got every single one right, wot⁉
RoeSync
September 18, 2023 at 11:38 pm
Love it!!!!
Exploring the Way
September 18, 2023 at 11:42 pm
Funny how time and time again reading body language has been proven to be completely wrong and useless as astrology but here we are. On Wired 😐
TheWtfness
September 19, 2023 at 1:40 am
Easy tell for people married 5+ yrs — they’re both looking at their phone and not each other
Lu Yin
September 19, 2023 at 1:56 am
Funny how they throwing a bunch contradicting explanation without establishing a baseline for each individual.
Spinthepickle
September 19, 2023 at 8:19 pm
I think Navarro kinda covered that early in the video when he said normally they’d be looking at other information as well. They’re just doing the best they can with the setup Wired gave them. Maybe their interpretations would have been more in line if they had a baseline. I watched an episode of Sorted earlier where they were challenged to recreate a dish they had never seen or eaten. They were just given the ingredients and the dish name. The closest to replicating it won. That’s also… pretty dumb. It’s not an accurate representation of how anyone would try to replicate a dish served in a restaurant is. I think both a real in depth approach to body language analysis would be more interesting and watching the guys cook after tasting the dish would be more entertaining!
Sai Suman Prayaga
September 19, 2023 at 4:23 am
1:42 Guy looks directly into the camera. He knows whats up.
Crocus
September 19, 2023 at 4:28 am
This would be interesting if body language wasn’t a complete pseudoscience
L Quilici
September 19, 2023 at 4:41 am
“We want the PHD back”😂😂😂
יעל א
September 19, 2023 at 5:32 am
body language reading is pseudoscience, look it up on google scholar
Azure's Life @ NZ
September 19, 2023 at 6:09 am
Sorry to say but Indians tend to marry by arrangement of parents so it’s not surprising that many couples are not really in love with each other.
Gamunu Bandara
September 19, 2023 at 9:04 am
FBI guys for the win.
MissDemeanor
September 19, 2023 at 9:23 am
these 3 “experts” seem about as smart as a box of rocks. nothing but contradictions.
Lance Beckman
September 19, 2023 at 9:30 am
Joe Navarro is trash.
Lance Beckman
September 19, 2023 at 9:32 am
Did we really need a lesbien couple?
Jenni from The Dock
September 19, 2023 at 10:09 am
I guess they’re too professional to notice BLATANT CLUES like….ohhhh I don’t know…… WEDDING BANDS? 😂😅
Cube the Fool
September 19, 2023 at 11:54 am
the 5th couple, they’ve been together for such a long time and still being very romantic and flirty with each other. Guess that’s why they can stay together for so long and perhaps forever.
Big Poppa Tentacles
September 19, 2023 at 5:04 pm
Theres no such thing as a body language expert, its a pseudo science that has been thoroughly debunked.
MightyMuffin
September 19, 2023 at 11:46 pm
I think that they should have gone with just total time together. Some folks choose not to get married or get married later, so it’s a bit wierd to have dating vs married
Sheitbs
September 20, 2023 at 1:09 am
Dr Abbie Marono has a very questionable educational background. I wonder if Wired actually does background checks before they publish videos with so called experts.
science facts
September 22, 2023 at 4:41 pm
What do you mean by questionable?
Aanchal Sharma
September 20, 2023 at 6:43 am
0:42: 👫 Body language experts analyze couples on first dates to guess how long they have been dating based on their behavior.
3:03: 💑 The video discusses the behavior and body language of couples on a first date and how it contrasts with long-term relationships.
6:06: 😊 The video discusses nonverbal cues and emotions observed during a date.
8:56: 😊 The video discusses comfort displays and gestures in different relationships.
11:59: ! A couple on a blind date seem comfortable and genuinely interested in each other.
Recap by Tammy AI
dunnowy123
September 20, 2023 at 8:05 am
The idea that you “stop flirting” after being together for years is such a stupid generalization. Some people really value flirtation and ensuring their partner feels attractive, well after marriage. I feel like a lot of this is just picking on random behaviours and over analyzing it, which is why they got most of them wrong. It’s fun but no science.
dunnowy123
September 20, 2023 at 8:10 am
12:16 so her assertion that “people stop flirting after being together for a while” is…objectively wrong? A lot of people really value making their partner feel attractive and vice versa. It was such a dumb generalization and personally, I see the lack of flirting as time goes by as an indicator of a flailing relationship
colinstu
September 20, 2023 at 11:56 am
M=married, D=date, number = # yrs
Couple 1
M4, M4, M1, actually M1
Couple 2
M1, D5, D5, actually D5
Couple 3
1stD, 1D, M1, actually 1D
Couple 4
D1, M1, M4, actually D1
Couple 5
D5, M4, 1st date, actually D14
They all kinda averaged out.
Casimir’s Gamervers
September 21, 2023 at 3:39 am
Imagine if one of them guessed that the other one was cheating off body language alone.
Earl Chen
September 22, 2023 at 7:23 pm
My partner and I always sit side by side so we can analyze other people in the restaurant.
Lee Daneil
September 24, 2023 at 7:06 am
None of them using cellphone. It’s fake obviously
shazrini yusoff
September 24, 2023 at 7:07 am
what i do know..if you see a couple on their phone, less talking. they been together for more than 10 years 😂😂