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Confessions of a Recovering People Pleaser | Baron Ryan | TED

Internet filmmaker Baron Ryan talks to himself, but he doesn’t always like what he has to say. In a funny, existential play (where Ryan plays both himself and his mind), he contemplates the paradox of being a people pleaser, the efficacy of melatonin gummies and the squirming questions that keep many of us up at…

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Internet filmmaker Baron Ryan talks to himself, but he doesn’t always like what he has to say. In a funny, existential play (where Ryan plays both himself and his mind), he contemplates the paradox of being a people pleaser, the efficacy of melatonin gummies and the squirming questions that keep many of us up at night. (Recorded at TEDNext 2024 on October 23, 2024)

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57 Comments

  1. @onnoH96

    January 31, 2025 at 8:14 am

    I hope this video finds its way to those people that need need to see this by the algorithm itself
    because I wont be sending it to them
    because I’m afraid they’ll be thinking that I’m judging them

    Love you too

  2. @diamondblue916

    January 31, 2025 at 8:19 am

    Amazing talk.

  3. @Avalon_1991

    January 31, 2025 at 8:38 am

    Did he write that god awful Cat Burns People Pleaser song?

  4. @HE-IS

    January 31, 2025 at 8:51 am

    Relatable, true, and beautifully portrayed. May the Lord Jesus help you and me, and anyone else who struggles with this problem.

    • @mohammedyenus458

      January 31, 2025 at 3:09 pm

      Only the one God can help, not anyone else

  5. @DominionAnako-bb7ry

    January 31, 2025 at 8:52 am

    For sure! Recovering from anything can be really tough but also super rewarding. It often involves a lot of support from friends, family, or support groups. People usually learn a lot about themselves during the process, and it can lead to some serious personal growth. It’s all about taking it one step at a time and finding what works best for each person.

  6. @texanfournow

    January 31, 2025 at 8:53 am

    Well that was different. Beats a standard over-prepared, lifeless TED Talk any day.

  7. @HarveyJackson1967

    January 31, 2025 at 8:53 am

    This really makes you think…

  8. @divegreenwater9570

    January 31, 2025 at 9:24 am

    Why are people who are physically in the audience watching this through their cell phones? This is a filmed show. Like, are they going to watch it again on their phones and not on youtube? What is wrong with these people? Genuinely curious.

  9. @MM-sf3rl

    January 31, 2025 at 9:28 am

    4:14, done. I don’t need to please him by watching, or a thumbs up.

  10. @timnordstrom7383

    January 31, 2025 at 9:37 am

    Theatre is one of the oldest forms of expression, from shadows in flickering light on a cave wall, to the ancient greeks, to now. Just because this is different it doesn’t mean the message is any less true 😀

    Very nice presentation.

  11. @kendrickemery8706

    January 31, 2025 at 9:40 am

    this was so incredibly well done omg

  12. @thejasminetiara

    January 31, 2025 at 9:43 am

    Two people pleasers in one room is my husband and I hahahaaa but I’m only that way with him and he’s that way with everyone 🤣

  13. @TheYellowRoseOfTexas

    January 31, 2025 at 10:09 am

    Made me cry, very impactful talk. Thank you

  14. @Ayyub_ibn_Anas

    January 31, 2025 at 10:18 am

    So well point.. I always watch trying to understand, couse I am not good at English

  15. @fintamaria2429

    January 31, 2025 at 10:20 am

    😂😂

  16. @LadyJ1111

    January 31, 2025 at 11:21 am

    Collaboration of the century

  17. @DY2784

    January 31, 2025 at 11:44 am

    Interesting 👍

  18. @Emy-1990

    January 31, 2025 at 12:00 pm

    So accurate…. Thank you

  19. @DeeAreDee

    January 31, 2025 at 12:04 pm

    I love baron so much.

  20. @harrypearle9781

    January 31, 2025 at 12:04 pm

    TRUMP 2.0 Yes, yes, we must please the new BOSS !
    Rule #1 The Boss (Trump) is always right
    Rule #2 If the Boss (Trump) is wrong, see, Rule #1
    ============================Thanks for this incredible video!

  21. @AlessandrosFilms

    January 31, 2025 at 12:46 pm

    This is actually the BEST ted talk I’ve seen

  22. @phreeesubz

    January 31, 2025 at 1:00 pm

    *This is what i call multimedia art*

  23. @Ines-gg2

    January 31, 2025 at 1:38 pm

    As the scapegoat of a narc family. I literally had to people please to not die. Its not a joke, stay strong and stop people pleasing🩷🩷 took me few years to reverse the people pleasing it was like programmed into me as a kid.

  24. @_moonflower__

    January 31, 2025 at 3:05 pm

    Maybe it’s exaggerated to say that but I think this video will change my life. Thank you

  25. @renarolo

    January 31, 2025 at 3:46 pm

    Go watch this guy coffee video, it’s genius

  26. @NishkarshBaid

    January 31, 2025 at 8:39 pm

    AN AMAZING VIDEO WITH LOADS OF SELF AWARENESS INFORMATION.

  27. @thenomadcoder

    January 31, 2025 at 9:06 pm

    loved the message, i needed this.

  28. @tanpisitpitiphonsakun5984

    January 31, 2025 at 10:37 pm

    The way you explained how you become people pleaser is so true!

  29. @siddheshmore231

    January 31, 2025 at 10:52 pm

    I thought this was supposed to be an 8-minute TED talk. Turned out to be a lot more than that.

  30. @PedroMarques-l2k

    February 1, 2025 at 12:57 am

    I think people confuse being kind, having education and cordiality, having low self-esteem, or being depressed, with being a people pleaser. being a people pleaser is a very specific thing. most often than not I would say that it is the people who confuse these concepts who have a problem. you cannot be kind or educated, because you are immediately labeled as a people pleaser. you cannot value someone and treat them specially – people pleaser. you cannot have low self-esteem and the immediate answer from your friends is to stop being a people pleaser (easier than listening to them), when the real problem is that kindness was not validated, and so they became depressed. does it need to be validated? yes, it is not for free. but nowadays everything is people pleasing, or should I say, society lacks core values and empathy? Finally, I would argue that it is often the ones who call non-people pleasers people pleasers. who should be cared for. I would argue that some of them are so lost that it is easier to call someone a people pleaser. Don’t get me wrong, people pleasing exists (and it is not the same as lack of spine, I am sorry), all I am saying is that we should stop being lazy and cataloging all things in one bag, get a grip, analise, and be more empathic with our fellow human being. that is the real problem.

    • @WrendaRogers

      February 1, 2025 at 3:06 pm

      Wow great answer

  31. @NehaVerma-og1wd

    February 1, 2025 at 2:18 am

    i used to think being magnetic was just about looks or confidence, but i couldn’t have been more wrong. i read this book called Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and it totally changed my perspective. it breaks down the energy and mindset behind true attraction in a way that just makes sense. once i started applying what it taught, i noticed people reacting to me differently almost instantly. it’s seriously worth a read.

    • @JaanLoge

      February 2, 2025 at 1:37 am

      Indeed! Very well said.

  32. @niranira5908

    February 1, 2025 at 2:18 am

    i remember feeling like i was always the one fading into the background while others stood out effortlessly. it was frustrating and made me doubt myself a lot. then i came across this book, Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and it showed me things i’d never even considered. it’s not just a self-help book; it’s like a guide to understanding your own energy and using it to connect with people. if you’ve ever felt like you’re not seen, this book might change everything.

  33. @supriyabhad1984

    February 1, 2025 at 2:18 am

    one night i was scrolling through my phone, feeling like i’d never figure out why some people just seem so magnetic. then i came across this book, Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and something about it caught my attention. reading it was like turning on a light in a dark room. it’s not about pretending to be someone you’re not; it’s about unlocking the energy you already have. trust me, this book is worth every page

  34. @gfjgcjgcjiguffjx2979

    February 1, 2025 at 2:18 am

    i remember this one time i felt like no matter what i did, people just didn’t notice me. i tried everything—confidence boosters, social tips, you name it—but nothing seemed to work. then i found this book, Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and it completely shifted how i saw myself. it’s not just about being noticed; it’s about understanding the energy you project. honestly, this book made all the difference for me. if you’ve ever felt invisible, you need to read it.

  35. @aryangaming6573

    February 1, 2025 at 2:18 am

    there was a time when i kept wondering why some people seemed to naturally draw others in while i was just…there. no matter what i tried, i couldn’t figure out how they did it. then someone mentioned the book Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and i decided to check it out. the way it explains how your aura affects everything around you? it blew me away. it’s like having a secret code to unlock your magnetic energy. this book is a game-changer.

  36. @SaiqaDaud

    February 1, 2025 at 2:18 am

    Amazing talk i have ever seen in Ted, really we need to love ourselves ❤️

  37. @YelizYaser

    February 1, 2025 at 2:53 am

    there was a time when i kept wondering why some people seemed to naturally draw others in while i was just…there. no matter what i tried, i couldn’t figure out how they did it. then someone mentioned the book Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and i decided to check it out. the way it explains how your aura affects everything around you? it blew me away. it’s like having a secret code to unlock your magnetic energy. this book is a game-changer.

  38. @BILLYEvans-n8h

    February 1, 2025 at 2:53 am

    i used to think being magnetic was just about looks or confidence, but i couldn’t have been more wrong. i read this book called Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and it totally changed my perspective. it breaks down the energy and mindset behind true attraction in a way that just makes sense. once i started applying what it taught, i noticed people reacting to me differently almost instantly. it’s seriously worth a read.

  39. @EarleanErnst

    February 1, 2025 at 2:53 am

    i remember this one time i felt like no matter what i did, people just didn’t notice me. i tried everything—confidence boosters, social tips, you name it—but nothing seemed to work. then i found this book, Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and it completely shifted how i saw myself. it’s not just about being noticed; it’s about understanding the energy you project. honestly, this book made all the difference for me. if you’ve ever felt invisible, you need to read it.

  40. @SheryllPeyton

    February 1, 2025 at 2:53 am

    i remember this one time i felt like no matter what i did, people just didn’t notice me. i tried everything—confidence boosters, social tips, you name it—but nothing seemed to work. then i found this book, Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and it completely shifted how i saw myself. it’s not just about being noticed; it’s about understanding the energy you project. honestly, this book made all the difference for me. if you’ve ever felt invisible, you need to read it.

  41. @JerriCarrier

    February 1, 2025 at 2:53 am

    i remember feeling like i was always the one fading into the background while others stood out effortlessly. it was frustrating and made me doubt myself a lot. then i came across this book, Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and it showed me things i’d never even considered. it’s not just a self-help book; it’s like a guide to understanding your own energy and using it to connect with people. if you’ve ever felt like you’re not seen, this book might change everything.

  42. @NellaDougherty

    February 1, 2025 at 2:53 am

    i remember feeling like i was always the one fading into the background while others stood out effortlessly. it was frustrating and made me doubt myself a lot. then i came across this book, Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and it showed me things i’d never even considered. it’s not just a self-help book; it’s like a guide to understanding your own energy and using it to connect with people. if you’ve ever felt like you’re not seen, this book might change everything.

  43. @JEREMIAHGagnon-v7n

    February 1, 2025 at 2:53 am

    there was a time when i kept wondering why some people seemed to naturally draw others in while i was just…there. no matter what i tried, i couldn’t figure out how they did it. then someone mentioned the book Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and i decided to check it out. the way it explains how your aura affects everything around you? it blew me away. it’s like having a secret code to unlock your magnetic energy. this book is a game-changer.

  44. @OzhanZiya

    February 1, 2025 at 2:53 am

    one night i was scrolling through my phone, feeling like i’d never figure out why some people just seem so magnetic. then i came across this book, Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and something about it caught my attention. reading it was like turning on a light in a dark room. it’s not about pretending to be someone you’re not; it’s about unlocking the energy you already have. trust me, this book is worth every page

  45. @MyriamBaron-y1d

    February 1, 2025 at 2:53 am

    one night i was scrolling through my phone, feeling like i’d never figure out why some people just seem so magnetic. then i came across this book, Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and something about it caught my attention. reading it was like turning on a light in a dark room. it’s not about pretending to be someone you’re not; it’s about unlocking the energy you already have. trust me, this book is worth every page

  46. @iamjeffreyalansmith

    February 1, 2025 at 2:56 am

    This was brilliant.

  47. @ricardosilva9920

    February 1, 2025 at 4:33 am

    Certainly one of the best TED Talks I’ve ever watched. Amazing, thank you very much.

  48. @hilary8801

    February 1, 2025 at 7:06 am

    Really well done Ted talk, not like anything I’ve seen before. Really hit home for me!!

  49. @erijdp

    February 1, 2025 at 8:39 am

    BARONNN 🥹🥹 so proud

  50. @Brendon4Jesus

    February 2, 2025 at 8:09 am

    Needed this – thank you very much!

  51. @amanatee27

    February 2, 2025 at 11:19 am

    wasn’t sure I was going to like the style at first, but you really executed the concept well – great pacing, succinct without losing the heart and soul of the drama, and the point lands.

  52. @GassersGhost

    February 2, 2025 at 12:43 pm

    It took me 50 year to realize that being wanted is more important than being needed.
    Being wanted is a choice.

    I want you to want me, but I do not need you to need me. (Sorry Cheap Trick)

    • @GassersGhost

      February 2, 2025 at 12:54 pm

      I felt that look as he walked off! “Yep. Killed it!” and “What’s next”.

  53. @KiWA-b2v

    February 2, 2025 at 3:47 pm

    I can’t imagine this happening in my life think you 😂❤

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