Your inner voice is a powerful tool for self-reflection and planning, but it can also trap you in negative thought loops — “chatter,” as psychologist and neuroscientist Ethan Kross calls it. He shares tips for quieting the less helpful aspects of the voice inside your head as well as how to harness chatter to overcome doubt, enhance your focus and transform your well-being. (Recorded at TED@BCG on September 12, 2024)
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@promahamedaxmed1274
February 19, 2025 at 7:29 am
As somali, we have a proverb which says ” nin hadal iyo howl iskuma karo ” means ” A man can’t balance talk and work ” 😊
Your words can affect your actions 🎬 isn’t it ?
@tis_phil
February 19, 2025 at 7:34 am
That was excellent and thought provoking, can’t lie made my brain wondered. Will rewatch a few times, stitch it all together.
@ZiggZagg11
February 19, 2025 at 7:37 am
I have often thought about that my inner voice is spoken in english and it is often going at the same speed as I would normally speak… Why is that… And could it be faster…? 🤔 My inner voice is holding me back… Maybe I could be smarter if it was a different language or done at double speed… 🤔
@ZiggZagg11
February 19, 2025 at 7:38 am
How did humans think before they had language skills?
@dimejawn
February 19, 2025 at 7:46 am
I talk to myself all day long. I ask myself questions and I answer those questions too! Lol.
@drumbum3.142
February 19, 2025 at 8:55 am
Verbatim Ditto.
@newbrabird
February 19, 2025 at 10:26 am
The same here.
@PaulSeinYaw
February 19, 2025 at 7:48 am
I myself don’t want to listen my own voice honestly!
@DY2784
February 19, 2025 at 7:49 am
💙💙💙
@ploarbear1868
February 19, 2025 at 7:53 am
On the right time thank you
@mr.c2485
February 19, 2025 at 7:54 am
Funny…no mention of meditation.
@helenilindsell5684
February 19, 2025 at 8:00 am
❤
@mr.c2485
February 19, 2025 at 8:17 am
This is why I practice a form of nihilism. My stripe of nihilism allows me to hate the game…not the player.
Simply stated…instead of rationalizing or blame placing, (which creates a rehearsal of thoughts) , I simply “capture” the thought(s) and attach them to others in the form of compassion, understanding, and benevolence.
I.e. I marry hatred with love. That is productive nihilism…nothing matters until it is made purposeful.
Takes practice, but it’s doable.
@BhuviVerma-w8y
February 19, 2025 at 10:32 am
Excuse me, can you explain it in simpler terms
@mr.c2485
February 19, 2025 at 11:36 am
@@BhuviVerma-w8y
All humans have the same desire…a “sound mind”… I.e….One that is not negatively affected by the whims of men or the eventualities of life. Since this is an impossible endeavor, all that we are left with is empathy for others. Nihilism simply allows for a level playing field.
Hope that helps clarify……
@NorthLoftier
February 19, 2025 at 8:25 am
Yes, I do talk to myself. In fact, I was talking to myself and then I muttered to myself when I saw this video pop up at my notifications, “All the time.”
@NaveenSurya
February 19, 2025 at 9:01 am
What a ted talk
@harrypearle9781
February 19, 2025 at 9:32 am
TRUMP 2.0 ? How can we cope with the menace in the White House, each day?
Can we find simple sayings to repeat, over and over: BE A BUDDY NOT A BULLY, etc?
========================= thanks Prof Kross =========================
@brandonvanlieshout7303
February 19, 2025 at 9:48 am
I stopped watching the news on here. After a couple days, you just feel great!
@Benzknees
February 19, 2025 at 9:33 am
As Blackadder said, it’s the only way I can get an intelligent conversation.
@Mattt74253
February 19, 2025 at 9:33 am
if i remember,i’ve heard of this topic in ted ed.
@Andy-xw1ex
February 19, 2025 at 9:43 am
Thanks
@brandonvanlieshout7303
February 19, 2025 at 9:47 am
I talk to myself all day. Out loud too. You can see my face change to depending on what I’m talking about 😅
@Nerabla
February 19, 2025 at 12:36 pm
Same xd
@circle3counseling
February 19, 2025 at 10:01 am
Constantly.
@adalam6847
February 19, 2025 at 10:04 am
That is really a good way to talk with myself.Thank you for teaching me a new way..I would like to talk with myself becauseI know myself better than anyone in the world
@bertinbb
February 19, 2025 at 10:50 am
His book chatter is a very good read.
@Sanj-r6v
February 19, 2025 at 11:19 am
art wale CSE karsakte
@shreyajain2931
February 19, 2025 at 12:02 pm
Take aways:
1. The most important conversations you have are with yourself
2. We spend about 1/3 to 1/2 of our time not being in the present
3. Ways your innver voice can be one of your greatest tools:
3.1 Give yourself advice as if giving to someone else (Distanced self talk) – solomon’s paradox
3.2 Talk to other people but the best conversations you have are the ones that let you vent your emotions along with giving you advice annd expanding your prespective
3.3 Experincing awe makes your feel smaller and makes you feel your chatter (inner voice) smaller
@uyirex10
February 19, 2025 at 12:56 pm
Amazing talk. 👏🏽
@Alvert-re4sd
February 19, 2025 at 9:06 pm
the frontal lobotomy reminds me of something terrible but overall it was a great talk! very engaging and informative!
@guythorne7091
February 19, 2025 at 10:34 pm
Don’t think out and about things; think in. Gentle people 😢. Thinking is a psychological disease, a sickness infecting everyone. It is the cause of worry and unhappiness. You want to cure yourself of this habit, and I am going to show you how to get rid of it. You do it by not doing it – thinking, that is. Now, don’t think about that. Be serious. It uses your attention, and it lives in your stomach. Put your attention and awareness there; it can’t move when you have a “finger” on it. And you stop thinking. It’s fast, so keep vigilant. I am doing it for myself the same way you will have to do it for yourself. One Love.
@BariyaMayurbhai-c6x
February 19, 2025 at 11:03 pm
I’ve been experimenting with manifestation techniques, and something strange keeps happening. When I focus more on the vibrational frequency instead of just positive thinking, things actually start manifesting. I just finished reading Vibrations of Manifestation by Alex Lane, and it explains exactly why this happens. Has anyone else noticed this in their own life?
@Nk_gamer55184
February 19, 2025 at 11:03 pm
I used to struggle with manifestation because I always focused on positive thinking but never saw results. This book changed my perspective completely. Once I started applying what it teaches about vibrational frequency, everything shifted. It explains why most people fail at manifestation without even realizing it. I highly recommend reading Vibrations of Manifestation by Alex Lane
@VjwefyxcsBfignksvycahb
February 19, 2025 at 11:03 pm
Most people don’t realize that their subconscious mind blocks manifestations before they even start. Vibrations of Manifestation by Alex Lane explains this in a way I’ve never seen before. If you ever felt like you were doing everything right but nothing changed, this explains why.
@funny_shortt_maker
February 19, 2025 at 11:04 pm
There is an actual science behind why some people manifest wealth effortlessly while others struggle for years. It’s not luck, it’s about how your subconscious interprets vibrational frequency. I never understood this until I read Vibrations of Manifestation by Alex Lane. It breaks down the psychology behind manifestation in a way that finally made sense to me
@Jonathan-yr3so
February 19, 2025 at 11:09 pm
Seems as though my phone has been listening to me again if it’s recommending this video. Stasi 2.0
@أنااستطيع-ط9ع
February 19, 2025 at 11:51 pm
Oh man, I have no knowledge of English. You guys entered my language skills and were shocked that there was a ruling on the subject. God is the helper. 😂😂😅
@MrPelikan500
February 20, 2025 at 7:55 am
9:54 AWE … it reduces the size of our chatter … puts things in better perspective …
i get this from the window seat upon take-off & landing … the world is really big …
my own problems, pre-occupations … neurosis … are really tiny in comparison
i always calmer with this perspective …
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@dakinmaher4522
February 20, 2025 at 8:26 am
Yes. I talk to myself. Don’t eavesdrop. 😂
@Kevin-sr8yx
February 20, 2025 at 11:09 am
Do I?
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.
.
No, no I don’t.
@SANASIDDIQUE-l3r
February 20, 2025 at 11:36 am
I am in awe state right now
@SANASIDDIQUE-l3r
February 20, 2025 at 11:37 am
Talking to ourself loudly is another way to clear half of our problems. It works every single time.
@33XWAWA
February 20, 2025 at 11:38 am
Viewed to see what he means by ‘harness’
@stevetucker9181
February 20, 2025 at 12:15 pm
You ever get in a heated conversation with yourself, and then slowly realize that someone is listening, so you pretend you are on a phone call through an imaginary Bluetooth? Yeah, me neither…
@JanisFroehlig
February 20, 2025 at 3:51 pm
Hi. This is your mother. I apologize for the negative scripts. Please understand that I was worried about you, and I was working with my own scripts. I’d love to talk with you about it.
@Chris-w7e
February 20, 2025 at 3:58 pm
Well who would know unless they were listening and who would care😂
@Thomassellby117
February 20, 2025 at 9:36 pm
dumb
@todaycountsshow
February 20, 2025 at 9:43 pm
By learning to harness our inner voice, we can break free from negative thought patterns and cultivate a more compassionate, wise, and resilient mindset.💙
@DerekHowden
February 20, 2025 at 9:55 pm
The voice that you are listening to comes with a context and the context is provided in an emotional sense of what you are thinking and listening to.
If your inner voice is critical and destructive you will never reason your way out of self criticism because no matter what the chatter is inside your mind the context remains the same.
So it is the persistence of the context that is the problem and not the persistence of chatter as the chatter is a consequence of the context i.e. it comes after the context which is built into place by your feelings.
If you need to change your inner voice then stop listening to the chatter and start to notice how you are feeling and start to relax into the feeling and let go despite the chatter and try to pay no attention to it and continue to relax and let go of the feeling.
Repeat every time you get the feeling and relax into it and let it go and as you continue to do this over time you will notice that the chatter has changed because the context has also changed.
Once you see that you can set yourself free you will set yourself free from all your fears and if you don’t believe me start with something small for example, for me I hate watching people climbing to heights and even though I am sitting in my living room I feel like I could fall and the person on the screen, in my context, better make it!!!!
It’s irrational fear so I watched a video short of someone doing something terrifying and started to relax into my feelings and within a few video’s they stopped being scary and now I find it fascinating.
The chatter is a consequence of a feeling
You will never change the feeling through a dialogue that reaches a conclusion to make it stop chattering to you.
Slowly start to relax into what you can cope with and over time you will teach your self how to set yourself free from a critical inner voice to a loving curious helpful happy voice that wants to explore life
Hope it helps 🙂it takes time and persistence and pay no attention to the chatter until it changes and brings you inner joy
@zeroonetime
February 20, 2025 at 9:59 pm
When i talk to myself it feels like i am talking with God the creator of Thought. 010
@SaifAnsari-q2k
February 20, 2025 at 11:04 pm
You know I have been learning English for the past few months and I talk to myself more than anyone else does.
@SaifAnsari-q2k
February 20, 2025 at 11:10 pm
I feel I have not made salient progress in my life cus I am not focused in present and always thinking about my past and future.but from now on I will stop thinking about the things I have been through.
@afuentes5351
February 21, 2025 at 1:11 am
His Voice is amazing
@macdisciple
February 21, 2025 at 1:50 am
I use a lot of gestures. A LOT!
@smaqck
February 21, 2025 at 2:03 am
Way too familiar
@Sherry1092
February 21, 2025 at 2:34 am
I’m really talking to the higher power but it appears I’m talking to myself.
@Sam_Saylor
February 21, 2025 at 2:48 am
What a relaxed, composed and convincing talk.
As someone who has struggled from a harsh inner voice for many years, I can attest to some of the tools he mentions working wonders.
Really glad this is being shared.
@LatifaASSABBANE
February 21, 2025 at 11:32 am
The same opinion
@jhodapp
February 21, 2025 at 4:03 pm
Absolutely agree. I also think everyone must spend some time working with a well-fitting, professional therapist to heal original life traumas and destructive-beliefs that we all have to one degree or another. After doing enough of this work, the negative inner chatter *greatly* reduces, and then one is primarily left with neutral or positive inner chatter.
@elgonzo5
February 21, 2025 at 2:54 am
No.
@r.ljerbin6475
February 21, 2025 at 7:17 am
I always thought wealth was about hard work. Then I read Hidden Codex of Wealth and realized I was playing the game on hard mode while the real winners had the cheat codes.
@PurushottamDahikr
February 21, 2025 at 7:17 am
I had no idea how blind I was until I read Hidden Codex of Wealth. Everything I thought I knew about money was a joke. This book completely rewired my brain.
@Imthegoats
February 21, 2025 at 7:55 am
Thanks for share!
@raushanansariansari-qb1hh
February 21, 2025 at 7:17 am
This isn’t another self-help book. It’s a manual for breaking free from the system. The moment I finished book Hidden Codex of Wealth, I realized how blind I had been.
@OnielMendezIrizarry
February 21, 2025 at 9:01 am
everyone does
@OnielMendezIrizarry
February 21, 2025 at 9:02 am
this is helpful
@rajdeepkaur4609
February 21, 2025 at 9:27 am
Good video
@RaisBehzad
February 21, 2025 at 9:32 am
why you have removed the video ?
@StephenUSSChosin
February 21, 2025 at 10:17 am
There is nothing “I” can tell “me” that I do not already know; Innate human intelligence works optimally when not distracted by mental language that is a product of a psychological identity. All mental “suffering / pain “ comes from this psychological reactivity that cannot exist without the power of our “attention “ and the constructed delivery system of language. The “voice” in the head is not endogenous to us; it is the accumulated self referential ideas about us that we have absorbed from culture / society / family, and ruminating on those concepts causes mental “discomfort “ along a spectrum that depletes our inherent vitality.
@aaronjames2413
February 21, 2025 at 3:09 pm
Inner dialog….a unspoken friendship….
@besmiley7075
February 21, 2025 at 3:55 pm
Me is my best friend… I have deep conversations with myself everyday and everywhere sometimes I pretend I’m having a call so no one will think I’m a weirdo 😂😂. But yeah I like to hear me talking to me
@JamesStrong20
February 21, 2025 at 6:51 pm
3 things that worked for me:
1. I blocked out all distractions.
2. I read books on Richsterius.
3. I stayed consistent no matter what.
@edwardelor
February 21, 2025 at 7:01 pm
I agree with you bro, these books, they are mindblow hahahaha
@hossainsangu
February 22, 2025 at 12:40 am
Absolutely goods
@ChadKovac
February 21, 2025 at 6:53 pm
When we feel smaller so does our chatter.
So somebody who inflates their ego is also inflating their perception of their problems or their chatter. The bigger they think they are the bigger their chatter will be The bigger they will perceive their problems to be but if they could see it from the perspective of somebody who feels smaller their problems and chatter lessen? I should try to feel small?
I do like the idea of awe decreasing stress. I like to learn new things and find awe daily. I think one awe per day at least is my current ideal dose.
@hahahahaha7824
February 22, 2025 at 12:17 pm
very good point.
@chewyueen1020
February 21, 2025 at 8:20 pm
I couldn’t stop my mind from orchestrating the play, imagining myself teaching with student and how should I present it in a comprehensible way so that my student would be engage and contribute especially to get student to talk. My restless mind really freaks me out. Is it just because of the caffeine l had or just l am too free at home since l am miserable of unemployment and it’s a reflection of anxiety that sometimes cause me insomnia. However, lit’s undeniably that l got more time to think before l speak during this solo play. This is a painstaking thought, imagining it’s a play directed by an amateur esl people. Staying in my comfort zone , waking up without having to work like others can at times be a crisis that strikes me. Well, maybe a light sleep person like me should quit coffee and overthinking so that l can trully embrace the curveball of reality.
@26_intanpermatasari93
February 21, 2025 at 9:50 pm
Thank very much for this speaking, honestly talk to my self can be decrease many problems and scary about something. This is remarkable choice for talk better
@Belinda99
February 22, 2025 at 12:08 am
I guess so long as you’re not doing it in public lol but I sometimes still do it in public ha ha but not major big conversations I save those for at home or in the car ha ha
@kamalarai3172
February 22, 2025 at 1:31 am
I used to make a self story inside my mind and then imagining self as main character then the beginning of dialogue starts……😅 How funny.
@ariadgaia5932
February 22, 2025 at 4:41 am
Well…. This helps explain why I’m in awe of volcanoes and storms~
@rar2488
February 22, 2025 at 7:54 am
All I do is yap, yap-yap, yap-yap, yap-yap….🗣️🤫
@rar2488
February 22, 2025 at 8:15 am
“There is no inertia in consciousness.” I realized about 2 years ago that my mind is going to continuously run, without end. So I made a promise to myself that if that’s the case then I’m going to give it good content to run off of. Paying more attention to and being mindful of my thoughts I was able to shift the default chatter from damning, persecutory, commanding me to just go away, to more positive, encouraging and uplifting. Since then every day I wake is better than the day before. We really do have the power to shape and mold our lives towards what we desire. I desire Love and peace, so that’s what I’m creating.
@hahahahaha7824
February 22, 2025 at 12:12 pm
Most of it is what we already know but it’s good to hear from a scientist on how people on average do have this issue (tendency) and it makes sense how traveling can be a relief since you usually go to places that have great scenery and you feel slightly better after disconnecting. I guess that is one way people experience awe and recharge. One thing I would to add is that we immediately feel better when we realize it’s not just us that’s going through the same problem. “The switch” or the “broadening of the perspective” allows one to realize it’s not a big deal since everybody is going through it. Because what makes one worried and scared to death is often the feeling that it’s something grave that is happening only to them like a miserable movie character ridden with really really bad luck. You have a huge breath of relief when you realize everybody goes through it and it’s not a big deal. So perspective is everything. It’s crucial to always remember that it’s not a big deal. The best thing about getting older is that you realize you have survived most things and you know that most things are not big deals.
@bipolargamechanger
February 22, 2025 at 12:17 pm
I read The Power of Now years ago and practiced and my chatter went away. My mind is 🤫
@22Too
February 22, 2025 at 1:10 pm
Most important conversation is the one that we have w/ Jesus.
@bravo90_
February 22, 2025 at 1:40 pm
Some people have multiple inner voices. You can acquire inner voices.
@bravo90_
February 22, 2025 at 1:43 pm
Speakers inner voice is inpatient. Ik that’ll make it mad.
@kiranicharles0112
February 22, 2025 at 2:31 pm
Here is what helped me to use my inner voice in a powerful way:
1. I read all books from MindBloomery, and I learned that mindset is the most powerful asset you can own. Talking to yourself few times per day is really important
2. A book titled ‘The calm within: Cultivating clarity amid stress and anxiety’ was a game-changer for me. It taught me how to quiet the chaos in my mind and really focus
3. I started journaling every morning. Getting my thoughts out on paper helped me organize my mind and stop overthinking
4. I became way more intentional with my time. Now I set clear goals and let my inner voice guide me towards achieving them
@l96ai
February 22, 2025 at 11:20 pm
Of course! Sometimes I need to talk to a professional!
@JimRohnMotivationHubVideos
February 23, 2025 at 10:08 am
I love how Ethan Kross explains the balance between harnessing and not silencing our inner voice. The example of Malala using third-person self-talk was truly inspiring. More people need to learn how to manage their thoughts effectively!
@faizain1531
February 23, 2025 at 11:13 am
I needed this!!!