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Dr. Helen Fisher, a biological anthropologist, answers the internet’s burning questions about love. How does attraction work? Can you love someone and still cheat on them? Is there such a thing as a soulmate? Dr. Fisher answers all these questions and much more! Still haven’t subscribed to WIRED on YouTube? ►► Listen to the Get…
Salty Caramel
February 14, 2022 at 10:50 pm
Thank you so much for answering all these questions.
Now I think Im N love.
Hrithika Sathish
February 14, 2022 at 10:56 pm
I love that she quoted Kabir Das
h44rp
February 14, 2022 at 10:58 pm
I NEED A PART TWO OF THIS SO BADLY
Alex Wuntch
February 14, 2022 at 10:59 pm
Ok, I LOVE LOVE her. This needed to be 20 min at least.
a letter you hallucinated
February 14, 2022 at 11:05 pm
Sad that the topics of polygamy and aromantism/asexuality weren’t included.
yunotingz
February 14, 2022 at 11:07 pm
where i can find her questionnaire
César Augusto Ojeda
February 14, 2022 at 11:07 pm
More of her please please invite her again please please
Adiel Azuara
February 14, 2022 at 11:09 pm
I know people who can have multiple soulmates at the same time. Do you think they are lying or is there some sort of hierarchy of love for those people?
Dickie McKay
February 14, 2022 at 11:14 pm
I’ve been watching a lot of Tim and Eric recently. I can’t help but feel they are behind this.
K K
February 14, 2022 at 11:19 pm
Extremely interesting, thank you 💚
Mandeep
February 14, 2022 at 11:20 pm
Liked most of it minus the way that she phrased how you shouldn’t be pedantic as overlooking what you don’t like about somebody in the dating phase in particular cos that’s actually important.
Jane Smith
February 15, 2022 at 1:05 am
I don’t think she meant overlook important things. I have a lot of experience with this topic, and I have seen people pass on potentially great partners over something minor only to then meet someone else and compromise on something really major.
Tofu Said
February 14, 2022 at 11:22 pm
I feel like the jealous question was actually about being jealous of their success?
Rian Milit
February 14, 2022 at 11:31 pm
Such an interesting video, and Doctor Fisher responded detailed, in uncomplicated terms. Loved how great of a storyteller she is, captivating!
Hope to see more of her.
Hydraas
February 14, 2022 at 11:50 pm
I wish she wasn’t so dismissive of polyamory
Cassidy Brunton
February 15, 2022 at 12:07 am
Curious why soulmates can’t exist at the same time. Polyamory is a thing
Monica Perez
February 15, 2022 at 12:07 am
Think a “soulmate,” is a spiritual concept. Also believe the first 2 months to 2 years is a period of limerance, which is a kind of infatuation, that true love can grow out of.
Jimmy Barto
February 15, 2022 at 12:18 am
Wtf. I just heard the term biological anthropologist the other day on my Anthropology class. And then again on tv, and then again yesterday and now today
Mia-🥂T[A]P Me!! to Have [𝐒]𝐄𝐗 With 𝐌𝐞
February 15, 2022 at 12:22 am
I do hope there is a next time. This was so enjoyable.
Testarossa-TheWhitePrimordial-
February 15, 2022 at 12:28 am
To be honest without time we wouldn’t be able to do anything or get over anything
Shawn Ratcliffe
February 15, 2022 at 12:35 am
Mrs Clarissa is legit and her method works like magic I keep on earning every single week with her new strategy
idk
February 15, 2022 at 12:58 am
Would’ve liked to see what she would say about aromanticism !
Learn2Lee
February 15, 2022 at 1:07 am
Excellent explanation on our troublesome system designed by and field-tested in nature.
Ypsy Nab
February 15, 2022 at 1:18 am
Imagine being her husband. You couldn’t be more scared as a man. Bahahahah. I have to rewatch this a couple of times. Brilliant.
D S
February 15, 2022 at 1:26 am
It’s amazing how much dating has changed in the last two decades. When my wife and I met(using Yahoo dating app) we felt the need to lie to family and friends about how we met because online dating had such stigma attached. These days it’s basically how almost everyone meets it seems
Lone Walker
February 15, 2022 at 12:26 pm
WoW I learned a lot!!! can we have a part 2?
Brandon Kemp
February 15, 2022 at 1:56 pm
“Alas, you can!” is a devastatingly good answer to virtually any iteration of “Can you love and…?”
ZaDevetimiGorami
February 15, 2022 at 2:03 pm
How is she 76 years old?? Wikipedia must be wrong…
Meruyert Karzhaubayeva
February 15, 2022 at 2:04 pm
I just love how this woman tends to show the part of the brain that is involved in producing hormones or emotional reactions. It shows how passionate she is about her field.
bored teenager.
February 15, 2022 at 2:22 pm
2:51 dear fellow stay, we gotta stay loyal to our boyss 😤
Raquel Oliveira
February 15, 2022 at 2:32 pm
Does anyone know the name of the Giotto’s painting that she mentioned?
strawberry
February 15, 2022 at 3:08 pm
This was on my recommendation 😭
Moe Horowitz World
February 15, 2022 at 3:26 pm
If it has a brain it’s complicated supposedly we’re at the top of that list so we’re complicated and dangerous.
Mitali Chaudhary
February 15, 2022 at 3:29 pm
Omg the Kabir ka doha ❤️
Lemon
February 15, 2022 at 3:50 pm
So what does she mean by play? 🤔🤔
ANURAG T V
February 15, 2022 at 4:06 pm
Super 💖
Afra k. Ibs
February 15, 2022 at 4:08 pm
Very precise she’s, and not judgy either. Bring her back sometime again in the future.
roma sucks
February 15, 2022 at 4:12 pm
best video so far about any subject. her energy and knowledge are impeccable!
Samudra Manthan
February 15, 2022 at 4:15 pm
Dude… a “free tote” for subscribing to Wired? How epic and awesome is that? LOL!!! Sign me up!
Joshua Aguirre
February 15, 2022 at 4:17 pm
I was hoping there would be a question related to long distance coupless. Non the less, I enjoued this video.
Josue Lambert
February 15, 2022 at 4:31 pm
i think i fell in love with her just now 😂 definitely felt some of those happy chemicals firing in my brain. so insightful, best WIRED to date!
Esperanza T. LaRoche
February 15, 2022 at 4:35 pm
Question: how long does attraction have to last to know that your in love? if you liked someone for 3 years does this mean mean your in love?
derek
February 15, 2022 at 4:56 pm
There isn’t one definition of love. Some people may fall in love more easily than others, and different people will feel and experience love differently too
Esperanza T. LaRoche
February 15, 2022 at 6:03 pm
@derek ok but how to do you when you have a crush on someone or your in love ? how long to crush last?
Kyrisha- 🔥𝐆𝐨 𝐓𝐨 𝐌𝐲 𝐂𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐥 [𝐋!𝐯𝐞]
February 15, 2022 at 5:02 pm
I was delighted that she did not take a negative view on how technology has changed dating and relationships. She simply addressed our own misuse of it.
I happen to want a stable, romantic “old fashioned” relationship, so it is good to hear that online dating has not eradicated the chances of me meeting a man who wants that as well.
Lauren- 🔥𝐆𝐨 𝐓𝐨 𝐌𝐲 𝐂𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐥 [𝐋!𝐯𝐞]
February 15, 2022 at 6:02 pm
I was delighted that she did not take a negative view on how technology has changed dating and relationships. She simply addressed our own misuse of it.
I happen to want a stable, romantic “old fashioned” relationship, so it is good to hear that online dating has not eradicated the chances of me meeting a man who wants that as well.
Rebbecca- 🔥𝐆𝐨 𝐓𝐨 𝐌𝐲 𝐂𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐥 [𝐋!𝐯𝐞
February 15, 2022 at 6:52 pm
I do hope there is a next time. This was so enjoyable.
Lily 👈𝓕**СК МЕ - СНЕ𝓒𝓚 𝓜𝓨 Р𝓡0𝓕𝓘𝓛Е 💗
February 15, 2022 at 7:42 pm
I loved every minute of this video just because how she carried the topic answered each question ❤️ The soul mate answer was✨❤️ Shared with my friends too
Katherine Ryan
February 15, 2022 at 8:48 pm
MORE OF THIS
Lolo Est
February 15, 2022 at 11:03 pm
we need more.
Camila_ T[A]P Me!! To Have [S]EX💞 With Me
February 15, 2022 at 11:11 pm
I loved every minute of this video just because how she carried the topic answered each question ❤️ The soul mate answer was✨❤️ Shared with my friends too
Michael G
February 16, 2022 at 2:47 am
Thank you, Love Queen!! I was in a deep depression a week after breaking up with my fiancé and he saying that he isn’t _in_ love with me anymore.
But, after reading a few Quora advice responses and watching this video, my head and my heart and MUCH clearer now (also, this isn’t my first failed long-term relationship, so the experience is there). Thanks 💕.
emily
February 16, 2022 at 3:06 am
oh my god this is anti intellectual idiocy what am i watching.
Kath Borup
February 16, 2022 at 3:59 am
Great video. I’m just not sure about the advice about ‘think of reasons to say yes to someone new’. Sometimes we need that negativity bias (and sometimes intuition) to weed out mates that could be abusive or dangerous. If something feels off about someone or they make you feel taken advantage of or uncomfortable, please listen to your gut! Most people are good people BUT there’s all kinds of people online and people don’t always show their true colours right away!
Alex Belles
February 16, 2022 at 5:55 am
That question about romantic vs plutonic love helped so much you have no idea
JYJ
February 16, 2022 at 8:52 am
Hope to see her again. This was so informative and enjoyable 😉
Jajang !
February 16, 2022 at 9:02 am
which questionnaire was she talking about, is there a link to it ?
Marshmellow
February 16, 2022 at 12:32 pm
Wow this has got to be one of the most informative and interesting video out there! Hoping for part 2. I love the way she explains, it makes you wanna watch more and more!!
FoundX
February 16, 2022 at 1:40 pm
I love how obsessed she is about the science of love.
Dangerous Kaos
February 16, 2022 at 1:51 pm
I met my fiancé on Ok Cupid; been together so far for 9 years and recently got engaged ❤️ you got this y’all
afsara benazir
February 16, 2022 at 2:07 pm
She’s so smart!
Piyush Das
February 16, 2022 at 2:09 pm
Is it true that dating someone who is your bestfriend has more chance of being together than dating a completely random person who you fell in love with ??
J Hart
February 16, 2022 at 8:50 pm
I dont really understand the question but if you can confirm we can discuss!
Natasha Dame
February 16, 2022 at 3:22 pm
part 2 please!!
Taurusbaby8269
February 16, 2022 at 4:22 pm
“Send your DNA into tomorrow” I love that
Ek Log
February 16, 2022 at 5:35 pm
So, polyamory is not scientifically reasonable?
Malabika Saha Das
February 16, 2022 at 5:41 pm
I loved that she quoted Kabir. 😌
Xenia
February 16, 2022 at 6:36 pm
No. No. No. Bad advice.
alarsenal10
February 16, 2022 at 8:27 pm
I loved her – her facts and her thoroughness. Can people on Twitter ask more stupid questions so she can be back, please?
Denisa den
February 16, 2022 at 8:28 pm
very interesting
Nelly Negrete
February 16, 2022 at 8:43 pm
Loved this so much. Hope to see her on this channel again!
Zara V
February 16, 2022 at 9:24 pm
just a tad heteronormative for my taste
Chris Vo
February 16, 2022 at 9:47 pm
Dr. Helen Fisher is AMAZING. she also has a phenomenal Ted talk up!
Kaneera
February 16, 2022 at 10:37 pm
I wonder how she would explain polygamy?
Kevin Sundelin
February 16, 2022 at 10:51 pm
Rip editor who forgot to censor the second question
AYUBA SAMAILA
February 17, 2022 at 12:24 am
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Billy Yum Yum Two-by-Two
February 17, 2022 at 1:13 am
What about ethical non monogamy? Polyamory? Non binary people? Does she not consider these?
M
February 17, 2022 at 7:10 pm
I would like to add as someone who has a certain personality disorder, I see many “romantic” symptoms in people I love platonically. I think for some people that this line is very thin, or non-existent, so those set of traits should be taken with a grain of salt.
Sam Mikhail
February 17, 2022 at 8:01 pm
what do you mean by romantic symptoms
Simony Ribeiro
February 17, 2022 at 8:21 pm
I was hoping to know more about assexuality
E A
February 17, 2022 at 8:23 pm
Then explain Polygamy
Siobhan Luikham
February 17, 2022 at 8:33 pm
Too many cuts.
Nick C
February 17, 2022 at 8:54 pm
I’m truly shocked how biased or incomplete many of her answers are. No mention of the theory of the evolution of monogamy during the agricultural revolution c. 12000 years ago. And no mention of polyamory or the research done about it. This is bad journalism.
Shweta ⚛️
February 17, 2022 at 9:00 pm
Dr. Fisher is so amazing and so knowledgeable 😮 I wish to see more of her videos 👏💜 It was so interesting to listen to her ♥️
Avery Brungardt
February 17, 2022 at 9:03 pm
Can we get more of her?
TheInspirefly
February 17, 2022 at 9:16 pm
I really want to hear a conversation around polyamory and aromanticism
nido
February 17, 2022 at 9:34 pm
Very interesting video. Is there any relation between being aromantic and one’s dopamine system?
Alex
February 17, 2022 at 9:46 pm
Video was great. I like how she conveys information. I kinda disagree with the “positive illusions”, feels like that’s a slippery slope with toxic relationships. But I’m sure there’s more nuance to it
Panda On Steroids
February 17, 2022 at 9:49 pm
Really like this woman. I never knew that romance was a need like hunger or thirst. That’s why the romance genre in TV shows or books can never die. I wonder why I sometimes get sick of cliche plots, but I never cease to come back for more, and overtime I just come to terms with the formula of much of the romance genre to the point I don’t mind it at all.
It was a much more primative interest than I thought.
Jeremy Lopez
February 17, 2022 at 10:00 pm
You guys should get doctor mike or a pharmacist for the next one
Anonymoose 123
February 17, 2022 at 10:06 pm
So she doesn’t believe in polyamory/doesn’t think it’s truly possible?
Joseph Christian Cua
February 17, 2022 at 10:10 pm
Can’t wait for part 2. She is cool.
Sarah Maria
February 17, 2022 at 10:20 pm
Okay, I’m 33 seconds into this video and i’m already LOVING it.
John Hammond
February 17, 2022 at 10:30 pm
OMG, I’ve never heard a scientist speak in such absolutes before. It’s a hallmark of a poor scientist, and probably even poorer science. Very disappointed in Wired for putting this out there as though this is absolutely true.
Anna Castro
February 17, 2022 at 11:12 pm
Love can be an addiction? Guess I’ll just add that to the list of addiction so I have to get over 😤😤😤
Gm
February 17, 2022 at 11:30 pm
I want her to study my brain
phan swiftie13
February 17, 2022 at 11:31 pm
I loved this sm! Very interesting and enjoyable!!
We stan gay idols
February 17, 2022 at 11:32 pm
Well, I hate to see polyamory erasure 🙁
Determined✌🏻
February 17, 2022 at 11:41 pm
This video helped with questions about my sexuality, I’m actually really grateful.
Nahdye Ninguém
February 18, 2022 at 12:38 am
6:59
signsofabadger
February 18, 2022 at 12:41 am
Hmmm….this was certainly interesting but the answer on the soul mates question gives me pause. There Are Polyamorous couples! Have there been studies done on polyamorous vs monogamous couples’ attraction to each other? I feel like the soul mates question was more of an opinion. She didn’t cite any research for it as far as I remember, which would have been nice to include.
Jacque Jac
February 18, 2022 at 1:01 am
I feel like the jealousy question was misunderstood. Mate guarding is the drive to hold on to your beau, yes, but the question asks about when you’re jealous OF them. For example; if they were able to back-flip on command or something, & instead of being happy for them that they can do something cool, you’re jealous or envious you can’t. There’s a difference between that kind of jealousy & the kind caught up w/flirting.
I would love a revisit to that question.
ciel michaelis
February 18, 2022 at 1:20 am
I NEED MORE
_x.SoggyCerealLover.x_
February 18, 2022 at 6:00 pm
the way a twt stay has made it into this video cracks me up
Cíntia Martins
February 18, 2022 at 6:40 pm
Loved it! Thank you, Dr. Helen!
VavS
February 18, 2022 at 6:43 pm
She is so graceful and eloquent
HappyTanuki
February 18, 2022 at 7:02 pm
I wish she would have mentioned polyamory or aromantic/asexual people.
Petter
February 18, 2022 at 7:08 pm
Positive illusions. Ah yes. Let’s build on illusions. Can’t go wrong! (uneducated comment, took me less time to write it than to experience or research it, I’m aware of that. However, are we served bite sized knowledge, we the users can respond with bite size reactions. My parenthesis contains more information that my actual comment, and i like it that way. Also, flip cats)
Veronica
February 18, 2022 at 8:26 pm
She was delightful
Ms Hydrus
February 18, 2022 at 8:54 pm
Next one I hope she talks more about lgbtq+ relationships
Natalie F
February 18, 2022 at 9:03 pm
omg i started laughing at “s k z is my universe”
yeahhh stray kids 😀
Magic Shop
February 18, 2022 at 9:07 pm
honestly monogamy is a very western idea, group marriages used to be the norm in so many communities, so I’d say, you can have more than one true soulmate at a time.
rita pena
February 18, 2022 at 9:25 pm
Where can I take that questionnaire? 🤔
nomadine85
February 18, 2022 at 9:27 pm
This is exactly what I need, clear and concise researched scientific answers and facts
nomadine85
February 18, 2022 at 9:29 pm
I don’t have Twitter but my question would be: how does this present itself in people who are aromantic, asexual, polyamorous? What are the variations in the four brain systems mentioned that can be observed?
Manal Tahri
February 18, 2022 at 10:17 pm
I wanna see this woman again!
Joyce Lee
February 18, 2022 at 10:23 pm
Lmao the Chan bias
Martina - youremyfantasy9
February 18, 2022 at 10:46 pm
Me seeing one of my Twitter moots in the questions she answered 😦
Jen J.
February 18, 2022 at 10:48 pm
More of her please! Great video.
Sofi Darty
February 18, 2022 at 11:03 pm
Very interesting !
Níamh
February 18, 2022 at 11:15 pm
Omg where can I find her quiz
ontan
February 18, 2022 at 11:30 pm
i hope this was longeeeer
Kieren Rogers
February 18, 2022 at 11:43 pm
This video was so great!
Lisa McDonald
February 19, 2022 at 12:54 am
That one stay asking a question haha love to see it
Eli Seo
February 19, 2022 at 12:56 am
Where do I find her questionnaire?
Pietr01337
February 19, 2022 at 12:58 am
So well spoken and well edited. Thanks!
Adam V
February 19, 2022 at 6:15 pm
Where can we take this test she has?
Makayla Thrasher
February 19, 2022 at 6:57 pm
Kinda surprised nothing about polyamory was mentioned, but I guess her emphasizing her views on only having one soul mate at a time answered that
Tommy Putney
February 19, 2022 at 7:18 pm
This was by far the most interesting WIRED tech support video I have watched she’s awesome
T R
February 19, 2022 at 7:34 pm
Seems pretty monogamy-biased.
IPurpleU
February 20, 2022 at 1:08 am
Science-based and speaking on the general side of things.
Nurul Syahirah
February 19, 2022 at 9:00 pm
Completely unrelated but the way she speaks reminds me of John McLean 😭 (beauty youtuber). And one of the tweets I spotted a STAY
Jorge Rodríguez
February 19, 2022 at 9:17 pm
Wait, there are people who get 9 different dates????
Andrea Deleon
February 19, 2022 at 9:35 pm
I really liked this woman!! She explained everything so clearly and concisely. Thanks for making this episode!!
Raquel Denning
February 19, 2022 at 9:39 pm
Part 2 please!
adolys
February 19, 2022 at 9:42 pm
would love if they had a second video about polyamory and aromantics / asexuals!
Yass 10
February 19, 2022 at 9:46 pm
I know she mentioned about time, but I’d be more curious on advice on how people who have been rejected in love can get over it? Or be truly out there again and stop this “suffering” cycle? I mean mentally not just going out on dates and waiting for time to pass, but actually feeling you are ready.
Hannah Bradshaw
February 19, 2022 at 9:57 pm
I got an ad for Bumble while watching this 👀😂
flyingpianos123
February 19, 2022 at 10:02 pm
very informative
ƧΛƬΛП ΛƧƧ
February 19, 2022 at 10:16 pm
You should scan the brains of polyamorous people
Andi
February 19, 2022 at 10:34 pm
“Think of reasons to say yes”
Gonna take that advice
missmaresh
February 19, 2022 at 11:12 pm
she’s so great!! would love her take on aromanticism and asexuality!!!
Dhika Hai
February 19, 2022 at 11:54 pm
We want more..
We want more..
We want more..
We want more..
We want more..
Andrea Alvarez Arcila
February 20, 2022 at 12:08 am
I can’t believe there were no questions on aromanticism. A tragedy.
Andrea Alvarez Arcila
February 20, 2022 at 12:11 am
Does anyone know what Giotto’s painting was she talking about?
Youtube Northish
February 20, 2022 at 12:24 am
Is her right nostril more pronounced than her left? I have a buddy that thinks less of me and would call me ‘last ditch” to discuss the world. I would talk him off his ledge. We are all more certainly seeking; yet art. Strong love, is strong family.
Ardid Sonriente
February 20, 2022 at 12:43 am
Direct and simple, yet beautifully spoken, unsweetened and dry yet full of compassion, ripe of useful, insightful information, no propaganda, no clichés, no miracles. Just honest opinion based on scientifically sound investigation and observation. What a brilliant expert, what a gem of interview!
RH22
February 20, 2022 at 1:20 am
She just made cheaters feel a lot better about themselves 😂
nicole
February 20, 2022 at 1:22 am
the stay at 2:50 😭😭 def aint ever getting a significant other LMFAOOO
sailesh ram
February 20, 2022 at 1:25 am
I think 1300 years of consolidated understanding of love upto 21st century is condensed and communicated by her in these 13 minutes and 21 seconds.
Brilliant! And Thank you!
dumpling
February 20, 2022 at 9:36 pm
How do you know your in love?
Noemi
February 20, 2022 at 9:52 pm
Can anyone direct me to the painting by Giotto she is talking about? I can’t seem to find it
bles_sing
February 20, 2022 at 10:00 pm
my take away after watching this: so i guesss my dopamine already expired then…😂😗😂
ay noass
February 20, 2022 at 10:00 pm
What about polygamy. Why is it normalized to have multiple platonic relationships but only one romantic
MrMoustacheNinja
February 20, 2022 at 10:12 pm
This was fascinating
Hannah Hazri
February 20, 2022 at 10:13 pm
Hope there is part 2. Very insightful! Feels like I understand myself better after reflections
wildflower
February 20, 2022 at 10:19 pm
If I had more than 1 or 2 choices I’d be a permanent nun. 😂 9 choices is way too much. How do people do that? Not being satisfied with like 60-80% of what they wanted in a mate? They need that 120% higher standards than them nonexistent person?
wildflower
February 20, 2022 at 10:31 pm
The socioeconomic, ethnic and educational background being similar is more important than people realize
wildflower
February 20, 2022 at 10:40 pm
I wonder if people with trauma go backwards with the attachment, romance, physical attraction phases. Or people that call themselves demisexual.
Drew Everett
February 20, 2022 at 10:44 pm
STRAY KIDS EVERYWHERE ALL AROUND THE WORLD
Tja Pech
February 20, 2022 at 10:52 pm
BRING HER BACK
Alright
February 20, 2022 at 11:13 pm
❤
Letícia B.
February 20, 2022 at 11:26 pm
We need part 2!!!
Susan K
February 20, 2022 at 11:49 pm
SHE was awesome!!!
maggie may
February 21, 2022 at 12:32 am
What did she mean by playing?
maxivides
February 21, 2022 at 12:46 am
I would have loved to hear her opinion about the so called blue, red, and black pill (something that is relatively recent).
J P
February 21, 2022 at 12:47 am
I love how optimistic she is! Makes me hopeful about love
Ajie
February 21, 2022 at 12:52 am
She’s so incredible ❤️
chrisksamuel
February 21, 2022 at 1:02 am
I only listen to like 10 seconds of your of your contact and I would like subscribe and like this is like amazing thank you
christine shah
February 21, 2022 at 1:06 am
I am so glad I met my husband when I was 15. We broke up 3 times (ah…young love is so stupid and impulsive) but no one could compete with whatever happened in our brains when we were together. I guess our romantic love was instant, but it was so confusing. We have been happily married for 22 years now. He is my favorite person. I am grateful I no longer have to pine after him. It sucked. 😉
magpie
February 21, 2022 at 1:07 am
Dr. Fisher is a wonderful speaker and this was amazingly informative. Thanks for this video!
Myles Prospero
February 21, 2022 at 1:08 am
I am so lucky to come across this video. I am so lucky to be in this generation, we are so informed and its getting more fun and engaging than before. This is so helpful, I’m indebt, thank you Dr. Helen Fisher.
Talitha Suya
February 21, 2022 at 1:11 am
Re cheating, I think there’s a discussion to be had on what constitutes love. A scientist may chalk it up to certain biological and physiological factors, but I think other’s may say that it’s not real love if it’s not accompanied by self-control, self-sacrifice, and self-discipline. If you have a strong chemical pull toward me but choose to indulge all your other chemical pulls even when it devastates me? You may describe yourself as being in love with me. I don’t. We’ll have to agree to disagree.
Kaitlin Solanum Tuberosum
February 21, 2022 at 1:11 am
Lol I did not expect this to be so romantic
Michael Valadez
February 21, 2022 at 1:26 am
Your advice is well said.Reality bites.At the age of 68 I don’t forsee the arrow coming at my heart.Love is for the young at heart..so be it.Romance is different than Love..reality.bites.
SexyPornStar
February 21, 2022 at 7:39 pm
What about those in polyamory relationships? Is that not love?
Bram van Zelst
February 21, 2022 at 7:40 pm
this woman is amazing
stay 4 skz ❣
February 21, 2022 at 7:43 pm
SKZ IS MY UNIVERSE TOOO STAYS I SUMMON YOU
Pssh hhh
February 21, 2022 at 7:45 pm
why does love sound so painful
Aymara
February 21, 2022 at 7:45 pm
Man… I never meat guys that Interest me, but once in a while I spot one and yesterday I caught one in the corner of my eye, he stopped and asked about my dog. I we talked for a minute, then we kept walking and I’ll never see him again 🤪
Afterwards I came up with a thousand different things I could’ve said to keep the conversation doing. oh well…. Maybe next decade.
Michelle Heegaard
February 21, 2022 at 7:49 pm
Constructive feedback: this was heavily biased towards the monogamous romantic relationship style. Would be really nice to see future vids being more inclusive to alternative forms of romantic relationships. E.g. talking about compersion in romantic relationships could be an good topic
Life OnTheMark
February 21, 2022 at 8:08 pm
Where do you submit questions?
Anna M
February 21, 2022 at 8:22 pm
Sry but equating testosterone with being good at math and logic and computers is not only false, but highly problematic. It is the reason why women got pushed out of these kinds of roles, it causes the divide we see in gender stereotyped jobs and roles in society. Meanwhile women were the first computers, doing calculations and programming the first computers, and all of that was considered a woman’s job back in the day.
Tony Koford
February 21, 2022 at 9:00 pm
She really took Kabir Das’s poetry out of context. He was talking about devotion to God, and “there’s room for only one” refers to the annihilation of the Self in the presence of the Beloved. It has nothing to do with monogamy.
Also like others said, the lack of comment about the existence of aromantic people and polyamory was sort of annoying, but not surprising. She seemed most interested in talking about her research, which was very interesting!
Despite these quibbles I liked a lot of what she had to say!
jeremiah izakaya
February 21, 2022 at 9:04 pm
Can a person be out of love Dr?
HotPinkNew98
February 21, 2022 at 9:11 pm
Just here for cool love science and one of the comments is a Stay omg I can’t escape kpop 😂
The Light Within
February 21, 2022 at 9:38 pm
I rather be alone the be with a man who loves me yet fucks a bunch of woman giving me stds making me stink because of my ph going all off because of shared fluids.
mangadude
February 21, 2022 at 10:53 pm
Same 😂😂
The Light Within
February 21, 2022 at 9:42 pm
And dates on line are used for getting laid 😆😆 Rarely does anyone go on POF trying to find a real date 🙄 She knows nothing about the creeps on line
Lokas
February 21, 2022 at 11:01 pm
I love her straightforwardness…
Allison
February 21, 2022 at 11:03 pm
I’ve constantly felt like I treat love as an addiction. I’m literally addicted to it. Great to hear her validate my thoughts! And also prove that it’s not necessarily curable, rather manageable
portalomus
February 21, 2022 at 11:19 pm
Wow this video was really good! Thank you!
Isabela Oliveira
February 21, 2022 at 11:26 pm
Possibly my favorite so far!
l3rnerzaws1m
February 21, 2022 at 11:28 pm
please do a depression video
Irrelevance
February 21, 2022 at 11:42 pm
Great video. So interesting and straightforward. I never knew how fascinating this topic was until now
mia
February 21, 2022 at 11:52 pm
more videos with her please!! she’s a joy to listen to
kayizcray
February 22, 2022 at 12:05 am
I second the comment that I would love to hear her discussing poly and aro/ace topics!
sanasmilki
February 22, 2022 at 12:28 am
They summoned a fandom 2:50
Beth Rivera
February 22, 2022 at 12:58 am
What about someone who doesn’t like anyone romantically? Everyone is loved platonically by said person.
Emily Gomez
February 22, 2022 at 12:59 am
LOL skzismyuniverse with the Chan pop
Julesclues
February 22, 2022 at 1:26 am
She’s so nice and fun to listen to
geewithlove
February 22, 2022 at 6:37 pm
skz is my universe? WE LOVE A STRAY KIDS STAN
paulisnatis
February 22, 2022 at 7:10 pm
really curious on the 4 brain systems she mentions. does she have a book on this someone has read and can recommend?
Meher Baba is God in human form
February 22, 2022 at 7:26 pm
👍👍👌👌🙌🙌
Tenarutomi
February 22, 2022 at 8:10 pm
As an aro person I did not feel represented. According to her, “we” are all made to fall in love because of primal instincts to mate or whatever, so is she saying something is wrong with my brain because I don’t have this instinct? And what about poly people? She’s only talking about monogamy, how being in love means “we” are going crazy about one other person(which sounds insane and dangerous btw) and “we” can only have one soulmate at a time. Now, I don’t know if poly people even use the term soulmate because it’s such a monogamous idea, but saying you can’t have super strong feelings for more than one person at a time, sounds like invalidating poly relationships to me. If there’s a follow up video, I’d like to hear her take on both of these things.
Lily Blue
February 22, 2022 at 8:10 pm
When she said skz is my universe I was like why does the name sound so familiar and realised it was a stay’s account 😂❤️❤️❤️
Tiffany Bee
February 22, 2022 at 8:11 pm
Thoroughly enjoyed this video!!
Young Mule
February 22, 2022 at 8:16 pm
Anyone know what Giotto painting she was referring to?
fatima gattwinkel
February 22, 2022 at 8:19 pm
I WANT MORE
Kushagra Gupta
February 22, 2022 at 8:27 pm
You know people like these in this series, the “support people”, make me so interested in these sciences until I study them.😂🤧😂
isabel antolin
February 22, 2022 at 9:07 pm
I’ve been watching this woman videos for a long time and they are very enjoyable and informative
Florijn Willemsen
February 22, 2022 at 9:18 pm
I’d love to see your take on love with ADHD, because the dopamine system is different with people with adhd,. I think it’s either at 0 or 100, with love but also hyperfixations in general.
aureusyarara
February 22, 2022 at 9:28 pm
As an Aro, I cannot relate at all, but I find this both fascinating and extremely useful for understanding my fellow humans
Armita
February 22, 2022 at 9:43 pm
She comforted more than anybody else out there like wow i teared up
Matschen
February 22, 2022 at 9:53 pm
Would love to know what she thinks about aromantic people.
Ivy
February 22, 2022 at 9:53 pm
Not sure why I’m watching this as an aromantic person but uhh here I am
Commenter339
February 22, 2022 at 10:56 pm
I think a soulmate is someone with whom you have a deep intimate connection, and who is somewhat similar to yourself – who understands your thinking patterns, maybe has similar interests, and whose thinking patterns and thought process you understand very well. And I do think that you can have more than one person like this – a friend who understands you very well, and who just “gets” you on another level, and you feel like you “get” them. I’ve felt that with multiple people.
mary kay
February 22, 2022 at 10:57 pm
She’s great!! Love the way she presented information so clear & concise
tenelikus
February 22, 2022 at 10:59 pm
Stray kids Twitter user I had to rewind I thought it was
Carlos
February 22, 2022 at 11:00 pm
Yeah science
Carlos
February 22, 2022 at 11:03 pm
Is limerence a scientific term or is it just another way of thinking of romantic attraction?
Alyssa Rosexoxo
February 22, 2022 at 11:07 pm
Wow, I’m mind blown that love can be an addiction. That is so interesting! And something that I hadn’t thought of.
Melody Mey
February 22, 2022 at 11:19 pm
I loved this so much omg
Alexa Rodríguez
February 22, 2022 at 11:22 pm
I’d love to hear a conversation between her and Esther Perel
Vivienne Yip
February 23, 2022 at 12:50 am
Thank you Wired for such great content – Dr Helen Fisher is incredibly knowledgable, engaging and fascinating!
90sNino
February 23, 2022 at 1:01 am
A whole scientist is calling out millions of people and they still going to act a fool 🤣
C
February 23, 2022 at 7:55 pm
Great interview. But I think she misinterpreted the second to last question. I think the person was talking about being jealous of their partner as in being jealous of their talents or accomplishments.
Nicol
February 23, 2022 at 8:00 pm
oh my god I stumbled upon this randomly but how I wish there would be a spotify podcast!
LUCREZIA PAOLI
February 23, 2022 at 8:15 pm
Skz is my universe lmfao
Hayd Finley
February 23, 2022 at 8:29 pm
All I can think of is SKZis my universe lmao
hayami💜
February 23, 2022 at 9:41 pm
STRAYKIDS IS MY UNIVERSE TOO LMAO
Julia Giles
February 23, 2022 at 9:41 pm
Well I dont know, sometimes I feel obsessed with friends but I get over that pretty quickly, and I wouldnt say its romantic love
zoe jane garcia
February 23, 2022 at 9:49 pm
The fact that she confirmed u can truly love someone and still cheat makes me know im 1000% sure I do not want to be in a relationship ever again.
Charlie Prowse
February 23, 2022 at 9:49 pm
How does this apply to people who are autistic. Like myself
SloggieBear
February 23, 2022 at 9:57 pm
Why are there so many cuts in this?! Really sus editing.
Wouldn’t you like to know
February 23, 2022 at 10:06 pm
I think it could be super interesting to hear about how these brain activities are different (I’m assuming here) for aromantic people
Wouldn’t you like to know
February 23, 2022 at 10:07 pm
maybe also asexuals
Sally Kaptan
February 23, 2022 at 10:21 pm
Thank you for this video. I had no idea there are some major scientific studies on these particular topics
maytrixed
February 23, 2022 at 10:28 pm
she’s 76 y’all HOWWWW
Hyleen Pognaire
February 23, 2022 at 10:42 pm
10:17 , yo great question
Curly Cat
February 23, 2022 at 10:43 pm
bypassing all conversations about asexual people, aromantic people and polyamorous people and ignoring the perspective of non-binary people (only using he/her to describe ppl whose brains they studied). a heap of amatonormativity. bunch of dodgy explanations. they didn’t understand the question about jealousy at the end… it’s jealous OF your partner luv. jegoasă treaba…
Sofía Ronquillo
February 23, 2022 at 11:07 pm
More of this please
elyana
February 23, 2022 at 11:50 pm
Helene Fischer, is this u?
secret society
February 24, 2022 at 12:08 am
i love this woman
Chi Chkoun
February 24, 2022 at 12:17 am
Me a STAY watching this being dead serious and then skz is my world popps up and i CHOKE ON MY BREATH
4192_.VICTORR ON INSTAGRAM
February 24, 2022 at 12:37 am
☝☝☝do you know you can seat at your comfort zone and monitor your partner activities remotely in your phone
If you are interested in that the name above call help you to archive that, he’s so professional 👌 in hacking service .
Sidra Kamal
February 24, 2022 at 12:37 am
Takeaway: serotonin vs dopamine wiring, positive illlusions focus on what you like about someone than what you dont
4192_.VICTORR ON INSTAGRAM
February 24, 2022 at 12:37 am
☝☝☝do you know you can seat at your comfort zone and monitor your partner activities remotely in your phone
If you are interested in that the name above call help you to archive that, he’s so professional 👌 in hacking service ..
Amina Wasif
February 24, 2022 at 12:46 am
Great video! Absolutely love the way she explains things. I hope there is a part two!
Emma Kroon
February 24, 2022 at 12:49 am
She sounds like a sociologist in stead of an anthropologist…
Skops Faison
February 24, 2022 at 7:48 pm
fun fact, aromantic people do exist. just a reminder
Julia Siobhan
February 24, 2022 at 7:58 pm
What about poly relationships?
P P
February 24, 2022 at 8:02 pm
At 2:46 “skzismyuniverse” is a stay account 😂😂😂😂😂
Azl J
February 24, 2022 at 8:17 pm
This is too much for an aro
Rodjah Christie Maddy
February 24, 2022 at 8:41 pm
The amount of amatonormativity(…) But well,ig i still have a lot to learn
Julian Kinne
February 24, 2022 at 8:45 pm
Fascinating and wonderfully informative video!
Lala☀️
February 24, 2022 at 8:51 pm
Me, confused arospec seeing the thumbnail: now THAT is a great question
J Denavardez
February 24, 2022 at 9:03 pm
What do you think of Jesus’s view on love? Especially when it come to Corinthians 13?
TheBrownSnicker
February 24, 2022 at 9:11 pm
CAN WE BRING HER BACK I LOVED THIS
Boutin
February 24, 2022 at 9:38 pm
Why does she talk like trump it’s so slight but so similar
Lindura
February 24, 2022 at 9:45 pm
I fell deep in love with somebody and got rejected like two weeks ago, I was devastated. Now im starting to get through it and this video helped me a lot. Love can make you see yourself like a stranger, like you dont know yourself anymore and thats scary, this video made me understand better how that works. Thank you
Ena me
February 24, 2022 at 9:47 pm
I very much enjoyed this video. I love the connection between emotions (which especially in love may seem irrational) and biology. When she said to focus on the good and blend out the rest I was shocked tho. I understand that she probably means for that to happen within healthy boundaries but the behavior of that just reminded me a lot of how I’d gotten myself into toxic relationships in the past. I think you should rationally see all sides of a person and turn inwards to know what of that you can tolerate and what not. Nobody is perfect but also don’t just ignore red flags.
alondra cortez
February 24, 2022 at 10:01 pm
the skz stan😭
Thea Shire
February 24, 2022 at 10:03 pm
“Romantic love enables you to focus your mating energy on just one individual at a time.” You can only have one “soulmate” at a time?
This is just plain FALSE. This is oldfashioned thinking and has no actual base in reality. I thought maybe I was mistaken and this video came out 10 years ago, not 10 days ago.
Many people can and DO have romantic love for multiple people simultaneously. Romantic Love is not a finite resource that can only be experienced in one way. Or are you saying polyamorous people are mistaken (or lying) about their own experiences of romantic love?
I challenge you to put a bunch of polyamorous people into your brain scanners and watch their brains all light up when shown photos of each of their partners in the exact same ways as all of your monogamous participants. If I am wrong I will give up my license as a therapist who specializes in working with this population. I am disappointed that someone who is an “expert” in a field could so flippantly make such claims that are clearly bias and not actually based on any true science.
*Edited: put quotes around word “expert”
Citlaly Lopez
February 24, 2022 at 10:20 pm
not the stay account asking about dating apps 💀
cg
February 24, 2022 at 10:41 pm
lmao yesjsudjjd 😭💀💀
30,004
February 24, 2022 at 10:31 pm
I miss love. My social sphere is small and stagnant these days and I hate texting so i don’t have anyone around to fall in love with. How boring
Marina Valentim
February 24, 2022 at 10:49 pm
Although I have a bad feeling about it, I would like to hear her thoughts about aromanticism and asexuality
Witch
February 24, 2022 at 11:01 pm
im really curious if she’s studied polyamory and what she’d say about that
Eden Hatrley
February 24, 2022 at 11:10 pm
What if everything becomes special about everyone even in platonic relationships. What would that mean for how my brain is wired
D4NC3Rable
February 24, 2022 at 11:35 pm
She didn’t understand that question abt being in love & jealous of them. They meant how can you be in love and jealous of that PERSON, not of other ppl interested in them I’m pretty sure. I know cause I’ve also asked myself the question lol.
Claire Morgan
February 24, 2022 at 11:46 pm
Who created love? Well no one, but God is love and we are made in His image. Also, romantic love isn’t “love” in the truest sense of the word.
SubscriptionUnboxing
February 24, 2022 at 11:53 pm
I thought the jealously question meant that the person who is in love is also jealous of their partner (e.g., their jealous that their partner is making more money than them), not necessarily jealous or worried about someone stealing them (i.e., mate guarding)?
JMB
February 25, 2022 at 12:28 am
Monogamy is a social historic construct and it truly makes no sense.
Jaylinn Herrera
February 25, 2022 at 12:35 am
Invite her back for a part 2? Amazing speaker 🤍
Ryan David
February 25, 2022 at 12:58 am
Whatever books she’s selling I’m buying them.
cookie killer
February 25, 2022 at 5:41 pm
what do u mean by play? like uno or?
Jo
February 25, 2022 at 6:34 pm
12:25
I wish people at wired clarified the question for her because the question was about feeling envy of your partner, not being jealous of people that talk to them, being in love with someone yet wanting to be them.
@pirs
February 25, 2022 at 6:56 pm
She was great!
Dynasty
February 25, 2022 at 7:19 pm
I wan’t to get my brain scanned now.
• fruityn
February 25, 2022 at 7:37 pm
wow “skzismyuniverse”!!! I see you STAY!!
Orfeas Siozos
February 25, 2022 at 7:37 pm
It seems that she and her team have done all kinds of research and developed modern terminology about the science of love and I absolutely loved that
Mariya Contracter
February 25, 2022 at 8:12 pm
Brilliant
Tabitha Christian
February 25, 2022 at 8:30 pm
I think I missed it – when she mentions the high estrogen 6:15 mark all those traits of personality. Did she also mention if your drawn to your opposite or people like yourself?
Delfi Soli
February 25, 2022 at 8:32 pm
Why does she sound like Andrew garfield
Zee NOYB
February 25, 2022 at 8:55 pm
This was so good, especially the thing about dopamine cos that rlly stuck w me
Sakshi Bist
February 25, 2022 at 9:03 pm
I liked she skipped the abuse portions of the questions.
Malik Tyler
February 25, 2022 at 10:04 pm
I like her a lot but she say the world “million” like a republican senator.
Cris Hdez
February 25, 2022 at 10:04 pm
she’s honestly a great communicator!! this was really engaging
Thank you Dr. Fisher!
kezroot
February 25, 2022 at 10:40 pm
as an aromantic i feel like its so common to be obsessed with someone in a platonic way though??? for example i can be obsessed with my best friend but not seek a romantic relationship with them. i feel like that could be the only way you’d be able to know right? if it’s romantic, you want to be in a intimate relationship with them or form a romantic bond; if it’s platonic, you’re attracted to them but not to the point of sacrificing your boundaries .. ig?
Cool Shah
February 25, 2022 at 10:51 pm
As a biologist, she shouldn’t place one type of love on a pedestal as the “scans” of the people are also driven by what culture dictates them: which relationship is more valuable to them compared to others. The soulmate part was utterly laughable. Still, interesting observations, albeit a lot of this has been brought down to the ground as being anything but special by other scientists.
Hairy aerie
February 25, 2022 at 11:24 pm
She definitely does not agree with polyamory LOL
Avery Place
February 25, 2022 at 11:27 pm
nonono noooooo love at first sight is not real
Artaxerxes :
February 25, 2022 at 11:54 pm
The comment section is filled with idiot miserable females craving for love hehe
Quinn Gutman
February 26, 2022 at 12:09 am
So you do believe one can have a soulmate, just not more than one. What about people who are polyamorous?
What about thrupples? Quads? These are not open relationships (a couple who sees other people), these are relationships made up of 3 or more people where everyone is equally in love with all the people involved.
What about one person who is in two separate romantic relationships. This person is in love equally with both their partners even though they’re separate relationships.
These are relationship types that me and many people in my life have experienced and/or are currently experiencing.
ASHERUISE
February 26, 2022 at 12:18 am
True love at first sight requirements:
Very beautiful
Big eyes 👀
Very tiny and little
Is a cat 🐈
Mattie
February 26, 2022 at 12:19 am
I would love to see her address polyamory and polyam relationships
Adamina Carden
February 26, 2022 at 12:30 am
I enjoyed this, except for maybe the erasure of polyamourous people. I am sure there are some people out there who can have multiple soulmates at one time.
Anna Dang
February 26, 2022 at 12:47 am
“skzismyuniverse”… STAY confirmed haha! 🙂
체스카
February 26, 2022 at 1:13 am
more please!!
Mutiara Y
February 26, 2022 at 7:12 pm
She’s so smart….easy to understanding….
Aline
February 26, 2022 at 7:21 pm
So what I feel for Lee Taeyong is real love? F*ck-
Benno Nelson
February 26, 2022 at 7:26 pm
Fascinating, utterly and totally fascinating.
Thal Nik
February 26, 2022 at 7:32 pm
that was by far one of the greatest videos on the internet
louisa 7001
February 26, 2022 at 7:37 pm
2:48 Not the skzismyuniverse. Stray kids are everywhere
Sai Godbole
February 26, 2022 at 7:47 pm
oh she’s so wonderful !
Journey Girl
February 26, 2022 at 7:47 pm
A man stopped me at a CVS and tried to convince me that I was wrong for wanting to fall in love later in life, 40-50 years old. I thought it was strange that he claimed he’s the “type to marry”, but winced at the idea of me wanting love at 50. Isn’t marriage for “life”, to a romantic person? I will be 50 eventually if he’s married to me long enough. Lol unless he only planned to use up my 20s, 30s, and 40s and toss me out on my 50th birthday…Yeah, this is why I’m willing to wait forever until I find someone who is serious about growing old with a woman. Or if I don’t meet someone who is serious then I’ll be glad to have my friends regardless.
Elisa M
February 26, 2022 at 7:48 pm
HOW DO YOU KNOW WHEN YOURE READY TO FALL IN LOVE?
a2b
February 26, 2022 at 7:51 pm
She’s so great!!
That's my cup of tea
February 26, 2022 at 9:01 pm
Wow, Dr. Fisher is really an eloquent person and imparted so much valuable information. I hope to see her again on WIRED!
Omar Reda
February 26, 2022 at 9:04 pm
مش فاهم جايبة الثقة في كلامك دي منين؟!
Known Phoenix
February 26, 2022 at 9:15 pm
Thank you Dr. Helen Fisher :)!
Sueda Karadeniz
February 26, 2022 at 9:51 pm
Okay so if romantic love is associated with dopamine does that mean people with low dopamine levels can’t feel romantic love as intensely as others? Like people with parkinsons, or adhd.
Itsme
February 26, 2022 at 9:55 pm
I will love to see her answer about asexuality
MeeRa
February 26, 2022 at 10:00 pm
She just explained everything so beautifully. I want her to many more such
TrueBliss Consciousness
February 26, 2022 at 10:10 pm
I’m only 2 minutes in and I wanna hug you. These are the answers I need in my life.
Alexis Jaeggy
February 26, 2022 at 11:14 pm
Is this woman Cupid?
Abigail White
February 26, 2022 at 11:28 pm
Most of this is bad advice. You’d be better off just reading your Bible for advice on real love…
Pam S
February 26, 2022 at 11:32 pm
Hahah the stay that wonders why she cant fall in love while her handle is love channie
Charlie Wang
February 26, 2022 at 11:51 pm
Can you do an episode with Andrew Huberman, this is so fascinating.
Anonym Daim
February 26, 2022 at 11:52 pm
GAWD HOW DO I OKAY WITH SOMEBODY??? help me guys
Sittie Hijara Sinsay
February 26, 2022 at 11:57 pm
Das Kuch
February 27, 2022 at 12:35 am
Very cool info
Moarmy EngeneZenith
February 27, 2022 at 1:02 am
How do I take the test she’s talking about 😭
Nikki Tikki Tavi
February 27, 2022 at 1:13 am
i can’t believe wired got THE dr. helen fisher to speak on here.
Ah Lee Nah
February 27, 2022 at 5:18 pm
While watching this video realizing I am and have always been only platonically attracted to my boyfriend of 5 months-
Mr. Mo
February 27, 2022 at 5:27 pm
Bring her back, I want to hear her speaking more words.
anonymouskrys
February 27, 2022 at 5:57 pm
I love this women she’s very good at teaching and being interesting
Brenna Williams
February 27, 2022 at 6:02 pm
so good! love her!
Salsabil Bahry
February 27, 2022 at 6:16 pm
when i heard skz is my universe i choked on my food
SpaceIsBig
February 27, 2022 at 6:24 pm
She keeps referring to obsessive thinking in love and I am so relieved to hear it. I always have thought there was something wrong, or weird, with me whenever I would have them constantly in my head. It’s normal!
Eevee Bros Studios
February 27, 2022 at 6:31 pm
Me waiting for the studies to be shown and explained
Aero Thanatos
February 27, 2022 at 6:40 pm
We need a second episode with this woman!
full time clown for straykids
February 27, 2022 at 6:41 pm
OKAY BUT DID ANYONE NOTICE THE STRAYKIDS FAN PROFILE??
c
February 27, 2022 at 6:50 pm
LMFAOO NOT THE STAY @skzismyuniverse
Fiona Wolfe
February 27, 2022 at 6:58 pm
Is it possible to not have a love map at all? Would not having a love map result in never finding love?
Sara Cross
February 27, 2022 at 7:12 pm
Wow she was great. Made me feel more optimistic and understanding abt love
Vanderbloom
February 27, 2022 at 7:44 pm
im so glad that being obsessed when in love isnt weird
kev pat guiriot
February 27, 2022 at 7:50 pm
B y g a h s b I c c t t
AMir
February 27, 2022 at 8:00 pm
Okay I call it crap. First, “love at first sight” perpetuates the idea of “mystical chemistry” which predators love to use to hook in their victims. Think narcissists and psychopaths. That abuse is real. And you can cheat while being in love? Well, congratulations on giving thousands of adulterers a ‘biological and anthropological’ excuse.
Anthropology – a study of human behaviour. Just because human beings behave in unfortunately immoral ways, doesn’t mean it’s excusable!!
And soulmates? Okay ehm let’s not go there.
Online dating lowers the chances of divorce? Interesting! Didn’t know that!
Play and Stay 🙂
All in all, enjoyable video.
DIVYA DIARY
February 27, 2022 at 8:46 pm
Wow
DIVYA DIARY
February 27, 2022 at 8:49 pm
Love.
They pine for love. They live for love. They kill for love. They die for love.
Love.
Acaciamuhs
February 27, 2022 at 8:57 pm
I kind of felt like the last question was like how can you be jealous of you partner ( money they make) and be in love. Because obviously you’ll get jealous over a lover so I felt that question had a different meaning. Thanks for the video!
Grace Mena
February 27, 2022 at 9:03 pm
this video called me out holy crap
Berkes Berkelaar
February 27, 2022 at 9:20 pm
My longtime girlfriend died in a car crash in my arms. How can I help make the pain go away? I was also injured in the crash no neither of us were driving.
Usuario
February 27, 2022 at 10:23 pm
I’ve been rejected recently and I’ve been told that it’s like going through a phase of being an addict and now you are in abstinence. Funny, I thought I’d become an addict of weed or something similar, not love. Love the video btw, super informative.
Cassandre
February 27, 2022 at 10:26 pm
hahahaaa skz is my universe
whoever did that ❣️
Alicia
February 27, 2022 at 11:30 pm
A Stay made an appearance in one of these! love that
TheSavannahSavanity
February 28, 2022 at 12:43 am
As a polyamorous person, I’d like to go back to that whole part about not having more than 1 soulmate at once. I thing that needs to be studied more. I’d like to hear her take on polyamorous relationships.
The Wokeabout
February 28, 2022 at 1:00 am
Positive illusions sound like a terrifying path
Qincy G.
March 1, 2022 at 2:14 pm
I love how she takes her time and doesn’t seem like she’s rushing any of the answers. It’s also poetic HOW she answers them. Sill very much disagree with the cheating and still being in love thing though. It’ll never make sense.
sarvani bayyireddy
March 1, 2022 at 2:15 pm
‘Skzismyuniverse’ stray kids every where all around the world 😂
michael lee
March 1, 2022 at 2:38 pm
But on tinder we have the illusion of limitedless options so we choose nobody?
AuliaSekar
March 1, 2022 at 2:49 pm
I like how there’s also science behind love and she really doin great job explaining it
janelle pacao
March 1, 2022 at 3:11 pm
2:50 sis you’re a kpop fan, it’ll be hard to fall in love 😭 /hj
Laís Gomes
March 1, 2022 at 4:18 pm
I need a part 2
Renanda Gitaannisa
March 1, 2022 at 5:09 pm
I would like to watch and hear more videos of her :)!
Starry sky
March 1, 2022 at 5:52 pm
sorry i laughed at “this person is skzismyuniverse”
hello fellow stay! and we even have the same bias lmao
dont_disturb
March 1, 2022 at 5:57 pm
If she was my mom…..if only–
dont_disturb
March 1, 2022 at 5:58 pm
4:10 why did i think of akito and shigure ?
Gadis Azalia Tiara Kasih
March 1, 2022 at 6:13 pm
i was going to proscratinate reading some sources for biological anthropology class tomorrow BUT hearing you explaining things in such an eloquent and easy to understand manner made me more excited for my class tomorrow <3
fariha Khalil
March 1, 2022 at 6:28 pm
skz is my universe . That got me bad 😂😂😂
QUIXOTICALLY LIVING
March 1, 2022 at 6:55 pm
Crazy to me that there’s a video explaining how to realize if you’re sexually attracted to someone. Lmao please take me off this ghetto planet.
Alura328
March 1, 2022 at 7:28 pm
Id love to see her answer questions regarding narcissists love, and trauma bonding vs love, ect,
Efi
March 1, 2022 at 7:34 pm
I need a whole series on this topic because I truly can’t understand love
ava
March 1, 2022 at 9:44 pm
Love vs infatuation /butterflies/obsession – key distinction left out
im2kewl4u
March 1, 2022 at 11:07 pm
This video was very interesting! Most of these facts blew my mind. I had no idea there was much more to love than we think.
Niamh O'Connor
March 1, 2022 at 11:17 pm
This is amazing
Alex Martin
March 1, 2022 at 11:42 pm
nah I need a part 2 ASAP 😂😂
zando
March 2, 2022 at 12:00 am
mental note taken – hearing someone who knows their stuff AND can explain/summarize it to laypeople so well is such a breath of fresh air! i wish i could have a panel of experts about everything in my ear all the time!
Nina Hueller
March 2, 2022 at 12:02 am
This was surprisingly interesting
Macaroni Head
March 2, 2022 at 12:07 am
haha i love her humour
halfmoons
March 2, 2022 at 1:16 am
the skz stan cameo 😭😭
Nabbinside
March 7, 2022 at 5:13 am
9:20 never confuse soulmates with TWIN FLAME.
Fellow Nerdシ
March 7, 2022 at 5:28 am
I think having your job being studying love would be quite a nice job
Edgardo Moratalla
March 7, 2022 at 11:23 am
Interesting
Kaitlyn Ted🧸
March 7, 2022 at 2:10 pm
Hold on they need her to give detail explanation about the show EUPHORIA 😭✋
Pavaluca Matei
March 7, 2022 at 5:29 pm
This lady is too cool
galactic superwind
March 7, 2022 at 8:08 pm
The random stay hahahaha
Damien Labrador
March 7, 2022 at 8:28 pm
lol you people are gunna die forever
Whakaiti Andrews
March 7, 2022 at 8:28 pm
Cassie needs to watch this
Nezryn Samuelson
March 7, 2022 at 9:46 pm
Okay, but what about polyamory??????
Creep-@-Bear
March 8, 2022 at 1:28 am
Me just watching this video : 🙂
*me realizing I never loved my girlfriend and that it really is just platonic attraction* : :’0
trip tripp
March 8, 2022 at 1:45 am
I think one of the ways that people stay in love for longs periods of time, is by “re-falling” in love with the same person over and over again. And sometimes it the only way, bc people change over the years, personality changes, and so it is kinda like falling in love again but now with a slightly different person. Don’t forget that you are also changing too, so you are going to experience love and seek love differently.
Izzy Gaitan
March 8, 2022 at 6:47 am
I could listen to her talk all day
chacalou
March 8, 2022 at 12:10 pm
For me, a soulmate is someone you immediatly click with and it lasts. Whatever you do, wherever you go, you don’t expect them to be more than them being them. And it not exclusively romantic.
Sheesh i thought i had a quite simple definition.
Jerico Paler
March 8, 2022 at 2:17 pm
My life long questions were answered in one video. Wow!
Meghana Narayanan
March 8, 2022 at 2:18 pm
Stray Kids 2:45💀💀
Hala Ashmawy
March 8, 2022 at 2:32 pm
I want the link to the questionnaire she made
Savannah
March 8, 2022 at 5:04 pm
Why is skz really everywhere
Cwayita Silinga
March 8, 2022 at 8:39 pm
Where can I take this questionaire? I’m so curious
Franzie N
March 8, 2022 at 8:54 pm
This is really interesting and nice to watch, also I did not expect to find a Stay here
Heart of fishing
March 8, 2022 at 9:09 pm
❤
yayazaini
March 8, 2022 at 11:38 pm
the skz just took me off guard 😂
Severinsen
March 9, 2022 at 12:05 am
The only thing I have to stay skeptical about is her view on monogamy.
It has already been widely shown that humans aren’t monogamous by obligation, but for convenience.
You can indeed feel deep connections and attraction towards multiple people, if that’s for you.
I’m kinda over this false belief that you can’t and won’t feel any sort of attraction towards other people if you’re “truly in love”.
I find it a tad disingenuous to disregard the biological nature of humans in this way.
DestinNine
March 9, 2022 at 12:28 am
Aroace clicking to see if I’ll find some answers here
Poimen Deb Agnila
March 9, 2022 at 12:40 am
here for valed
Danielle Poteat
March 9, 2022 at 3:01 am
This gave me hope, but I don’t think it should’ve lol
𝓢𝓾𝓷 𝓚𝓲𝓼𝓼𝓮𝓼🦋🌙
March 9, 2022 at 12:58 pm
Love at first sight is attraction though,love takes time,attraction and love are 2 very different things,yes it is possible to get attracted to somebody fast but It shouldn’t be called love at first sight lol.
Emily K
March 9, 2022 at 2:10 pm
Imagine going on a date and asking her what she does and she tells you she’s a love expert
Ash 스테이티니 Webb
March 9, 2022 at 2:53 pm
I found this very interesting, but as soon as my mind heard SKZ, I was like Stray Kids? A fellow STAY? Then saw Chan’s name and was like yes 👏 kpop has taken over my mind lol
Freddie
March 9, 2022 at 3:14 pm
Why are some people polyamorous? Do you think it has to do with attachment avoidance or believing they are unworthy of true love attachment with one person?
Yikko
March 9, 2022 at 4:28 pm
I’m studying biological anthropology and I find this video really motivating to continue.
Brian Gullins
March 9, 2022 at 6:54 pm
I love this woman 😂😂
Onix Junes
March 9, 2022 at 7:40 pm
Men and women these days have available MORE reasons to say “no” since we have more access to other peoples lives Than before.
Admin®
March 9, 2022 at 7:56 pm
Helen Fisher-? Any germans here that get why its funny?
paula Guiu
March 9, 2022 at 9:21 pm
Then what about aromantic people or asexual people?
marzaronnii
March 9, 2022 at 9:37 pm
this video is so comforting
Squishy HanJisung
March 9, 2022 at 9:48 pm
2:55 stay 😭
riti
March 9, 2022 at 10:17 pm
Girl I love u
Lacunae
March 9, 2022 at 11:14 pm
Great video, very thought provoking! Just skimming the comments section and it feels good actually learning and reflecting through some of them, instead of getting pissed off as I usually do ❤
Jesus Is Lord
March 9, 2022 at 11:36 pm
The body positivity / fat activists would lose their collective minds watching this
na me
March 10, 2022 at 12:37 am
5:15
dixiii d
March 10, 2022 at 12:53 am
This was one of the most engaging, informative and interesting videos I’ve watched in a long time.
yami
March 10, 2022 at 4:01 am
skz everywhere all around the world fr
ruthlesslistener
March 10, 2022 at 5:58 am
Speaking as a biologist who’s also aromantic, I find this to be deeply fascinating. I’ve never felt romantic attraction or desire towards anybody, but I DO have one special person in my life who feels like a platonic soulmate/life partner, so I wonder if other aromantic people like me simply have a slightly less extreme wiring of the brain that encourages you to seek out people/one person you feel comfortable spending your life with, but isn’t so hardcore that it leads into romantic attraction. Ex, I would feel like half of me is killed if I lost my platonic partner, but I’ve never felt romantic inclinations towards them in the slightest. I DO think that she has a bias towards monogamy, given the fact that systems in biology NEVER follow clear-cut rules (and poly people exist, though they tend to be rare), pairbonding in birds is arguably more common and stronger than with people so we’re not the ‘loving animals’, and some of what she says about estrogen-linked qualities can be tied to social conditioning (reading body language/faces/etc is def. not linked to estrogen in my experience), but overall I feel like her knowledge and her explanations are solid. It just makes me curious about people like me who are the small percentage that don’t follow a set path- for example, is that due to lower general activity in that brain region, or is it an occasional genetic quirk that pops up to reduce competition in the breeding sphere? Or do we just jump to the attachment system, as I have a relationship in that attachment phase without the romantic precursor? Fascinating stuff.
Dean Mubaiwa
March 10, 2022 at 3:30 pm
I simply love this woman. Her responses are very informative & witty.
Tired_Toz
March 10, 2022 at 7:29 pm
Lmao as an ace/aro person this is so cool to watch
dude urfugly
March 10, 2022 at 9:45 pm
I love her already, I guess my love map instantly worked
Chandler Rogers
March 10, 2022 at 10:23 pm
Lmao she said find 9 people to get to know😂 I can’t get anyone to respond on tinder
Jorge Sánchez
March 10, 2022 at 10:38 pm
This needs part 2!!!!!
Maria jemenez Kleen
March 11, 2022 at 1:53 am
Women are incapable of love. Period.
maria ligaya
March 11, 2022 at 4:51 am
what do you call a stage in your life when you’re not in love hardly with anyone like your not attracted with anybody around you. Is it possible that there’s some point in a person’s life, a void space where a person just can’t feel any romantic love with anybody? I feel like I’m on that stage. 🤣
Cas k
March 11, 2022 at 5:13 am
I wonder what she say about aromantic ppl
timmyandjimmy
March 11, 2022 at 6:44 am
She’s great please bring her back sometime!!!
Oscjuli
March 11, 2022 at 9:28 am
This was amazingly interesting
Vandana Joshi
March 11, 2022 at 12:55 pm
This was so informative and fun! Loved hearing her answers
Margo B
March 11, 2022 at 1:34 pm
Now what about depression and love lol
Hirame
March 11, 2022 at 4:23 pm
12:28 I am pretty sure they meant jealous of their abilities, skills, wealth, societal status and what not. Not jealous of their interactions with others.
iOSiFMD
March 11, 2022 at 4:56 pm
The way she talks reminds me of Donald Trump
Zelda ASMR
March 11, 2022 at 9:27 pm
I’m studying for a biological anthropology degree right now!!! I want to be like her🥰
Evangeline Dare
March 11, 2022 at 10:06 pm
Please also tackle parasocial relationships, fangirling/fanboying and the sasaeng culture (crazy fans who stalk their idols ). These occurrences are somewhat like love addictions too, but few or no scientific studies have been done so far. Thanks!
Tommy Guillemette
March 11, 2022 at 10:51 pm
7:45 I’m gonna need a minutes/times per day rate for this please…
Bristi
March 11, 2022 at 11:17 pm
‘Our brain can’t deal after 5-9 options’ TRUE!! SKZ has 8 members and I have a gf too… My heart has 9 people and yes no more space left cuz they’re enough
Lucas Wintermote
March 11, 2022 at 11:55 pm
Ha! I don’t feel love 😋
Aubrée Swart
March 11, 2022 at 11:59 pm
My follow up question would be— is it possible to be obsessed with someone the way she described and not be romantically attracted to them
Aubrée Swart
March 12, 2022 at 12:05 am
I think of the three love systems, I pretty much only experience the attachment one
Aubrée Swart
March 12, 2022 at 12:07 am
This was really good, but I think she misunderstood the jealousy question. The example she provided sounds like someone being jealous of someone else reviewing their partner’s attention, not jealous of their partner themselves. I’d be interested to hear her response to that actual question.
Stuart Townsend
March 12, 2022 at 1:28 am
Just hearing that dating apps can’t kill romance is refreshing to know 😉
Eryne Marcelo
March 12, 2022 at 2:59 am
For high estrogen, do they like the opposite or the similar? It got cut
EDIT: I googled it. High testosterone is attracted to high estrogen types. High estrogen is attracted to high testosterone types.
Nabila
March 12, 2022 at 5:20 am
Interesting!
ale
March 12, 2022 at 7:53 am
Oh she’s wonderful
bewington
March 12, 2022 at 9:08 am
My favourite one to watch yet!! I hope she comes back for a part 2!
Ambre
March 12, 2022 at 1:39 pm
what about aromanticism ?
SecretlySane Sparrow
March 12, 2022 at 3:59 pm
I think she should do studies on people who are in polyamorous relationships. I think there would be a lot of interesting results.
Tiffany Hau
March 12, 2022 at 4:21 pm
She is awesome!
UntoldVibes
March 12, 2022 at 4:57 pm
For a person who thinks that they don’t believe in Love but has urges of attachment…. I just feel I’m normal, my brain’s normal and I’m not ready yet…. Thanks
ncity girl
March 12, 2022 at 6:38 pm
lol seeing the ‘skzismyuniverse’ i was like what is a stay doing here 😭
nc a805
March 12, 2022 at 6:47 pm
❤️
L watching vids
March 12, 2022 at 8:10 pm
This makes me wonder if I’m aromantic
Bence Kontar
March 12, 2022 at 8:21 pm
Thumbnail question at 6:56
nightcracker
March 12, 2022 at 10:23 pm
I don’t really agree with how she distinguishes platonic and romantic as an aromantic person. it’s not that simple and I can feel those things that she labeled as romantic attraction, because I love my friends and they’re the closest people to me in my life
humixmusic4lyf
March 13, 2022 at 1:20 am
7:00 – for thumbnail question