Over two decades of interviewing countless creative people, Debbie Millman (host of the iconic “Design Matters” podcast) had a realization: the pride and joy of accomplishing something often evaporates almost instantly. She explains how to stop chasing external validation for your achievements and instead live for the act of creation itself.

We all have a “thing” — the way we act when we’re not at our best that we somehow can’t see in ourselves. Leadership expert Chris Wheatley learned about his when his best friend at work called him on it. He shares how hearing that hard truth shattered a lifelong pattern of defensiveness, offering a practical framework for receiving feedback with tact. (Recorded at TEDxSpokane on January 31, 2026)

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