What do you do when you’re feeling stressed or anxious? Psychologist Andrew Miki explains how many of the coping mechanisms that help us feel better in the moment — like procrastinating, overusing our smartphones or endlessly scrolling social media — actually leave us feeling more depleted over time. He shows how you can break these habits in order to build up resilience and improve your self-confidence.
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August 19, 2024 at 7:04 am
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@Arie-q4s4s
August 19, 2024 at 7:08 am
If all YouTube videos were like this, I’d never turn off my computer💖
@Masada1911
August 19, 2024 at 7:19 am
No they aren’t dude lol
@IITislove-yg8xy
August 19, 2024 at 7:21 am
I dance and draw if I am depressed
@nneddenn6207
August 19, 2024 at 7:21 am
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@MrLoobu
August 19, 2024 at 7:29 am
Does it matter? Do you expect to live significantly longer than others? That’s a fools errand.
@Versiongurl
August 19, 2024 at 4:30 pm
It matters, yes. Anything to improve your quality of life while you’re still here.
@MrLoobu
August 19, 2024 at 5:40 pm
@@Versiongurl It doesn’t work like that, you can’t fix that any more than the duration. Just wasting time.
@basednuke7647
August 19, 2024 at 7:44 am
Tax the Rich
@svgilkog8181
August 19, 2024 at 2:01 pm
Why? Because they are smarter and work harder than you?
@theWinterWalker
August 19, 2024 at 7:53 am
Imagine blaming anxiety and depression on a cell phone. A cell phone is a tool.
This artificial reality based on ideology, manufactured scarcity, arbitrary rules based no where in logic causes anxiety and depression….
It’s no measure of wellness to be sane in an insane world.
@QyumarzCyrus
August 19, 2024 at 8:11 am
I am sure google’s ai bot will now know and distinguish between humans beings’ anxieties flacuations and how to cope with.
@techthis9568
August 19, 2024 at 9:04 am
What good are coping mechanisms when they are poisoning our food and water supplies and our soil. Then denying us healthcare to let us die for a profit. How can anyone possibly cope with this horrible evil that is being done to us. You have zero answers for this. I’m not waiting for you. Get behind me.
@Daochannel2024
August 19, 2024 at 9:18 am
❤
@samaniwethanage4605
August 19, 2024 at 10:02 am
❤
@davidspringer4019
August 19, 2024 at 11:43 am
Training his daughter by psychological manipulation and micromanaging is also called brainwashing. He seems pleasant, but who knows what games he’ll play just to see what happens? Will he try to use Pavlov’s classical training on me without my permission. That is what he did with his daughter. Freedom is being able to make mistakes and work through them. Not everything we think or cope by is wrong. This is his flaw. I am not a mistake that needs fixed, and neither is he, but to promote his AH-HA in a few psychological test on TED is well, wrong. The wrong part is making it look like a major scientific fact to fix people. Life is not lived by formulas. He makes it sound almost as if I have to evaluate every thought now, when I just want to live life while I still have the time. So, with all due respect, I disagree with his premise. I think I’ll go have a barbecue and a beer and be with my family.
@PorkyMinch
August 19, 2024 at 12:13 pm
Nearly all the comments are bots
@Rebel_AF
August 19, 2024 at 12:28 pm
Got this adjust the right time. Lovely lecture. ❤
@cindyhalpern3187
August 19, 2024 at 1:31 pm
But for people who are otherwise socially isolated, the Smartphone is their only outlet.
Poor people have little money to go out. And if relatives and friends live far away, we can only be there via Smartphone.
This research doesn’t include people who have nothing else.
@N0L1F3z
August 19, 2024 at 1:44 pm
I think its about our parasocial relationship with binge content. not the communication that smartphones give us
@reenamadian2878
August 19, 2024 at 2:02 pm
Gratification
@user-yj4hk4oq9m
August 19, 2024 at 2:37 pm
🚨 Beware of unhealthy coping mechanisms! 📲 Overusing smartphones, endless social media, and procrastination provide momentary relief but can lead to more stress, anxiety, and burnout over time.
✨ Building resilience and self-confidence requires:
• Identifying unhelpful coping habits
• Trying new strategies like talking to friends, breathing exercises, and challenging negative thoughts
• Being open about our “crazy patterns” to better understand ourselves
🧠 Like the pigeon that learned to count, our brains can form new connections and break unhealthy habits through practice. Self-awareness and seeking support are key to improving our mental health.
@The_Reaper86
August 19, 2024 at 2:54 pm
The thing I hate the most about these problems we – people – have is that we usually know hot to improve on them, but we feel we can’t.
@neen42
August 21, 2024 at 1:52 pm
Just because the answer is simple doesn’t mean doing it is easy. It’s often a boring and unrewarding process at first – it takes time to see results. Coping strategies are instantly rewarding – although we often feel bad soon after.
@ThatADHDKid
August 19, 2024 at 4:49 pm
Absolutely not
Precedes to watch video
@groznyentertainment
August 19, 2024 at 5:05 pm
Reality is, you text your friend asking where they are, they say ‘just parked,’ and an hour later, they still haven’t shown up.
@CuriosityIgnited
August 19, 2024 at 8:58 pm
Just found out my coping mechanism is scrolling through memes until 3 am, and now I’m wondering if pigeons are secretly judging me.
@MWELASEDUBANDLELA
August 20, 2024 at 4:56 am
They are 😂😂
@MWELASE5
August 20, 2024 at 4:56 am
They are 😂😂
@jswyka8
August 20, 2024 at 12:16 am
Hey I’m pretty sure this video might have been what I needed…thank you
@CrystalClearMiles
August 20, 2024 at 12:24 am
And now parent let their baby watch smartphone from like 3 yrs old lmao.
@cheng-me1my
August 20, 2024 at 3:14 am
I think that you are so goood
@sherifbadry-ct4ok
August 20, 2024 at 5:30 am
thank you ❤
@marki7661
August 20, 2024 at 5:35 am
Damn, Gillian’s looking great for his age!!! I’m a bit sad he seems to have lost his hat tho. 😢…not to mention the Skipper 😭…Poor little buddy
@marki7661
August 20, 2024 at 5:59 am
Also, he pretty much hit the nail on the head….early 90s grunge is certainly some of the best music ever. Alice in chains, Pearl Jam, Soundgarden, STP, Nirvana…Blind Melon, if they’re even considered grunge…😙🤘🏼✌🏼
Also, if that’s sign in the background is Surrey BC….😬🤢…JK?
@sambosco8341
August 20, 2024 at 4:16 pm
Dr. Miki hasn’t had a patient with depression/ anxiety with high self-confidence well he hasn’t met me…
@marcmorel1013
August 21, 2024 at 5:58 am
He did just quote Vaas ?!
@oguretsagressive
August 24, 2024 at 10:49 am
Yup. Word for word.
@ProteaAurea
August 21, 2024 at 12:09 pm
I understand not using your smartphone to distract yourself from real world problems, but not using your phone to check with your friend if you got the meeting place wrong and instead sitting with your anxiety while your friend is waiting somewhere else sounds like the insane thing to do. Also, correlation doesn’t mean causation. Just because they found correlation between anxiety and smartphone use doesn’t mean smartphones cause anxiety. It could very well be that happy mentally healthy people don’t require copying mechanisms because they’re not dealing with serious issues like depression or generalized anxiety disorder.
@James-ux6mk
August 21, 2024 at 9:59 pm
It’s a great lecture.
So I wonder how to do I download a script of this lecture.
@anniinthewoods8287
August 21, 2024 at 10:18 pm
Thank you for this helpful ted talk
@user-xc9zk3sd9w
August 22, 2024 at 4:16 am
Who can interpret 7:58 subtitles that start with ‘by talking~’.. ‘UNC’ Is it right? I’m learning english and I don’t know what that sentence is😢
@Hatsuzuki808
August 22, 2024 at 3:26 pm
No, thanks for asking. :p
@fishtofu3214
August 22, 2024 at 4:57 pm
I just realized that I have been coping hard all this time
@cho_coco
August 24, 2024 at 11:01 pm
I was so down these days but this lecture made my mind so clear🥲
thank you so