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When personal relationships and ideological differences collide, the result can lead to strained relations — or even years of silence and distance. Actor Betty Hart offers an alternative to cold shoulders and haughty hellos: compassion, and a chance for growth and change instead of losing important time with loved ones.
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Gamaliel
March 26, 2021 at 9:12 pm
I love your videos
Project 405
March 26, 2021 at 9:13 pm
Im commenting
Mayher The best
March 26, 2021 at 9:15 pm
Me first
Aidan Clarke
March 26, 2021 at 9:18 pm
Well yeah
roche keen manalaysay
March 26, 2021 at 9:19 pm
Respect…
Andrew M.
March 26, 2021 at 9:22 pm
“Amor Fati” beautifully explained again.
twentyfivekgplants tomake1kgbeef
March 26, 2021 at 9:51 pm
suffocated inside plastic bags, ground up alive, or gassed to death by the billions yearly… that’s what happens to chicks in the egg industry. CASTRATION, tail docking, and other forms of mutilation such as teeth yanking, dehorning, beek filing, etc. are performed on other animals WITHOUT PAIN RELIEF. These are STANDARD practices done to farm animals across the globe. Look up what a gestation crate is on Google, imagine being confined there & not being able to take a step forward, backward, or even turn around. You’d think after all that they can die a peaceful death, but no during transit depending on how far away the slaughterhouse is, many of the animals die from thrist, heat, & the cold. If you watch interviews with ex-slaughterhouse workers they maintain that a lot of animals remain conscious as they’re hung upside down choking on their own blood. When you buy animal products, you are funding the atrocities committed unto animals.
According to the American Dietetic Association (consisting of 100,000 professionals in health and nutrition) we can thrive on a vegan diet at every stage of life: pregnancy, lactation & infancy. This is backed by the British Dietetic association, the Canadian Dietic Association, the NHS, as well as many other.
Furthermore, meat consumption is absolutely devastating for the environment. The United Nation published a 40 page report titled Livestock’s Long Shadow detailing every envionmental issue we face as a result of animal agriculture. The list is extensive everything from global warming, climate change, water pollution, resource depletion, antibiotics resistance, deforestation (to make room for feed crops) leading to habitat loss and species extinction at an unprecedented rate… and so on
Still insist we have valid reasons for meat consumption? Look up “earthling ed ted talk every argument against veganism” he will debunk all the best points waged against veganism
To the vegetatians out therewho arent aware of the cruelty of dairy and eggs. Please look up “why aren’t vegans just vegetarian earthling ed” here on YouTube
“…but protein, b12, dha, etc!) – See my playlist, The videos in my playlist will dispel any misconception you might have about nutrition, there’s also good documentaries on animal agri. in my playlist
Ahmed Qadry
March 26, 2021 at 9:22 pm
How if they don’t see and feel any compassion!
Izaak Thoms
March 26, 2021 at 9:36 pm
it doesn’t need to go both ways. Walk in others shoes and learn their experiences. Then they are faced with choice of accepting compassion or not.
Punnarooth Srimongkolsilp
March 26, 2021 at 9:24 pm
Thank you so much for teaching me 🙂
roche keen manalaysay
March 26, 2021 at 9:27 pm
Big Heart…😘
RastaBoo
March 26, 2021 at 9:30 pm
One of my favourite Ted talks. Holy cow the power in her message and voice. 💚
Łukasz Stec
March 26, 2021 at 9:31 pm
Why do you assume grandpa needs to change and not you? He has much more life experience.
QUbalic life
March 26, 2021 at 9:32 pm
For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Ephesians 6:12
Jonathan Cousins
March 26, 2021 at 9:34 pm
powerful
Angmari
March 26, 2021 at 9:41 pm
Wonderful talk and she looks fabulous in that dress!
Kyle Briggs
March 26, 2021 at 9:42 pm
When you have been effectively locked up together for a year straight, almost any relationship will be strained, compassion isn’t the solution when Covid has destroyed your general appreciation of or ability to put up with another person.
Stephen Catton
March 26, 2021 at 9:48 pm
I am so glad that you have discovered compassion. Not new, people have been doing it for 100,000s of years. Although suffering alongside someone sounds a bit silly… you can sympathise and understand other people’s point of view without the suffering. Not quite sure why this is a TED talk..
Himanshu Prasad
March 26, 2021 at 9:53 pm
goood gig after avengers!
Salty Cuban
March 26, 2021 at 10:01 pm
How about acceptance culture. Accepting true diversity manifesting itself as diverse thought and opinions.
Thank you Betty. For reminding folks of the options we have.
Cancel culture must end.
Otherwise our society is doomed to fail.
DOOSH MASTA
March 26, 2021 at 10:04 pm
She doesn’t even have hair. What can she teach me?
Guy Jonson
March 26, 2021 at 10:30 pm
Shallow Allow
Vanessa257888
March 26, 2021 at 10:34 pm
So rude.
Rugged G
March 26, 2021 at 10:15 pm
We are at a crossroads here that compassion stuff will leave you open to narcissistic abuse, scam artist and manipulation. The cancel culture stuff will eliminate freedom, free thought and individuality. Just be the best you you can be and hope for the best.
Ignacio Ferrentino
March 26, 2021 at 10:27 pm
Thats way it feels bad to cancell someone. And it feels good to forgive
Josef Shopovich
March 26, 2021 at 11:02 pm
It’s important to close the eyes on the things we don’t like, if we want to live a peaceful and happy life.
George Williams
March 26, 2021 at 11:18 pm
Thats a stupid concept.
If you don’t open yourself up to the things you disagree with then you reach a box of seclusion and ignorance and if you stay in that box you gain a massive ego even for being wrong but if you open yourself up to things you can understand more,widen your views and become more intelligent
Sel Ay
March 26, 2021 at 11:33 pm
Mrs Hart you are inspiring!
Nektaria K
March 27, 2021 at 12:54 am
Just a reminder that you shouldn’t try compassionate culture with abusive people (emotionally or physically). You deserve better, it’s not your job to “fix” them. Get your distance please and focus on your mental and physical health. I’m a person with sociopathic parents. Try showing them some empathy. They take it all, never get tired of getting, but they won’t give you anything in return. Not all people change. And for the ones who do, let’s meet them again when they have already changed.
Ottah Osondu
March 27, 2021 at 1:29 am
We need to cancel the cancel culture.